Kingsway Christian Church Wedding Information

As a congregation, Kingsway Christian Church has a very positive view of marriage. We believe that each wedding should not just be a ceremony, but a joyous worship experience that involves a definite request for God’s blessing on the marriage. We believe the scriptures teach that marriage is a special gift from God for our joy and His glory. Furthermore, we believe that God will receive glory and couples will experience the full joy God has planned only if they establish and build their marriage according to the principles and guidelines set forth in His Word. At Kingsway, we are not interested in just performing wedding ceremonies; however we are committed to facilitating strong marriages and families that honor Christ and thereby experience the joy, intimacy, love and happiness God desires for every home. This view of marriage is the reason for the policies that follow, and the reason why the pastoral staff wants to be personally involved with each couple desiring to be married at Kingsway. As a church, we are much more than a building in which a ceremony is held – we are a congregation of people committed to doing what pleases God. The following policies are designed to assist the prospective couple with positive help for a lasting marriage.

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HOW TO SCHEDULE A WEDDING

1. Read the contents of the Wedding Information Guide so you will be thoroughly acquainted with our wedding policies and fees. These policies set forth who will be married at Kingsway, who will not, and the basis for these decisions. 2. In order to schedule a wedding on the Kingsway church calendar, a Kingsway pastor must be secured and confirmed for the wedding. You must complete and sign the Reservation Request form and return it to the Office Manager with the full reservation/building usage fee. Because we are a large and active church, and because all of our staff have extremely heavy schedules, please understand that dates for weddings are limited. 3. Your wedding information will be given to the Kingsway Wedding Coordinator. The Coordinator will then contact you to begin discussions to make your wedding preparations a joyous experience. The use of the Kingsway Wedding Coordinator’s services is required.

POLICY GUIDELINES FOR MARRIAGES 1. A Christian is directed in Scripture to marry only another Christian. I Corinthians 7:39 – “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” I Corinthians 6:14-16 – “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Satan? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said, ‘I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.’” 2. Couples who are living together or currently involved in physical relationships must be willing to separate and abstain from sexual intimacy until marriage.

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Hebrews 13:4 – “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” I Thessalonians 4:3-8 – “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother (sister) and take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” 3. For those who have experienced divorce, we believe every possible attempt must first be made for reconciliation before remarriage should be considered. I Corinthians 7:10-11 – “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” 4. We do not marry a couple if either of them has been divorced within the last 12 months. It is our desire to see full spiritual, emotional and psychological healing following the tragedy of a broken marriage. We want to allow God the time necessary to work in the heart of one who has experienced the pain of divorce. 5. In cases where one or both parties have been divorced 12 months or longer, the pastor asked to perform the ceremony must decide, in light of the above Scriptures, whether or not to perform the marriage. 6. No pastor on the Kingsway staff will marry a couple if another pastor has refused to perform the ceremony. 7. The use of the Kingsway facility for weddings is reserved for members of the Kingsway congregation, the children thereof, or those who are actively attending in preparation for membership. Membership status must occur prior to the wedding. 8. A pastor from Kingsway Christian Church must participate in the wedding process. Other ordained/licensed pastors may participate also. 9. In the case of premarital pregnancy, the marriage may or may not be performed, depending, among other considerations, on the maturity of the persons involved. The final decision will be made by the pastor asked to perform the marriage after possible consultation with the parents of both parties (if applicable). 10. We will not marry a couple if either person is under the influence of alcohol or non-prescription drugs during the wedding and/or rehearsal.

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POLICIES GOVERNING YOUR WEDDING SCHEDULE AND CEREMONY 1. Pre-marital counseling is a must. Sessions should be scheduled with the pastor as soon as possible. Scheduling should be initiated a minimum of six months prior to the wedding. 2. Saturday Chapel weddings must be scheduled prior to 4:30 p.m. Any weddings with receptions held at Kingsway must be scheduled by 3 p.m. Due to Saturday evening worship service, Worship Center weddings must be scheduled a minimum of 3 months in advance. Saturday Worship Center weddings must take place early enough in the day that the Worship Center is totally vacated no later than 2 p.m. (Photography must be completed and decorations down.) Due to the schedule of Sunday services and activities, there will be no Sunday weddings scheduled in the church. Only one wedding and/or reception will be scheduled in any given part of the building on any given day. 3. No wedding will be scheduled on any church observed holiday. December weddings will be limited to the Chapel. 4. Use of rooms other than rooms reserved for your wedding must have prior approval and be scheduled on the church calendar. 5. No child-care rooms will be reserved for weddings, receptions and rehearsals; and child care is not provided. 6. Receptions will be scheduled in the Recreation Center. 7. Due to the church’s ministry schedule and multiple activities, rehearsals, weddings and receptions should adhere to their scheduled time allotment. 8. Because we view the wedding as a worship experience, we ask that the music be cleared in advance with the participating pastor. 9. The bride and groom are responsible for securing any musicians needed. The Kingsway Wedding Coordinator, in conjunction with the church’s worship department personnel, will determine the need for sound, lighting, and/or video technicians and will schedule the needed technicians. Only Kingsway personnel may perform sound/video/lighting duties. 10. For Saturday weddings, decorating may take place any time after 5 p.m. Friday.

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11. Worship Center weddings are subject to the following decorating guidelines: • No stage props from the church may be used. • Risers and musical instruments will remain on the platform; therefore, the stage curtain will be closed for all weddings. 12. Seasonal and/or thematic decorations in the Worship Center, Chapel and Recreation Center may not be moved. 13. Wedding furnishings such as candelabra, kneeling bench and aisle cloth (75 ft. is needed both in Worship Center and Chapel) must be provided by the wedding party. 14. Only cartridge or spring-loaded candles may be used in the candelabra on the platform. (A Unity Candle may be used on a table.) There are no candles allowed in the aisles or on the pews/chairs. 15. If flower petals are spread during the ceremony, an aisle cloth must be used to protect the carpet. 16. Photography will be limited to the use of available lighting. No flash pictures will be permitted during the ceremony. Photography/videotaping should be as inconspicuous as possible. Photographers will refrain from standing on and/or crossing over the chairs/pews. 17. Any live plants and/or flowers must have a water trap under them to prevent any water damage to the carpet, stage, pews, tables, etc. 18. Food and beverages are limited to the reception area. 19. Smoking is not permitted anywhere on church premises – inside or out. There will be NO consumption of alcohol or drugs on church premises. 20. Bubbles or balloons may be used outside the facility upon departure. Rice or birdseed is not allowed. 21. The bride must furnish all reception decorations. Leftover accessories, food, punch, cake and paper products must be taken. 22. Due to possible staining of the flooring, red, grape or orange Kool-aid or juices such as red Hawaiian Punch may not be used. 23. Confetti or glitter may not be used in the building. 24. Any changes in plans, times, dates, additional rooms or resources, rehearsal dinners, etc. must be approved by the church before they are final. 25. Arrangements must be made for the prompt return of borrowed or rented articles immediately following the wedding/reception. There is no storage space available for these items. Kingsway is not responsible for items left, and specific arrangements must be made with florists, etc., for pick-up. Items or equipment moved by the wedding party must be placed in their original position.

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26. Kingsway is not responsible for any loss or damage to items brought into the building for use at the wedding and/or reception. 27. The wedding party assumes TOTAL responsibility for damages to the buildings and/or the property. 28. Kingsway Christian Church does not accept any responsibility for missing or damaged personal items. Money, credit cards or other valuables should not be left in the dressing rooms during the wedding and/or reception.

FINANCIAL ARRANGEMENTS: Listed below are the fees charged in conjunction with weddings held at Kingsway Christian Church. Reservation/building usage fees must be paid at time of booking of wedding on the church calendar and are payable to the church. This fee is refundable in the event of cancellation of the wedding and/or reception. All other fees are to be paid 30 days prior to the wedding and given to the Kingsway Wedding Coordinator to distribute to involved parties.

BUILDING USAGE FEES: Worship Center Wedding Worship Center Wedding and Reception Chapel Wedding Chapel Wedding and Reception Rehearsal Dinner

$350.00 $500.00 $150.00 $225.00 $ 75.00

PERSONNEL FEES: Audio Technician

$75.00 for up to 4 hours $10/hr. for each additional hour

Lighting Technician – (Worship Center only)

$75.00 for up to 4 hours $10/hr for each additional hour

Video Technician – (Worship Center only)

$75.00 for up to 4 hours $10/hr for each additional hour

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Any video equipment changes must be made at least 30 days prior to the wedding. All computerbased video presentations must be submitted to KCC at least 10 days prior to the ceremony for virus protection scan.

Suggested honorariums to be given to individuals at rehearsal: Pastor Vocalist Musician

$150.00 $ 50.00 $ 50.00

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WEDDING RESERVATION REQUEST FORM Please complete and sign this form and return it to the Church Office with your $________ reservation/building usage fee to reserve your wedding date on the church calendar. The date will be reserved once the participating Kingsway pastor has been confirmed and the fee is paid (check to be payable to Kingsway Christian Church). The building usage fee is refundable in the event of cancellation of the scheduled wedding and/or reception.

Bride’s name__________________________________________ Phone # (home)_________________ E-mail_____________________________________________ (work) _________________ Bride’s address _____________________________________________________ Groom’s name _______________________________________ Phone # (home)__________________ E-mail ____________________________________________ (work)__________________ Groom’s address _____________________________________________________ Wedding date & time ____________________________________________ Rehearsal date & time __________________________________(90 minutes) Rehearsal dinner at Kingsway?

_________yes __________no

Reserve the Chapel (seats up to 250) ______ (or) Reserve the Worship Center ______ Reception at Kingsway? _______ yes (Please see the Wedding Policy Handbook for fee structure)

_______ no

Participating Pastor(s) ___________________________________________________ (You must contact a Kingsway pastor and confirm their willingness to participate and their availability for the above date.) • • •

I understand and accept Kingsway’s guidelines, policies and fees. I have secured a Kingsway pastor for the wedding. Check for the reservation/building usage fee is enclosed.

___________________________________________________________________________________ Bride's signature Date ____________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s signature Date ____________________________________________________________________________________ Participating Kingsway pastor’s signature Date

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Kingsway Christian Church Wedding Questionnaire A. Bride: 1. Full legal name First _____________________ Middle _______________ Last _____________________ 2. Current address Street ______________________________________________________________________ City __________________________________ State __________________Zip _________ 3. Phone - home ______________ work ______________ cell _______________ 4. Kingsway member? Yes _____________ No _____________ 5. Date and time of wedding ______________________________________________ 6. Birth date ________________________ Age at wedding ____________________ 7. Previously married? Yes_____ No____ If yes, how many times? ______ 8. If yes, terminated by: death of spouse _______

divorce __________

9. If divorce, when was divorce finalized? __________________________ 10. Any children and their ages ________________________________________

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B. Groom: 1. Full legal name First _____________________ Middle _______________ Last _____________________ 2. Current address Street ______________________________________________________________________ City __________________________________ State __________________Zip _________ 3. Phone - home ______________ work ______________ cell _______________ 4. Kingsway member? Yes _____________ No _____________ 5. Date and time of wedding _______________________________________________ 6. Birth date _________________________ Age at wedding ____________________ 7. Previously married? Yes_____ No____ If yes, how many times? ______ 8. If yes, terminated by: death of spouse _______

divorce __________

9. If divorce, when was divorce finalized? __________________________ 10. Any children and their ages __________________________________________

C. Both: 1. How long have you known each other? _________________________________ 2. How long have you dated? _______________________________________________ 3. How long have you been engaged? ________________________________________ 4. Have you lived together or are you currently living together? Yes ___________ No _____________ 5. Are you sexually active? Yes ____________ No __________

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6. What are your biggest fears, questions, uncertainties? ______________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________ 7. What hopes, expectations, needs, etc., do you have regarding the marriage counseling sessions? _____________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________ 8. Address after the wedding: Street ______________________________________________________________________ City ______________________________ State_____________________ Zip __________

Updated 11/07

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