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The Number One NLP Skill You Must Master

by Martin Messier

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Introduction Welcome to “The Number 1 NLP Skill You Must Develop!” The purpose of this training guide is to get you in the right spirit to master the amazing field of Neurolinguistic Programming. You see, the real secret to mastering the field is not to read, listen or watch NLP trainings. I can sum up mastery of NLP to a single word: practice. As you persist in your efforts, you will become part of an elite that has learned and mastered the models and skillset known as NLP and will reap the benefits associated with that mastery.

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“In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is.”

Yogi Berra

Unfortunately, only one out of ten people who learn about NLP actually go on to master the field. Instead of spending time practicing the fundamentals, they end up focusing on fancy techniques that in the end don't help them further their lives. In this training guide you'll read about the most critical skill you must develop to master NLP. Very few students actually spend the required time on it. I'll also include a series of exercises that you can practice in order to become proficient at that skill in short order. If you find this training guide helpful, feel free to pass it on to someone you know that may also find it beneficial. Martin Messier [email protected]

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Fast Phobia Cure, Belief Change, Persuasion, Influence… In my experience as a teacher of NLP, I have noticed a pattern. Most new students of Neurolinguistic Programming get incredibly excited about the change techniques that have made NLP famous, like: · the fast phobia cure, · change history pattern, · belief change, · new behavior generator, · many others. Some students of salesmanship also get excited about the possibilities to learn how to persuade and influence better. Page 4 of 13

What they forget about is the most crucial skill. Without this skill, it's virtually impossible to become proficient at any other skill in NLP. With it, you'll magnify the power and impact of everything else you learn tenfold.

And yet, it's the most overlooked skill of all. Page 5 of 13

Let me share something with you... Often, when my NLP students want to develop a new skillset, they immediately start searching for the "doing" part of the skillset. The words to say, the intonation to use, the posture to adopt... And it's only natural to do so. After all, the "doing" seems to be what produces the results. And it is, to a certain extent.

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But to give tonus to the "doing", they must start somewhere else. And that's where you need to start as well. This starting point will give you a thorough understanding of what you need to do and will increase the precision of your actions.

The number 1 skill of NLP The most important NLP skill is observation. Observation is part of the fundamentals that very few masters emphasize to their students. After all, when paying $3,000.00 to attend a week-long seminar, who has time to spend 5 days learning to observe? And yet, it would be the most valuable investment of your time. In the next few pages, we'll discuss specifically how to develop your sense of observation. Page 7 of 13

Definition: TO OBSERVE ob·serve - [uhb-zurv] –verb (used with object) 1. to see, watch, perceive, or notice: He observed the passersby in the street 2. to regard with attention, esp. so as to see or learn something: I want you to observe her reaction to the judge's question. 3. to watch, view, or note for a scientific, official, or other special purpose: to observe an eclipse. –verb (used without object) 1. to notice 2. to act as an observer [Origin: 1350–1400; ME observen < MF observer < L observāre to watch, regard, attend to, equiv. to ob- OB- + servāre to keep, save, pay heed to] Page 8 of 13

Think about it... Learning to observe.

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Seems obvious. No kidding. This transformed my life. Because I learned to observe, I began to notice patterns where I was blind sighted before. And you will as well. Both John Grinder and Richard Bandler, the cofounders of Neurolinguistic Programming, are keen observers. They created the original models of NLP by carefully and diligently stalking and tracking the patterns of behavior of outstanding communicators.

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The real question to ask yourself now is:

“What can I start to notice that I didn't notice before?" You don't need a PhD to become an outstanding observer. But you probably need to become an outstanding observer to get a PhD. I prepared a series of exercises to get you started on the road to becoming an astonishing observer. Don't worry about being perfect. Just focus on doing the exercises and maintaining your practice. They will flow into your email inbox over the next few days in the early morning. Each day, read the exercise and do it as you go about your day. Page 11 of 13

Conclusion Becoming an outstanding observer will pave the way for developing more complex skills as you move along, such as calibration and modeling. As I mentioned at the beginning of this training guide, no one would pay $3,000.00 on a seminar to just observe. The only such seminar I can think of would be a drawing seminar, since drawing is 90% observation and 10% technique. My final word of advice is to make sure you set aside uninterrupted time to practice. Just like any other skill, the only way to acquire it is to practice, practice, practice and practice some more.

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Caveat: don't stress out about this. Remember the need to relax. When you relax, you'll get out of your own way and allow your competence to find you. This might very well be the most important skill you will ever develop in your lifetime. Now, get ready! Over the next few days, you will receive the exercises so you can practice. Do them. See you in your inbox.

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