Peace on Earth…
…begins at home
Outer Peace starts with Inner Peace
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Outer Peace Starts with Inner Peace January is a time to slow our pace, calm down and develop our inner peace after the “busy”ness of the year-end holiday season. When we’re calmer we can “re-think” challenging situations, be more understanding and patient. Young children learn best how to handle stress and be calm and peaceful by watching us. And then they can share this with others. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Self-control/self-regulation” on parent website (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-selfcontrol.htm)
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Tips on “Being calm” (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) PEACE poster (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Fall08-PeacePoster.pdf) Back issues of our e-newsletter on coping with stress and ways to calm adults and kids o Issues #7, 15, 19, 25 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
Caring relationships are the heartbeat of peace
February 2017 Sunday
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Caring Relationships Support Inner & Outer Peace February is a good time to focus on building empathy, understanding, affection and caring relationships. Strong relationships help build our sense of safety, connection and self-worth. Children who receive understanding and affection feel loved, connected and worthy. And that helps them show understanding and caring.
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RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Caring relationships” page on parent website
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Tips on “Understanding feelings” (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/PARENTTIPSHEET-
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-caringrelationships.htm)
UnderstandingFeelings-OCT16-12-FINAL_000.pdf)
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Family Day (ON, AB, SK)
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Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Poster (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/Poster-UnderstandingFeelings-Oct15-12-FINAL_000.pdf) Back issues of our e-newsletter on understanding, empathy and caring relationships o Issues #8 & 13 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
Without change, there is no growth
March 2017 Sunday
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Believing Change is Possible Supports Peace & Cooperation The message for March is that people and circumstances can change. Furthermore, change can lead to opportunities. A “growth mindset” can increase our understanding and cooperation with individuals and groups. But if we see people’s traits as unchanging, we can make false assumptions which lead to misunderstanding and prejudice. Parents can help children see that people can change & that change can bring opportunities. They are more likely to accept change and people around them and become life-long learners.
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RIRO and other resources for you and the children in your life Back issues of our e-newsletter on change and acceptance of diversity o Issues #21 & 32 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)) Poster – “Through Change Comes Transformation”
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“How the Growth Mindset Can Increase Cooperation”
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(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Issue21-Poster-butterflies-cocoon.pdf) (http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_growth_mindset_can_increase_cooperation)
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is. –Alfred Einstein
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Looking for Positives & Strengths In April, nature springs into action in the northern hemisphere. So, it’s a good time to look for all of the positives around us – from life’s little pleasures to nature’s wonders, from good health to a roof over our heads. It’s also time to look at strengths in ourselves and those around us. Looking for strengths and positives increases our optimism and hope. Hope is an essential ingredient of world peace. When we show children how to look for strengths and positives around them, they are more likely to develop a positive outlook and reach out and share it with others. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Positive outlook” page on parent website
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Tips on building a “Positive outlook”
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-positiveoutlook.htm)
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/PARENTTIPSHEET-PositiveOutlook-OCT16-12-FINAL_000.pdf)
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Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Back issues of our e-newsletter on developing a positive outlook & happiness - #9, #24 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
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Developing Confidence Contributes to Peace Inside & Out An “I can do it” attitude helps build confidence in our ability to persevere and overcome challenges and solve problems. Confidence contributes to our sense of self-worth and place in the world. And, in turn, that confidence can buoy our courage, convictions and determination to reach out to others who need help. Parents can help children increase their perseverance and confidence through role-modeling, encouragement, descriptive feedback and support. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Confidence” page on parent website
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Tips on building “Perseverance”
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-confidence.htm )
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/PARENTTIPSHEET-KeepTrying-OCT16-12-FINAL_000.pdf)
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Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Back issues of our e-newsletter on developing perseverance, confidence and grit o Issues #11, #26 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
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Challenging Our Thinking is a Key to Inner and Outer Peace How we think about situations determines how we feel and what we do. The more flexible we can be in our thinking, the more we can stretch ourselves to come up with solutions to problems. It’s helpful to pause and take a step back so we can look at situations from a different perspective. Asking ourselves —“How else can I look at this?” can help. Parents help children develop flexible thinking by role-modeling their problem-solving out loud & gently challenging children’s thinking by asking “What are you saying to yourself inside your head?” •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Thinking Skills” page on parent website
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Tips on building “Flexible thinking”
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-thinkingskills.htm )
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/PARENTTIPSHEET-KeepTrying-OCT16-12-FINAL_000.pdf)
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Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Back issues of our e-newsletter on developing flexible thinking and reflection o Issues #14, #17 & #27 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
When you’re really upset or confused about your reaction…
…look for an ICEBERG belief
July 2017 Sunday
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Understanding Our “Shoulds & “Should nots” Promotes Harmony We all have beliefs outside our everyday awareness about the way the world should operate. In order to be accepting of diversity, we may need to explore our own hidden “iceberg” beliefs, especially our “shoulds” and “should nots”— “I should have…,” “He should have…,” “They shouldn’t have…” Most of our “iceberg” beliefs are about:
1. being accepted 2. achieving 3. being in control
Parents can help children learn to accept and respect others and their opinions by role modeling openness and celebration of diversity. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life RIRO Resiliency Guidebook Guide 7 (“Iceberg” Beliefs) & Guide 3 (B-C Connections) (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/Guidebook%20-%20Guide7.pdf) (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/Guidebook%20-%20Guide3.pdf)
Don’t cry! I forgive you.
I’m sorry!
August 2017 Sunday
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Dealing with Anger & Forgiving Others Promote Peace We tend to feel angry when we think that our rights have been violated or when we’re really frustrated. Techniques like taking three deep breaths and repeating until we’ve calmed down or talking long walks or regular mindful meditation can help us let go of anger. But sometimes resentment builds up and forgiveness is difficult, especially when we’ve really been hurt. Parents can help children learn to deal with anger by role modeling constructive ways to deal with it. Teaching children how to give and accept apologies helps them develop positive relationships. •
RIRO & other resources for you and the children in your life Take deep breaths to reduce anger and frustration in the moment – share this with kids
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Mindful meditation for children
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-skillsvideo.htm -- click on “Calming & Focusing) (www.todaysparent.com/blogs/tp-loves/just-breathe-a-beautiful-video-about-mindfulness/)
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The Greater Good Science Center has some excellent easy-to-read evidence-based articles to help adults and children with forgiveness (http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness)
PEACE outdo(v)es Hate
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Coping with Bullying & Confronting Hate It can be hard to know what to do when we or other people are being mistreated. Researchers say the key to action is educating ourselves first. Understanding how to overcome the “bystander effect,” rehearsing what to do in uncomfortable situations and ways to enlist help are all part of an effective and safe response. Parents can help children learn to deal with bullying and hate by role modeling constructive ways to deal with it. By listening, comforting and helping children, they learn to take positive action. •
RIRO & other resources for you and the children in your life “Eight Ways to Stand Up to Hate” (http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_ways_to_stand_up_to_hate)
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“Bully-proof your child”
(http://www.parents.com/kids/problems/bullying/bully-proof-your-child-how-to-deal-with-bullies/)
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“Helping Kids Overcome the Bystander Effect”
(http://greatergood.berkeley.edu?article/item/helping_kids_overcome_the_bystander_effect)
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Expressing Appreciation & Gratitude Builds Bridges Fall is an “awe”-some time to appreciate Mother Nature and all her glory and for being grateful for all we have. Thanking those around us for their help and pointing out their strengths makes others feel appreciated and valued. And that builds social connections and harmony. When adults role model appreciation & gratitude on a daily basis, children learn to feel valued for themselves and their contributions. And they learn to express appreciation & gratitude to others.
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RIRO resources for you and the children in your life Children’s booklist – “Gratitude”
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Poster – “Appreciation and Awe”
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“Alanna’s portable cheerer upper” – a 7-year-old’s little book of appreciation
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com//e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Issue12-Childrens-Books-Gratitude.pdf) (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com//e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Issue12-Poster-Butterfly-flower.pdf) (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com//e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Issue12-Resilience-in-Action.pdf)
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Back issues of our e-newsletter on appreciation, gratitude and awe o Issues #12 (appreciation) & #33 (awe) (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
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Encouraging Responsibility & Participation Helps Us Feel We Belong Taking responsibility helps us recognize that we can make a difference. Participating in our community nurtures our talent, helps us feel connected to others & helps our community grow stronger and safer. Strong, safe communities give us hope. And hope helps us live in peace. Giving young children responsibility for small things helps them feel like they can make a contribution. Children who see themselves as useful and helpful develop a belief in their own worth. Encouraging participation gives children a sense of purpose & helps them feel good about themselves. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life “Responsibility & Participation” page on parent website (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parents-responsibility.htm)
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Tips on building “Responsibility and Helping Out”
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/documents/PARENTTIPSHEET-Participation-HelpingOut-OCT16-12-FINAL.pdf)
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Tips in other languages (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/resources-parentprofessionals.htm) Back issues of our e-newsletter on taking responsibility and participating o Issues #4, #16 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
Kindness is Contagious… let’s Start an Epidemic!
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Showing Kindness is Contagious Acts of kindness and smiling are highly contagious. Research confirms they touch many more people than the intended recipient. And kindness and smiling not only help the receiver, they help the giver, too. Acts of kindness and giving help us find meaning in our everyday lives. And they help us feel like we belong to something larger than ourselves. It’s a win-win for all. When parents role model kindness and giving in everyday life, children learn to be kind and giving. Showing children that smiles can help you feel good and make others want to smile, too, helps build relationships. When parents involve children early on in giving to others, it’s a priceless gift. •
RIRO resources for you and the children in your life A father’s story about “giving” (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ben-teoh/a-reflection-on-giving_b_4296579.html#)
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A colorful poster about “kindness”
(http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief/documents/ResilienC-Issue23-KindnessRhymeIngarden.pdf)
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Back issues of our e-newsletter on kindness and reaching out o Issues #23, #27 (http://www.reachinginreachingout.com/e-newsbrief.htm)
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