Kol Beth Shalom The Bulletin of Temple Beth Shalom November 2015

TBS University . . . . . . . . . 3 Cantor’s Column . . . . . . . 4 B’Nai Mitzvah of the month . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Men’s Club News . . . . . . . 5 Sisterhood . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Spotlight Member Milestones . . . . . 9 Yahrzeit . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 New Dimensions . . . . . . . 11 Family Programming . . . 13 Preschool News . . . . . . . 14 PTA News . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Religious School . . . . . . 15 in Review Youth Group News . . . . . 17 TExT . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18 College Connection . . . . 18 This Month . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Donations . . . . . . . . . . . . 20

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Volume 84, No. 9

RABBI’S REFLECTIONS

Inside . . . President’s Perspective . . 2

19 Cheshvan - 18 Kislev 5776

by Rabbi Geoffrey A. Spector

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hanksgiving dinner is the meal that keeps on giving. Remnants of that grand repast usually take up space in the refrigerator for many days and serve as the material for multiple future snacks, lunches, and dinners. Late night gnawing on a turkey wing or drumstick is a common activity in many homes at the end of November. Our refrigerator is usually packed to the gills with aluminum tins containing everything from breast meat shavings to challah bread stuffing to cranberry mold. Oh what joy and sustenance leftovers can bring! There are other leftovers which sometimes bring an even greater blessing than that of a sated tummy. During the recent papal visit to America, Congressman Bob Brady of Pennsylvania made sure to gather such leftovers. When Pope Francis finished his address to the joint session of Congress, Congressman Brady quickly made his way through the throng of lawmakers to the lectern, which the Pope had used to deliver his speech. There was a half-drunken glass of water perched on the side of the reading desk, which the Congressman snatched into his possession and spirited away to his Congressional chamber. Once he was safely ensconced in his office, the Congressman took a sip of the water that he deemed to be holy because it had touched the Pope's lips. He offered a taste to all the members of his family and to the aides on his staff. For those who preferred not to drink, Congressman Brady offered a sprinkle of the water with his fingers so that they would not miss out on the blessing contained in this sacred fluid. While this notion of holy leftovers that have the power to convey blessing might seem strange to non-Catholics, we should be aware that similar ideas have crept into certain streams of our religion as well. In Chasidic circles, the figure of the Rebbe is revered in ways that are reminiscent of papal veneration. The Rebbe, by virtue of his extreme righteousness and piety, is considered to be a powerful intercessor between God and other human beings. The prayer of the Rebbe has greater efficacy than the prayer of an average person, and through his intense connection to God, the Rebbe is even able to bring about miraculous events in the world. This tenet of the extraordinary power of the Rebbe was one of the main points of division between the Chasidim and the Mitnagdim, those who opposed them. To this day, at celebratory dinners where the Rebbe is present, disciples vie for the uneaten food on the Rebbe's plate. These holy leftovers are known as shirayim, and are considered to bring great blessing upon those lucky enough to consume them. The American custom of freezing pieces of a wedding cake so that the bride and groom may eat them on their first anniversary is perhaps a modern secular spinoff of this notion of blessed leftovers. When the happy couple (if they aren't happy, they probably won't defrost the cake) shares the same dessert a year later, they are reliving all the joy and romance of their wedding day, and offering gratitude for the blessing of sweetness that the food symbolizes. The cake is invested with power and with meaning. But leftovers don't have to be edible or holy to confer blessing. Relics of those we love serve the same purpose in our lives. How many parents have secreted away a lock of their child's hair or one of their baby teeth that fell out years ago? How many of us hold on to jewelry or clothing that belonged to our parents so that we may continue to feel the blessing of their presence surround us long after they are gone? Drinking blessed water may seem odd to us, but in many other ways, as Jews and as human beings, we too affirm our need for the physicality of blessing in our lives, the need to be touched by an object that came in contact with the special people whose presence on this earth makes us eternally thankful.

PRESIDENT’S PERSPECTIVE

Geoffrey A. Spector, Rabbi Daniel I. Dorsch, Associate Rabbi Perry S. Fine, Cantor Sharon A. Knoller, Cantor Henry Butensky, Cantor Emeritus Matthew G. Halpern, Executive Director Leah Beker, Director of Education Randi F. Cohen, Preschool Director

In November, Thanksgiving is as topical as it gets for me. And since I have so much for which to always be thankful, this should be easy. I am surrounded by my husband and son and friends. I feel blessed to have them in my life. Thank you to Rabbi Spector, Rabbi Dorsch, Cantor Fine and Cantor Knoller who lead Temple Beth Shalom by word and deed and are here for our community in times of celebration and in times of desperate need. Your prayers and melodies heal our souls and spark a sense that the future is bright. Thank you to the parents that share and entrust us with your children to help shape their Jewish values and to our professional educators and assistants who make that possible. Thank you to the lay leadership of the synagogue. The value of the work that our Board and committee volunteers do is immeasurable, beyond any price tag, and without you, we cannot function. Thank you to the Temple office staff. The care you exhibit in working with so many personalities, situations, deadlines, and I can only guess what else (and me!), is extraordinary. TBS is so fortunate for the way you navigate the rough and calm tides of it all. Thank you to the custodial staff. You meticulously maintain the safety and appearance of our building. You assist us in so many ways so that we can keep Shabbat and perform our rituals. I want to thank those of you who have contributed or are planning to contribute to the Kol Nidre Appeal, the Graduated Dues Program, fundraisers, various funds that commemorate births, passings, and all the s'machot and life events in between. Temple Beth Shalom's Bedek Habayit (Enhancing Our House) campaign is underway. We are beginning to take our vision and make it into a reality. Temple Beth Shalom has employed the architectural services of Rotwein+ Blake Architects to design and carry out the plans for the Leff Sanctuary renovation and the replacement of the HVAC in the sanctuary, Lester Hall, and Founders' Hall. Many of you have been generous in the past with other major programs and projects at Temple Beth Shalom. We cannot succeed without your help, again. Some of you may be new to the community or have not been in the situation where you were able to contribute to a capital campaign, and perhaps now is a good time for you to be a part of this momentous renovation. Let's be thankful for the ability to do something where all our families benefit from “enhancing our house.” I thank the entire membership. Temple Beth Shalom needs all of you, all together. I need to rely on each and every one of you to envision and nurture all we can be as a synagogue and as a leader in the Jewish community. The ideas of giving, contributing, donating time, money, love, hope, and sensitivity, when set into deeds of

OFFICERS President . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Laura Greif Executive Vice President . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Anita Cohen Vice Presidents. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Mattye Gandel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Melvin Jacobs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Jay Jaffe . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Ira Sessler Treasurer. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Brian Fern Financial Secretary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Marshall Saunders Recording Secretary . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Sharon Fleishman KOL BETH SHALOM COMMITTEE Laura Siegel, Editor Paul Brownstein, Dee Cohen, Amy Ramer, Editing Committee Kol Beth Shalom is published monthly, except July and August, by Temple Beth Shalom, 193 E. Mt. Pleasant Avenue, Livingston, NJ 07039. The synagogue’s website is www.tbsnj.org.

tikun olam and tzedakah, embody both charitable giving AND an expression of who we are, and our desire to make a difference. As we gather with our dear ones in observance of this wonderful secular holiday, I can only be reminded that we all have Thanksgiving traditions. It is a day that most of us go back to the same houses, see the same people, and eat the same special seasonal food, because we love it. I think we come back to Temple Beth Shalom, our spiritual home and second family, because we also love it. And the Greifs' Thanksgiving tradition? We spend the holiday with life-long friends in Connecticut where we eat salmon! (Don't ask.) HAPPY GIVING THANKS Laura Greif President

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TBS University Upcoming Programs Our Adult Education Committee is hard at work to bring a varied and provocative series of programming to our congregation in the coming year. We have put together a full program of speakers and films which will stimulate your thinking about Israel and the Middle East, as well as Jewish music, art, culture, and many other topics. This Fall, our featured speaker is Dr. Daniel Kurtzer, former US Ambassador to both Israel and Egypt, whose address will be on Tuesday, November 17, at 7:30 pm. Ambassador Kurtzer will be addressing the very timely and provocative topic: “Coping with Middle East Complexity: The United States, Israel, Iran, and the Peace Process.” Please note that this program will be preceded by minyan at 7:00 pm and followed by our Patrons-Only Dessert Reception. See back page for details. On Sunday, November 15, at 9:45 am, Cantor Perry Fine will discuss the topic “Only in America: An Introduction to the American Jewish Musical Experience.” Join us as we explore the unique contribution of Jewish composers to the American musical scene. Who were these composers, how did they contribute to the uniqueness of the American “sound,” and how does their music, if at all, reflect their Judaism? Whether your interest lies in classical or popular music and your musical taste is for Berlin, Bernstein, or Gershwin, you will surely find the program interesting, informative, and enjoyable. In December, Rabbi Daniel Dorsch will provide a viewing of the new documentary about the Israeli Air Force “Above and Beyond,” and lead a discussion about this film. This program will be followed by other stimulating sessions that will include: January 10, 2016 (9:45 am): Gerard Amsellem: “Au Revoir Les Enfants” film presentation and discussion February 21, 2016 (9:45 am): Professor Alain Sanders, Political Science faculty member at Saint Peter's University “Presidential Politics and the American Jewish Community” March 13, 2016 (9:45 am): Rabbi Esther Reed, Associate Director of Hillel at Rutgers University: “Jewish Students on American College Campuses: Coping with/Countering the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions Movement” April 3, 2016 (7:30 pm): Rabbi Lawrence Troster, Rabbinic Scholar in Residence at GreenFaith, “Climate Change and Faith-Based Institution” April 10, 2016 (9:45 am): Rabbi Leana Moritt, Spiritual Leader of the Roosevelt Island Jewish Congregation: “Pleasures of the Flesh” May 22, 2016 (11:00 am Patron Brunch): Soprano ESTÉRE, International Concert Vocalist, performs a variety of popular and classical songs Please consider becoming a TBS University Patron by renewing or providing your support for the first time. Your support allows us to bring you interesting and varied programs, such as those being presented this year. The cost is only $75 per person which includes the Patrons-Only Dessert Reception after Ambassador Kurtzer's program and our annual Patrons' Spring Brunch with entertainment. Please use the tear-off below and send it in with your check as soon as possible to allow us to continue to dream big for this year's programming. We look forward to your thoughts and to your support. Sincerely, Diane Gotlieb, Co-Chair ([email protected]) Peter Gotlieb, Co-Chair ([email protected]) The TBS Adult Education Committee I/we would like to support Adult Education at Temple Beth Shalom by becoming a TBS University Patron at $75 per person. Please detach and mail to: Adult Education, Temple Beth Shalom • 193 E. Mt. Pleasant Ave., Livingston, NJ 07039 Name(s):

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CANTOR’S COLUMN

B'NAI MITZVAH OF THE MONTH

Impressive indeed! How to explain NOVEMBER the remarkable contribution of Jewish musicians of all stripes (composers, arrangers, instrumentalists, singers, conductors) to the American musical scene over the past century! You will recognize a sampling of these musical icons: George Gershwin, Irving Berlin, Leonard Bernstein, Barbra Streisand, Stephen November 7 November 7 Sondheim, Molly Picon, Billy Joel, and Priela Safran Rachel Meller others, perhaps less familiar, such as Dave Brubeck, Michael Tilson Thomas, Lazar Weiner, Samuel Adler, and Kurt Weill. These and other creative Jewish artists span both the classical and popular music worlds, with some accomplished in both (Bernstein and Gershwin come to mind). Their work is an extraordinary musical and cultural contribution to music in America that belies the small number of Jews as a percentage of the total U.S. population. In fact, in the world of Broadway November 14 November 21 November 21 and musical theater, one is hard pressed to name more than a Adam Cohen Alexandra Mintz Alyssa Cooper handful of non-Jewish composers. The accomplishments of Jewish composers is that pervasive. The wave of immigration from Eastern Europe between 1881 and 1924 opened a floodgate of possibilities for Jewish composers and musicians. Many Jews, open to the musical possibilities in a new land, threw away their “proverbial” tefillin (some actually did!), and embraced the newness and excitement that the American musical scene afforded. Many embraced their Jewishness, and integrated and refashioned that Jewish identity November 21 November 28 into a musical language all their own. Jeremy Steinman Jacob Mendelson On Sunday, November 15, at 9:45 am, we will begin a discussion of Jewish music in America in a lecture entitled "Only in America: An Introduction to the American Jewish Musical Experience." What were the major forces that shaped the Jewish American musical scene? What is the scope of this Jewish musiPriela Safran, daughter of Yael and Steven Safran cal contribution and how does this music reflect (or not reflect) the Jewish identity of its creators? We will listen to selected Rachel Meller, daughter of Abbey and Edward Meller examples in different musical styles and genres, and analyze its Adam Cohen, son of Stefanie and Zachary Cohen content, both Jewish and not, and its place in American musical culture. Alexandra Mintz, daughter of Andrea The other musical “happening” this month will take place in and Andrew Mintz a church, the Presbyterian Church of Livingston, on Sunday, November 22, at 5:00 pm, at the annual Livingston Interfaith Alyssa Cooper, daughter of Karen Thanksgiving Service. Three years ago, for this township's 200th and Michael Cooper; anniversary, we assembled, for the first time, an interfaith choir granddaughter of Karen and Stuart Cooper of adults and children that helped celebrate, through music, the uniqueness and diversity of this community, its history, and Jeremy Steinman, son of LauraSue identity. That interfaith choral ensemble is now part of Voices in and Marc Steinman Harmony of Essex County. Last year, more than 70 singers Jacob Mendelson, son of Debi and Bryan Mendelson assembled at St. Philomena's Catholic Church to celebrate, through song, the blessings of thanks which we share with all faiths in this uniquely American holiday. In a divisive world, music and its powerful unifying message can be an agent to help bring us together. At this year's service, members of the community will offer personal messages of thanks and blessings to be joined by representatives of the Livingston Interfaith Clergy Association and, proudly, joined by Voices in Harmony! We hope you to see you at both events on November 15 and November 22! Wishing you all a peaceful and joyous Thanksgiving!

Mazal Tov to our November B'nai Mitzvah Children and their families:

With blessings, Perry Fine Cantor

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Sukkot Bima display

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he Leff Sanctuary bima was once again beautifully decorated for Sukkot. Susan and Howard Mandelbaum lovingly arranged the pumpkins, gourds, squash, and colorful floral arrangements, made possible through donations to the Etta and Saul Ganz Memorial Fund.

MEN’S CLUB NEWS Mark Konstandt, President

[email protected]

Cell: 973-452-4050

September and October were busy months for the TBS Men's Club! On the heels of a very successful Welcome Back From Summer BBQ, your Men's Club raised the congregational sukkah. A special thanks to Ray Siegel for once again leading us through a successful raising. During the rainy Sukkot holiday, we retreated inside for our annual Scotch in the Sukkah event, which was well attended and the usual good time with good food, good scotch, and good friends.

Men's Club Man of the Year

The next few months will feature a number of fun and exciting Approximately 40 members of Men's Club worked together to assemble events for the entire congregation to and raise the congregational sukkah. enjoy, highlighted by the annual Northern New Jersey Region Man of the Year Dinner, where we will be honoring our immediate past President, Jeffrey Greif. It's not too late to join us on Wednesday, November 4, at 6:00 pm, at Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael in Springfield. For questions, please contact me at [email protected] or Paul Brownstein at (973) 632-8620 or [email protected].

Men's Club Comedy Night

SAVE THE DATE: Saturday, January 9, at 8:00 pm. We know it's kinda early, but be sure to mark your calendars to come and see three hilarious comics entertain us at TBS during our cabaret-style Men's Club Comedy Night. BYOB and remember that there is no charge for the cheese balls!

Men's Club Membership

I want you . . . to join Men's Club! Dedicated to involving Jewish men in Jewish life through social, educational, religious, business networking, and civic activities, we have one of the most active Men's Clubs in the country. Did you know that you can join TBS Men's Club online? It's easy! Just go to our website at www.tbsmensclub.org. Any questions or comments regarding membership? Please feel free to contact Mark Konstandt ([email protected]) or Ron Israel ([email protected]).

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SISTERHOOD SPOTLIGHT

Susan Varman - President Thank you to Roberta Misthal, Rebecca Konstandt, Jodi Prupis, and Rebecca Zarabi for cutting and distributing apples and honey for our Religious School children. Our Sukkah Luncheon this year was both entertaining and delicious! Thank you to Amy Cohen; Jordyn, Leah, and Adele Flager; Ronni and Haley Harte; Carolyn and Adam Johnston; Cheryl and Bailey Sessler; and Jennifer, Corey, and Amanda Sklar, for organizing and running the event. Thank you to Jodi Prupis for organizing the sukkah decorations. Thank you to Amy Cohen, Carolyn and Adam Johnston, Cheryl and Bailey Sessler, Jordyn, Leah, and Adele Flager, Jennifer, Corey, and Amanda Sklar and Ronni and Haley Harte for coming out to decorate! Thank you to all who came and joined Sisterhood for the luncheon. If you haven't yet sent in your membership form, PLEASE JOIN SISTERHOOD! You can now renew your membership online on our new Sisterhood website (www.regtogo.com/tbs), or bring your form and membership dues to our PaidUp Membership Dinner on November 18. We look forward to meeting all of our members and welcoming you into our Sisterhood family.

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Among those who decorated the sukkah were (back row) Haley Harte, Cheryl Sessler, Bailey Sessler, Jennifer Sklar, Jodi Prupis, Ronni Harte; (front row) Corey Sklar, Leah Flager, Amanda Sklar, Adele Flager, and Jordyn Flager.

PAID-UP MEMBERSHIP DINNER

On Wednesday, November 18, at 6:30 pm, at TBS, Sisterhood will welcome its paid-up members at our Paid-Up Membership Dinner. Our guest speaker will be Aviva Barnett, the founder of MindWorks, an organization committed to fostering healthy psychological, emotional, and spiritual well-being for Jewish women. Her passion is sharing a Torah-authentic understanding of Innate Health and the 3 Principles, which explains how humans function psychologically. A complimentary dinner will be provided for all paid-up members. Come join us for this fun and informative evening.

BOOK CLUB

Sisterhood's Book Club continues to be active and will meet again on Tuesday, November 17, at 11:15 am, at TBS, right after the Rabbi's Study Group. The book to be discussed is The Marrying of Chani Kaufman, by Eve Harris. The book is available at the Livingston Library.

SISTERHOOD STUDY GROUP

Brains or Brawn? Leadership Styles in the Book of Judges: All TBS members are welcome to join us this fall for the return of the fabulous Sisterhood Study Group, led by Rabbi Spector. Join us at 9:30 am for a light breakfast followed by the study group from 10:00 to 11:00 am. The group will continue to meet on Tuesdays during the month of November, with the exception of November 24. Please contact Esther Zirkes ([email protected] or 973-994-1996) or Emilie Schwartz ([email protected] or 973-992-6308) for more information.

VODKAS AND LATKES

Sisterhood will hold its second annual Vodkas and Latkes event on Thursday, December 3, at 7:00 pm, at TBS. Join us for a fun-filled evening of eating and schmoozing as we celebrate Hanukkah together! continued 7

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SUPPORT THE TORAH FUND

Support Torah Fund. The theme for this year's Torah Fund Campaign is Nat'ah Karem, a phrase from the Book of Proverbs. This prayer honors the productivity, independence, and creativity, of the hard-working, generous, family-oriented woman “who plants a vineyard by her own labors.” Your Torah Fund contribution ensures our legacy to future generations of Conservative Jews by providing Rabbis, Cantors, educators and administrators, social workers, scholars, lay leaders, and researchers. For more information, please contact our Sisterhood Torah Fund Chairs Dee Cohen (973-428-3953 or [email protected]) or Marcia Brenner (973535-0804 or [email protected]).

CANDLE SALE

Sisterhood is selling beautiful Hanukkah, Shabbat, Havdalah, and taper candles from Israel! All sales benefit the Ami Cohen Scholarship Fund to assist our children (entering the 5th grade through the summer following senior year in college) who are currently continuing with Hebrew education and affiliated summer programs. Buy candles as gifts (such as hostess gifts), or use them yourself, then restock and BUY MORE! Please complete the order form and mail it in or drop the completed form in the Sisterhood mailbox in the TBS office. Please complete order forms for Hanukkah candles by November 14 to ensure timely delivery. Order forms are available at the Sisterhood Gift Shop and online at www.tbsnj.org under “Sisterhood Fliers. ”Please make your check payable to “Sisterhood Temple Beth Shalom” and clearly label the envelope for SISTERHOOD CANDLE SALE, Attn: Susan Varman. For more information, contact Susan ([email protected] or 917-678-0318).

TRIBUTE CARDS

Earn face value donor credit! We have cards for various occasions including Mazal Tov, Get Well, and Sympathy. The cost is $3 per card or 6 cards for $15. Tribute cards may be purchased from or sent out for you by Jan Hauptman (973-535-3448 or [email protected]) or Judy Sackstein (973-992-1691 or [email protected]).

KITCHEN CREW

GIFT SHOP

We have beautiful items for all occasions at amazing prices! Come take a look, you will be very impressed! The Gift Shop will be open during the following hours in November: SUNDAY Nov 1 . . . .10:00-11:00 am Nov. 8 . . .10:00-11:00 am Nov. 15 . .10:00- 11:00 am MONDAY Nov. 2

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Nov. 9

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Nov. 16

. . . 3:45-4:30 pm

Nov. 23

. . . .3:45-4:30 pm

Nov. 30 . . . . 3:45-4:30 pm TUESDAY Nov. 3 . . . . . 7:30-8:00 pm Nov. 10 . . . . 3:45-4:30 pm FRIDAY Nov. 13 . . . . . . 9:00 -10:00 am Nov. 20 . . . . . . 9:00 -10:00 am

The Chesed Committee offers the following volunteer services to our TBS congregants: • a friendly phone call to check in • a ride to a doctor's office or to Temple services • a visit to nursing homes

Did you know that on Friday mornings Sisterhood's Kitchen Crew meets to prepare the Kiddush for Shabbat at TBS? Did you know that Sisterhood is expanding their menu and would welcome your fresh ideas? This is a terrific opportunity to meet and kibbitz with friends, and help Sisterhood and TBS at the same time! Volunteers on Kitchen Crew typically work for 90 minutes and less than one Friday a month, but you are certainly welcome as often as you can attend. Contact Anita Cohen ([email protected] or 973-994-2178) for more information.

UPCOMING EVENTS

Mark your calendars for Sisterhood Shabbat on Saturday, January 16. 8

• reading to one of our congregants

We will be happy to accommodate your byappointment shopping requests to help you with all your holiday and special occasion shopping needs! Contact Michelle Cohen (973-597-9212 or [email protected]), or Rhona Burak (973-5358403 or shopperrho@ aol.com) to schedule your shopping by appointment. We are also looking for volunteers to work in our fabulous gift shop so that we can expand our hours. On-the-job training will be provided! Volunteers who work 6 or more shifts in a year will earn a $25 gift card to be used at the gift shop.

THE CHESED COMMITEE

• picking up or dropping off a prescription • shopping for a short grocery list If you are thinking about joining the Chesed Committee, to help spread a little "kindness" to our congregants, please contact Caryn Mittleman at [email protected] or 973-535-9716. You can join and volunteer as much or as little time as you can share. All you need is a kind heart and a caring hand.

SAVE THE for

We welcome the following new member families

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Temple Beth Shalom's 2016 Annual Gala

Eva and David Fuhrman Hayley Stern

We are thrilled to be honoring

Anita & Marc Cohen

THE CONGREGATION THANKS . . . The following families for enhancing the Congregational Kiddush:

Additionally,

GINA and KENNY MANDELBAUM in honor of the aufruf of Ilana Mandelbaum and Keith Sterling.

Ilyse & Ian Shainbrown will receive our Young Family Tribute.

JUDY and NATHAN WAGNER in honor of the bar mitzvah of their son Marc.

Sunday, March 6, 2016 The Westminster Hotel MEMBER MILESTONES TERRY and SCOTT ARONS announce the engagement of their son Michael to Jamie Reisman. BARBARA and ALAN KASS announce the birth of their granddaughter, Zoe Clara, born to Barri and Jonathan Luttwak. LESLIE and HERB KATZ announce the birth of their granddaughter, Ava Madison, born to Ashley and Brandon Katz. SHARIN KORNSTEIN announces the birth of her grandson, Ari Chase, born to Lauren Volper and Michael Kornstein. RISA and SETH LEVINE announce the marriage of their daughter, Vanessa, to Jason Weissler. CYNTHIA SCHWARTZ and PHIL LITWINOFF announce the marriage of their daughter, Evelyn, to Hanoch Sheps. JUDY and MARK TABAK announce the birth of twin grandchildren, Mackenzie Reese and Tyler Blake, born to Lindsay and Mike Levin.

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KOL NIDREI APPEAL Temple Beth Shalom is a 365-day-a-year congregation. More than just a house of prayer, it is a house of learning and a home for all. Temple Beth Shalom is the vibrant and active community we love and value because you are a part of it. Thank you for your support. Thank you for allowing us, the clergy and the lay leadership, the wherewithal to provide this congregation with exceptional programming. For without your support, both financial and voluntary, none of this would be possible. We hope to again be able to provide you with the kinds of programming you have come to expect each year from Temple Beth Shalom and its arms and affiliates. However, we can only provide the programming with your financial support, and the vehicle for that support is the Kol Nidrei Appeal. Your Kol Nidrei Appeal contribution card was recently sent to you in the mail. Please return it at your first opportunity, using the pre-addressed envelope provided with your contribution card. Thank you in advance for your generosity and continued support. Every donation to the Kol Nidrei Appeal counts, every donation is significant! There is no such thing as too small a donation. Help us by returning your cards now. We will publish a list of Kol Nidrei donors in the December Kol Beth Shalom.

Did You Know?

...that you can provide financial support to TBS, helping to preserve and strengthen our synagogue, even after death? Naming TBS in your will or as a beneficiary on a life insurance policy is a great way to help shape the future for your children and grandchildren's generation and establish a legacy. Want to know more? Contact the Temple office and ask for Yale Hauptman.

New Dimensions New Dimensions is going to Princeton on Thursday, November 5. At 10:00 am, we will have a docent-led tour at the Princeton Art Museum of a special exhibit of masterMorven, the former New Jersey's pieces of European art Governor's mansion, was built from the Pearlman collecin the 1770s. tion, including works by Degas, Manet, Van Gogh, Modigliani, and Cezanne. We will then have several hours at leisure to either spend additional time at the museum or stroll through town and have lunch. At 2:00 pm, we will have a tour of Morven, the former New Jersey Governor's mansion, which has been restored as a museum. The cost for the bus and two tours is $40 per person.

In October, New Dimensions visited the home of Washington Irving in Tarrytown, N.Y. Pictured here is the Sunnyside Ice House, designed to resemble a Gothic chapel.

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TBS 7th Annual Golf Outing

Two beggars are sitting next to each other on a street in Rome, across from the Vatican. One is wearing a large Cross; the other a Star of David. Many people go by, look at the two beggars, but they only put money into the hat of the beggar wearing the Cross. Pope Francis comes by. He stops to watch and sees many people giving money to the beggar wearing the Cross, while not one person gives to the beggar wearing the Star of David. Finally, the Pope approaches the beggar with the Star of David and says, "My poor fellow, don't you understand? This is a Catholic country. You're sitting near the seat of the Catholic Church. People aren't going to give you money if you sit there wearing a Star of David, especially when you're sitting next to a beggar who is wearing a Cross." The beggar with the Star of David listened to the Pope, smiled, turned to the beggar wearing the Cross and said, "Murray, look who's trying to teach the Goldberg brothers about marketing!"

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More than 40 golfers enjoyed a spectacular day at Cedar Hill Country Club in Livingston on October 7. While the original date was a wash out, we were rewarded with a picture-perfect outing. Tremendous appreciation goes out to the co-chairs Bruce Bagdan, Anita Cohen, Brian Fern, and Andy Muser, and to the committee: Eve Banilower, Michael Baskies, Sam Gershwin, Jeff Harrison, Stephen Kepniss, Dean Konner, Kenneth Mandelbaum and Michael Silverman. Thank you to Dean Konner and Konner Chevrolet for sponsoring the car for the hole-in-one contest, to Michael Silverman and Gloron Agency for sponsoring the Million Dollar Shootout and other hole-in-one contests, and to Signmasters and the Musers for printing our brochures. The volunteers at registration and throughout the day made the event run smoothly. Thank you to Eve Banilower, Meryl Goodman, Matthew Halpern, Nate Himelstein, Batsheva Hodes, Gerry Kuschuk, Anne Leeds, Saul Leff, Caryn Mittleman, Margie Wolfe, and Mel Zirkes. Our delicious brunch was sponsored by Laura and Jeffrey Greif. The festive cocktail hour was sponsored by Michelle and Marshall Freidus. Our cart sponsors were Amy and Marty Pollack and our awards sponsor was Rotwein+Blake Architects. The Putting Green sponsor was Preferred Business Systems. The Driving Range sponsors were Sharon and Stephen Kepniss. Jan Press Photographers and Sams Fine Mens Clothing provided the generous grand prizes. Thank you to Regal Bank for our shoe bags to our golfers. As you can see, this Golf Outing is a collaborative effort. Thank you to all and see you next year!

Howard Muser, Nick Anthony and Sam Gershwin were among the many golfers who enjoyed a glorious day at the TBS Golf Outing.

WE ARE FAMILY addition to cider and October was a busy month for Family fresh donuts, families Programming! On October 2, we held our first event, loved the hayrides and, Shabbat Under the Stars. Although we weren't able of course, picking apples! It was a great afternoon to hold our event outdoors due to some uncooperawith family and friends. Thanks to Michael Zarabi tive weather, approximately 200 people came out to from the Men's Club for helping to organize this celebrate Sukkot and Shabbat. After arriving, the chilevent for a second year. dren learned about lulavim and If you didn't get a chance to etrogim and were able to make join us last month, please sign their own edible ones. We then up for our next Family Friday had a beautiful family-friendly night Shabbat dinner and servShabbat service in the Leff ice on November 13. Please Sanctuary followed by a delivisit www.tbsnj.org to RSVP. cious meat dinner topped off We are also looking for sponwith make-your-own edible sors for our Shabbat dinners. If sukkahs! you are interested in sponsorA tremendous thank you to ing a dinner, please contact the clergy and staff for helping Cirla Yaari at csyaari@ to make this Shabbat and Sukkot gmail.com. so memorable and warm. I As always, if you are interwould also like to thank the ested in serving on the comFamily Programming Committee mittee or have suggestions for Rabbi Dorsch showed the kids the lulav and etrog for all of their assistance in planwhile they made edible lulavim at our first future programming events, ning the evening. It would not Family Programming event of the new year. please reach out to me at have been a success without [email protected] or 973-444-3960. them! The following week, we held an apple picking Erin Sternthal event at Sun High Orchards in Randolph in conjuncFamily Programming Committee Chair tion with the Men’s Club Young Men’s Initiative. In

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PTA NEWS

PRESCHOOL NEWS

What does it mean to truly listen to children? First of all, it means forgoing your own, adult agenda. So often we interpret what children say through an adult lens of what something means for us. Other times, we are so busy talking at children and telling them what to do that we do not slow down and actually listen to the words they are saying. A great example Debbie Berwald and Ilene Skara's 3s from this past month students learn in the sanctuary with was when the chilMorah Limor Guttman. dren visited the fruit, flower, and vegetable display for Sukkot in the sanctuary. One child exclaimed, “It's the farm!” In that child's sphere of reference, the child related the sanctuary display with its pumpkins, gourds, and mums to a recent visit to a farm. Having a glimpse into that child's understanding helped us frame our conversations of the holiday around developmentally appropriate topics like farm life, the harvest of our food, and the place God has for us in both. These kinds of conversations happen daily at Temple Beth Shalom preschool. “What is one?” as we count during calendar time. “I have money today” (a reference to tzedakah, we think) as they did comparisons during a weather discussion. Our staff is working hard to approach this school year along with our children with a sense of wonder and, as researchers, asking lots of questions, investigating answers, and exploring topics through art and play. This is not an easy task but one that we take seriously and work towards gaining mutual respect between the children and the adults. We look forward to our Stuff the Bus event on Tuesday, November Ryan Traub and Sydney Littman create 10; Moms' Night Out on Simchat Torah pictures using glue and Thursday, November 12, cut-out pictures of Torahs and and all of our ThanksStars of David. giving preparations, learning, and feasts at the end of the month. As we share together around the table, we will be sure to take special note of the conversations, asking questions of the children and listening hard to their answers to help us learn what they are understanding. We wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving, filled with great conversations and lots of listening.

The Preschool, Primary School, and Religious School are all back and in full swing! We are so excited for a full year of great programming! I would like to thank our Religious School class moms in advance for all their upcoming efforts to improve the line of communication between the Religious School teachers and parents: Allyson Steinberg, Kindergarten; Ilene Kates, 1st grade; Yael Blinkoff, 2nd grade; Stacey Rubinstein, Aleph; Beth Harman, Bet; Stephanie Meininger, Gimmel; Alyssa Fleisher, Daled; and Gwen Samuels, Hey. PTA membership forms have been sent out. Please support our Religious School and Preschool by joining the PTA. Your dues help us run our fabulous programs throughout the year. We would like to thank 4s Pizza Chairs: Lauren Goldstein, Jodi Prupis, and Gabrielle Steiner; 4s Bagel Chairs: Lisa Brodsky, Heather Howard, and Hayley Prochazka; 3s Pizza Chairs: Cassi Horowitz, Jocelyn Klar, and Stefanie Littman; 3s Bagel Chairs: Jayne Bixon, Julie Kaplan, Abby Levinson; and Challah Chairs: Jamie Muser and Alyson Rosenberg. They work very hard to organize deliveries every week for your children. The PTA has been organizing the Junior Congregation kiddushim for our Religious School students, and coordinating dinner for the Hey students each Wednesday evening. Thank you to our Moms' Night Out Committee, Cheryl Brodsky, Jennifer Rosenthal, and Risa Baskies, for planning our upcoming evening at the Richfield Regency in Verona on Thursday, November 12. All TBS moms are welcome. Please join us for what will be a fabulous evening with an all-new FASHION SHOW, delicious food, drinks, raffles, and vendors. Please see the flyer on page 12 to sign up for this fun night out. If you haven't already, please consider joining our PTA. Your support benefits your children through our programming and special events, such as the Purim Carnival, Passover Seders, Hey class dinners, and Junior Congregation kiddushim, just to name a few. We welcome anyone who would like to volunteer on our PTA committees. Please contact me at [email protected] if you are interested. Rebecca Zarabi PTA President

Do you live within walking distance of Temple Beth Shalom? Occasionally, we have a Bar or Bat Mitzvah family with an invited guest who does not drive to synagogue on Shabbat. If you are within walking distance to Temple Beth Shalom, keep a kosher home, and would consider being on a list to host such person(s) who need Shabbat accommodations, please notify the Temple Office at 973-9923600 or [email protected]. Todah Rabah!

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RELIGIOUS SCHOOL IN REVIEW SCHOOL CALENDAR Wednesday, November 4 . . . . . . . . . . . .Professional Development Day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .No Classes Thursday 5 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .NJEA Convention thru Sunday 8 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Public Schools Closed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .No Classes Monday 9 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Classes Resume Wednesday 11 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Hey Tefillin Workshop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Regular Classes Wednesday 25 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .Thanksgiving Weekend . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .No Classes thru Sunday 29 Monday 30

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FAMILY PARTICIPATION IN RELIGIOUS SCHOOL SHABBAT MORNING SERVICES Every Shabbat, the School's Service is conducted and led by students of an assigned class. All parents are invited to participate with us on that Shabbat. This Rabbi Dan Dorsch and the program gives an opportunity Kindergarten Class learning for parents to become part of about the sanctuary. their children's educational and religious experience. We strongly urge you to attend when it is your turn and participate as a family in our Shabbat Morning Service. We believe that “families who pray together stay together.” Please come and join us! Religious School students learned about

Contact our Director of Education, Leah Beker, 973-992457l, or the camp office directly at 212-749-0754. Visit www.ramahberkshires.org. The early registration deadline is December 11, 2015. If you're thinking sleepaway camp, think Jewish camp! $1,000 Campership Incentive Grants available for 2016. 1) What are Campership Incentive Grants? Campership Incentive Grants are a $1,000 award to Greater MetroWest families who are sending a child to a residential Jewish camp for the first time. The Campership program provides incentive grants for children to try Jewish camp for the first time. It is not a scholarship; it is not needs-based at all. The goal is to approach families who are considering sending their children to camp and, in effect, to give them $1,000 to try a Jewish camp. 2) Why is this called a Campership? Isn't it a scholarship? The Campership Initiative is a strategy to provide a monetary incentive for families to consider sending their children to Jewish residential camps. It is not needs based; in fact, it is discouraged to use the Campership as a scholarship because it is only available once per child.

and celebrated Sukkot together.

CAMP RAMAH Now is the time to begin thinking about summer plans for your children, and we encourage you to consider Camp Ramah. Camp Ramah in the Berkshires announces the opening of registration for the 2016 season! Camp Ramah is under the educational supervision of the Jewish Theological Seminary of America. Counselors are selected from among outstanding Jewish college students who have displayed their Jewish commitment by continuing their Judaic studies at the college level, while simultaneously pursuing a full program of academic and extracurricular activities. A uniquely qualified group of Israelis are also brought each summer to serve on the camp staff. At Ramah, sports, drama, waterfront activities, arts & crafts, camping, music, and other recreational activities play an important role as part of the total intensive Jewish learning experience. Hebrew studies, religious services and innovative educational activities enrich camp experience, in which meaningful friendships are formed and where personal growth as a Jew is emphasized.

3) Who is eligible to receive a Campership Incentive Grant? All five criteria must be met: a. Child will be attending a Jewish residential summer camp for the first time for 19 days or more in the summer of 2016. (A child who attended only an introductory short-stay program of less than 19 days in a previous summer is still eligible for the grant!) b. Child resides in the Greater MetroWest, NJ. c. The camp must be among those listed on the Foundation for Jewish Camp web site (www.jewishcamp.org). If your camp is not there, please contact the Foundation for Jewish Camp. d. Child must be enrolled in the camp for a minimum of 19 consecutive days. e. Limited to children who attend public or other non-Jewish schools so that they can be exposed to the rich Jewish environment offered by Jewish camps, something they will never experience in their public or private school. The conditions of funding require the grant be focused on public school children only. 15

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Come Celebrate With Us!

Note: If your child is currently a Jewish Day School student, please contact Tracy Levine at 973-929-2970 or [email protected] for potential grant opportunities.

There you are... Kiddush and motzi have been recited from the bima. Rabbi Spector has delivered the closing benediction, and your child is slowly making his/her way down to give you a hug. So where do you go now that the bar/bat mitzvah is over? We have a suggestion! Those of us who do not want to lose the glow of the moment will just turn around and continue the simcha in Lester Hall or Lechter Hall with a festive kiddush. Whether simple or elaborate, supporting our congregation kiddush to elevate your simcha makes very good sense! And we bet your guests will appreciate it, too! We have excellent caterers on our Catering Panel, from the elegant to the extravagant, and we can help you find a decorator to make our social spaces the more beautiful. Our administrative and maintenance staff will assist you to help make planning and executing a meaningful kiddush so much simpler. Below is a list of caterers presently on our Catering Panel. Each of them look forward to working with our member families to put together the perfect affair. No matter who you choose, you will be happy you stayed at Temple Beth Shalom. 18 Carat Caterers (Jesse Reitner) 228 Ryders Lane, Milltown, NJ 08850 732-874-0755

4) I have more than one child who is attending a Jewish summer camp for the first time next summer? Can all of them apply? Yes! 5) OK, so how do I get the money? The grant goes directly to the camp where your child is enrolled. So, first you need to register for camp. IF YOU MEET ALL OF THE CRITERIA OUTLINED IN #3 ABOVE, your next step will be to fill out an on-line application at www.onehappycamper.org. Once your application is approved and camp enrollment is confirmed by your camp, the $1,000 payment will be forwarded directly to the camp during summer 2016. The camp may deduct the $1,000 from your balance; or, if you are already paid in full or your balance is less than $1,000, you will receive a refund or credit from the camp. Apply for the grant today at www.onehappycamper.org The TBS Religious School has a wonderful website where you can find links to learn how to read Hebrew, play fun games and take virtual tours of many exciting places in Israel. Please come and visit us online at: www.quia.com/pages/jewishschool/page7

Crystal Plaza Catering (Allan Janoff) 305 W. Northfield Road, Livingston, NJ 07039 973-992-8100 Deli-King of Linden / Signature Creations (Eddie Levy) 628 W. St. Georges Avenue, Linden, NJ 07036 908-925-3909

BAR/BAT MITZVAH TWIN HOLOCAUST SURVIVORS Twin-With-A-Survivor is a program designed to help B'nai Mitzvah perform the mitzvah of becoming a witness to those who survived the Holocaust. We have students who would like to be enrolled in this very important Bar/Bat Mitzvah Program. The student will meet and interview a Holocaust Survivor, who will be honored with an Aliyah and receive a Bar/Bat Mitzvah certificate on the student's Bar/Bat Mitzvah day. This program helps the students mature and increases their knowledge of the history of World War II, the Shoah, and their Jewish Heritage. If you, or someone you know, are willing to share your experiences and become a Holocaust Survivor Twin Bar/Bat Mitzvah, please call Arlene or Leah in the Religious School office. Thank you very much!

Jerusalem Restaurant (Arie & Sara Jashinsky) 99 W. Mount Pleasant Avenue, Livingston, NJ 07039 973-533-1424 Pomp Caterers (Chaya Krinsky) 45 Park Place South, Morristown, NJ 07960 973-539-4314 Richfield Regency Caterers (Jude Roppatte) 420 Bloomfield Avenue, Verona, NJ 07044 973-239-6234 Need more help? Contact Matthew Halpern, Executive Director, at [email protected] or 973-992-3600. We look forward to celebrating many s'machot with you!

THANK YOU To Jodi Prupis, Vice President of Sisterhood's Youth Committee, Ronni Harte, Roberta Misthal, Susan Varman, and Rebecca Zarabi for providing and serving refreshments for the different school functions during the holiday season. I wish you and your loved ones a Happy Thanksgiving.

Rosh Hodesh Study Group Tuesday, November 10, 2015 Taught by Leah Beker Join us for dinner at 7:00 pm followed by the presentation

Leah Beker Director of Education

RSVP to Anita Cohen at [email protected]

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YOUTH GROUPS...

EL AL for 4th and 5th grades • KADIMA for 6th to 8th grades • USY for 9th to 12th grades www.tbsnj.org/youth EL AL

Hi everybody. I am your Social Action/Tikkun Olam (SA/TO) Vice President for Livingston USY. SA/TO is a mirror image of educating social advocates, emphasizing transformative, impactful social action, and raising money for our Tikkun Olam program to help make the greatest possible impact on our communities and the world. Social Action means that we can create community-wide events that have an impact on the lives of the Jewish people. We incorporate that with Tikkun Olam, which means that we raise money for Jewish charities and donate that money to less fortunate people. I have been on the Livingston USY board for three years, and I have lots of experience from outside activities, which I feel I can use to make this year our most successful year yet! This past year we won the most creative SA/TO event for the entire USY Hagalil region, which includes chapters from all over northern and central New Jersey. We created fleece blankets for the homeless, which we then donated to a nearby homeless shelter in Hoboken. And we prepared, wrapped, and distributed sandwiches to the hungry, as well. Finally, we made cards for Israeli soldiers, wishing them a Happy Hanukkah and thanking them for protecting our nation, Israel. SA/TO has been increasingly important over the years and we have progressed as a chapter and as a region throughout the time I have served as the SA/TO Vice President. We had a great kick-off event this year which was a game night and we hope to continue to push our chapter to the next level as we have more and more events. Our Hanukkah event will take place on Wednesday, December 9, from 7:00-8:30 pm, and mark your calendars for Wednesday, January 13 for another great event. You can always count on delicious snacks and a great time to relax and have fun at USY events!

Score! EL AL kicked off their programming year with great success on September 30. The dreary weather did not deter the 26 fourth and fifth graders who attended the Super Sloppy Spaghetti Soccer Sukkah Supper Noah Kates, Justin Baltuch, Alex Block, and were treated Andrew Laveman, Jason Kimelman, Sam to a fun night. Shainbrown, and Andrew Laveman had a The children great time at the El Al soccer kick-off event! enjoyed their spaghetti dinner inside, which thankfully, wasn't too sloppy! Although the Sukkah was too wet to eat in, Rabbi Dorsch was able to bring the children out to the sukkah for a brief lesson. Everyone then went back inside to Lechter Hall for Foosball-style beach ball soccer! The kids had a great time kicking around up to six balls at a time. Did your EL AL-eligible child miss this event? It's not too late to join El Al and secure free attendance for all future programs! Annual dues are only $25. The membership form was previously emailed by Rabbi Dorsch, however if you need another copy of it, please email us. The form can be dropped off at the synagogue or brought to our next event on Wednesday evening, November 18, so save the date! Details are available in fliers that have been emailed and sent home from Religious School. We look forward to seeing your children at future events. For questions, please contact us at [email protected]. Your El Al Parent Volunteers, Alison Handler, Rebecca Konstandt, Robyn Laveman, Debby Margolis

Aaron Kargman Livingston USY SA/TO VP

We began 5776 with our first Kadima event and had a great time welcoming all of our new members! After a group dinner for Sukkot, the kids worked on their teambuilding skills as they quickly ran in groups to find the scavenger hunt clues. In the end, everybody won some Israeli chocolate and we had a holiday discussion. For anyone who missed this first event, registration is still open and we welcome all to join us for lots of fun during the upcoming events, including an overnight lock-in at the synagogue! Looking forward to seeing everyone there!! Contact me at [email protected] with any questions. Rachel Fried Kadima advisor

After our Kadima scavenger hunt, the fun continued with a sweet treat and discussion.

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T.Ex.T. (Temple EXperience for Teens) We are off to a great start with our TExT program! Our kick-off and orientation session went very well and many teens have signed up. At our first program, "Little Me Knocked Out Big Them," I discussed how to make a split-second decision when you need to defend yourself. I shared techniques that I learned from the Israeli army and in other self-defense classes. On Wednesday, November 11, we are going to have our favorite coach, Randy Nathan, who will cover “The Bully in Me.” The program offers participants the opportunity to explore their self-esteem, accept cultural differences, learn kindness and empathy, and create age-appropriate strategies for dealing with conflict and aggressive behavior. This program openly acknowledges that there is an “inner bully” that lies within each person. “The Bully in Me” program uses games and activities to engage youth from their inner thoughts to their external actions. 6:30 - 7:00 pm: Dinner 7:00 - 8:00 pm: Program As always, I am looking forward to seeing everyone. If you have not signed up for TExT yet, you are always welcome to join us and also bring a Jewish friend. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and happy November, Miki Fine TExT Director [email protected]

COLLEGE CONNECTION Thanks so much to all of you who have volunteered to help with our College Connection packings. We have approximately 80 college students who will receive College Connection care packages four times a year. By now your college students have received the delicious Simchat Torah treats sent by the College Connection Committee. If you would like to include your child in future mailings, it's not too late. Simply stop by the Temple office and fill out a College Connection form. Or, if you prefer, you can contact us via the email address below. Due to cost of postage, we are recommending a $54 donation per child. We appreciate any contribution you can provide. Our next mailing is for Hanukkah. The Hanukkah packing will take place on Sunday, December 6, at 9:30 am. We plan to send lots of goodies to help students celebrate Hanukkah, as well as ease the pain of studying for finals! We hope that our wonderful volunteers come out that day to fill the care packages with delicious goodies and love. Make sure your college students stay connected to their Judaism and their Temple Beth Shalom roots by enrolling them in TBS College Connection! Cindy Jacobowitz Mary Lynn Kargman College Connection Co-Chairs [email protected]

College Connection Committee volunteers filled and packed Simchat Torah care packages with lots of goodies and autumnal treats for our college students. As always, the package also included a letter from Rabbi Spector and information on celebrating the holidays.

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T H I S

M O N T H

November/December

NOVEMBER

Friday 27

Sunday 1

Men's Club Quarterly Minyan 8:55 am

Tuesday 3

Men's Club Meeting

8:00 pm

Friday 6

Candle Lighting Shabbat L'Khulam

4:29 pm 6:30 pm

Saturday 7

Shabbat Morning Service: 9:15 am Bat Mitzvah of Priela Safran Tot Shabbat 10:45 pm Minha/Ma'ariv 4:30 pm Bat Mitzvah of Rachel Meller

Sunday 8

Veteran's Day Program

Monday 9

Executive Committee Meeting 7:00 pm

Tuesday 10

Rosh Hodesh Group

Saturday 28

Temple Offices Closed Candle Lighting Erev Shabbat Service

4:14 pm 6:30 pm

Shabbat Morning Service 9:15 am Minha/Ma'ariv 4:15 pm Bar Mitzvah of Jacob Mendelson

DECEMBER

11:00 am

Tuesday 1

Men's Club Meeting

8:00 pm

Wednesday 2

TExT Melton Class

6:30 pm 7:30 pm

Thursday 3

Sisterhood Latkes, Vodka, and Bingo

7:00 pm 4:12 pm 5:30 pm 6:30 pm

7:00 pm

Wednesday 11 TExT Melton Class Sisterhood Board Meeting

6:30 pm 7:30 pm 7:45 pm

Friday 4

Candle Lighting Family Friday Night Dinner Erev Shabbat Service

Thursday 12

PTA Moms' Night Out

7:00 pm

Saturday 5

Friday 13

Candle Lighting Family Friday Night Dinner Erev Shabbat Service

4:22 pm 5:30 pm 6:30 pm

Shabbat Morning Service: 9:15 am Bar Mitzvah of Benjamin Kimelman Tot Shabbat 10:45 pm Junior Congregation 11:00 am

Saturday 14

Shabbat Morning Service: 9:15 am Bar Mitzvah of Adam Cohen Junior Congregation 11:00 am

Sunday 6

College Connection Packing Adult Education Program

Sunday 15

Adult Education Program Hey Class

9:45 am 10:00 am

Tuesday 8

New Dimensions Hanukkah Dinner

6:00 pm

Monday 16

Board of Trustees Meeting

8:00 pm

Wednesday 9

Tuesday 17

TBS University presents Ambassador Daniel Kurtzer

7:30 pm

Kadima Holiday Event USY Hanukkah Event Board of Education Meeting

6:00 pm 7:00 pm 8:00 pm

Thursday 10

Preschool Hanukkah Dinner Outdoor Hanukkiah Lighting El Al Hanukkah Event

5:30 pm 5:30 pm 6:00 pm

Friday 11

Candle Lighting Shabbat L'Khulam

4:13 pm 6:30 pm

Saturday 12

Shabbat Morning Service: Bar Mitzvah of Jagger and Presley Wexelman

9:15 am

Tot Shabbat Junior Congregation Minha/Ma'ariv Bar Mitzvah of Jacob Grunt

10:45 pm 11:00 am 4:15 pm

Wednesday 18 USY Board Meeting El Al Event Sisterhood Paid-Up Dinner

6:00 pm 6:00 pm 6:30 pm

Thursday 19

Board of Education Meeting

8:00 pm

Friday 20

Candle Lighting 4:17 pm 6:30 pm Erev Shabbat Service New Member Shabbat Dinner 7:30 pm

Saturday 21

Shabbat Morning Service: 9:15 am Bat Mitzvah of Alyssa Cooper and Bat Mitzvah of Alexandra Mintz Tot Shabbat 10:45 pm Junior Congregation 11:00 am Minha/Ma'ariv Bar Mitzvah 4:15 pm of Jeremy Steinman

Wednesday 25 Temple Offices Closing Thursday 26

Sunday 13

Rosh Chodesh Bar Mitzvah 10:00 am of Isaac Lewis Men's Club Poker Tournament 4:00 pm

Monday 14

Executive Committee Meeting 7:00 pm

Tuesday 15

Rosh Hodesh Group

3:00 pm

Thanksgiving - Temple Offices Closed

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7:00 pm

TODAH RABAH -

We gratefully acknowledge the following donations

Please visit www.tbsnj.org/contributions, or call the Temple office, for a description of each of the funds. BIKUR CHOLIM FUND In Honor of: Linda & Mel Jacobs on the engagement of their daughter Mariel to Eric Goodman by Sandy Stoll & family In Memory of: Michael Gilman by Michelle & Andrew Cohen Michele & Jeff Landau Lauren & Jeremy Nachtigall Cheryl & Ira Sessler CHAI FUND In Honor of: Linda & Mel Jacobs on the engagement of their daughter Mariel to Eric Goodman by Laura & Jeffrey Greif Alicia & Gerry Kuschuk Barbara & Alan Kass on the birth of their granddaughter Zoe Clara Luttwak by Vallery & Bob Heistein Bruce Leff on the marriage of his son Matthew by Jody & Ira Lanzet Judy & Mark Tabak on the birth of their twin grandchildren Mackenzie Reese & Tyler Blake Levin by Nancy & Warren Siegel DONALD I. LOWY MEMORIAL FUND In Memory of: Dr. David Bodaness by Lorraine Lowy Sidney Lowy by Lorraine Lowy Aaron Siegler by Lorraine Lowy ETERNAL LIFE FUND In Memory of: Nancy Alpern by Pearl & Al Miller Harry Arenofsky by Rita Gordon Morton G. Bernstein by Julie Young Lillian Blum by Sharon Fleishman Stanley Brechner by Frances Brechner Henry Briller by Shirley Gorrin Seymour Chanin by Debra Chainin Harry Chenkin by Cal Chenkin Erwin Citron by Jan & Ernie Ellison Gloria Cohen by Mark Cohen Irving Cohen by Stephen Gould Rowena Dorsch by Elaine Halper Sunny Faden by Francine Muser Bea Ferber by Lizzack-Dillon family Marty Ferber by the Lizzack-Dillon family Doris Galanty by Beth Rothberg Harold Galanty by Beth Rothberg Frank Gerstein by Lizzack-Dillon family Sylvia Gerstein by Lizzack-Dillon family Michael Gilman by Laura & Jeffrey Greif Caryn Mittleman & family Phyllis & Michael Zornitzer Sili Gottfried by Harriet Goldberg Abraham Graber by Gloria & Ron Baruch Adylin D. Jacobs by Jeffrey Jacobs Jacob Kessler by Mattye & Bob Gandel Rose Drogin Krawitz by Leonard Krawitz Rose Kruger by Greif family Miriam D. Lerner by Beverly Schuhalter Florence Levitt by Bonnie & David Levitt Evelyn Lizzack by Lizzack-Dillon family Joseph Lizzack by Lizzack-Dillon family Morton Lizzack by Lizzack-Dillon family Rose Lizzack by Lizzack-Dillon family

Irene Moses by Jody Lanzet Charles Nadler by Lizzack-Dillon family Bessie Okner by Lizzack-Dillon family Mira Okner by Lizzack-Dillon family Roman Okner by Lizzack-Dillon family Zolman Okner by Lizzack-Dillon family David Ottenstein by Barry Ottenstein Maxine Rudman by Alan Winter Ann Schatzberg by Judy Schatzberg Sherwin Schumer by Stefanie Cohen Frances Soff by Rita Bauman Florence Spector by Lizzack-Dillon family Fred Spector by Lizzack-Dillon family Leo Van Elkan by Helen Van Elkan Libby Vogel by Tina Rabbino Bernard Winter by Lizzack-Dillon family Alan Winter Janice Winter by Lizzack-Dillon family Sylvia Zausmer by Lizzack-Dillon family Jerome J. Zeller by Ilene & Mark Grossman & family Donations: Glenda & Joel Fischgrund Phyllis Jacobowitz Pearl & Albert Miller Adria Goldenkranz ETTA AND SAUL GANZ MEMORIAL FUND In Memory of: Florence Wexler by Susan & Howard Mandelbaum GENERAL FUND In Memory of: Tommy Faulkner by Harriet Goldberg Sally Roth by Suzanne & Saul Berkkowitz HARRIET D. GOLDBERG MEMORIAL FUND In Memory of: Daniel Goodman by Alicia & Gerry Kuschuk KIDDUSH FUND In Honor of: Ilana Mandelbaum & Keith Sterling on their aufruf by Gina & Kenny Mandelbaum Scarlett Drew Berman on her naming by Jessica & Ross Berman Eden Florrie Glushakow on her naming by Whitney & Jason Glushakow Sydney Emma Tenenbaum on her naming by Bonnie & Jonathan Tenenbaum Jamie Silverman & Drew Pakett on their aufruf by Melissa & Cary Silverman LANDSCAPE FUND In Honor of: Elaine Halper on the birth of her great-grandson Charlie Mayer Grinspan by Ruth L.Hutter Linda & Mel Jacobs on the engagement of their daughter Mariel to Eric Goodman by Ruth L. Hutter LICHTERMAN LIBRARY BOOK FUND In Honor of: Elaine Halper on the birth of her great-grandson Charlie Mayer Grinspan by Diane & Peter Gotlieb PRAYER BOOK FUND In Honor of: Melissa & Cary Silverman on the marriage their daughter Jamie to Drew Pakett by Lori, Bob, Samantha & Alex Kaufman 20

In Memory of: Klara Griffel by Marsha & Jack Griffel Edith Zakheim by Marsha & Jack Griffel Walter Zakheim by Marsha & Jack Griffel RABBI SAMUEL L. COHEN MEMORIAL FUND In Honor of: Sally & Cantor Henry Butensky on the birth of their great-granddaughter Maya Lemay by Dee Cohen Linda & Mel Jacobs on the engagement of their daughter Mariel to Eric Goodman by Dee Cohen Elaine Halper on the birth of her great-grandson Charlie Mayer Grinspan by Dee Cohen Phyllis & Michael Zornitzer SIMCHA FUND In Honor of: Sally & Cantor Henry Butensky on the birth of their great-granddaughter Maya Lemay by Elaine Halper Andrea & Stephen Diamond on the engagement of their son Jeremy to Danielle Mohlman by Caryn Mittleman & family Elaine Halper on the birth of her great-grandson Charlie Mayer Grinspan by Margie & Barry Wolfe Nate Himelstein on being Chattan Torah by Caryn Mittleman & family Linda & Mel Jacobs on the engagement of their daughter Mariel to Eric Goodman by Michelle & Andrew Cohen Wendy & Jesse Cohen Zephyr & Martin Cooper Diane & Peter Gotlieb & Elaine Halper Lori, Bob, Samantha & Alex Kaufman Sharon Kornstein on the birth of her grandson Ari Chase Kornstein by Amy & Marty Pollack & family Cynthia Schwartz & Phil Litwinoff on the marriage of their daughter Evelyn to Hanoch Sheps by Laura & Jeffrey Greif Zephyr & Martin Cooper Leslie & Herb Katz on the birth of their granddaughter Ava Madison Katz by Amy & Marty Pollack & family Karen & Sheldon Lipke on the marriage of their daughter Danielle to Dov Kanovsky by Phyllis & Michael Zornitzer Karen & Rabbi Geoffrey Spector on the college graduation of their son Josh by Elaine Halper Gail Stocks on being Kallat Bereishit by Caryn Mittleman & family Judy & Mark Tabak on the birth of their twin grandchildren Mackenzie Reese & Tyler Blake Levin by Laura & Jeffrey Greif Ilene & Steven Kandler Amy & Marty Pollack Laura & Ray Siegel Donations: Best Wishes for a Peaceful New Year by Faye & Leonard Gilman YOUTH ENDOWMENT FUND In Memory of: Barbara Terry by Risa & Michael Baskies

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Ambassador Daniel C. Kurtzer

Tuesday, November 17, 2015 • 7:30 p.m.

This program is free and open to the community.