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what’s going on? We are pleased to bring you PromsPlus!™ Prom, AfterProm, and Career Planning Guide. This unique planning and resource guide is designed for high school Juniors and Seniors to provide information and resources for Prom season and careers beyond Prom; for Prom and After-Prom planning committees to successfully sponsor safe and fun events; and for parents to guide students toward safe, alcohol and drug-free choices. Our goal is to bring you a fun, user-friendly guide that promotes safe and fun events, driver safety, and informed career choices, and discourages drug and alcohol use. Proms Plus! has Three Sections: Students: Prom checklists, makeup, tuxedos, dresses, limousines. Asking your date and Who pays What? Looking your best and having fun. Careers: College, Tech School, job market, it’s all here. Undecided? Let us guide you. And for more career help, log onto www.promsplus.com. Event Planning: Prom and After-Prom Party Planning guide for educators, administrators, parents and student committee members. PromsPlus!™ is distributed FREE to students throughout the Central Maryland area. We want this guide to be as helpful as possible, so we are always open to comments and suggestions. Published annually by: Milestone Media Group, Inc. 5360-E Enterprise St., Eldersburg, MD 21784 410-549-5490 • Fax 410-549-6467 E-mail: [email protected] • Website: www.promsplus.com OUR STAFF Mona Freedman PUBLISHER/EDITOR Jay Freedman GENERAL MANAGER Beth Anne Bloom PRODUCTION MANAGER Jackie McGlothin PRODUCTION COORDINATOR Jamie Freedman EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Denise Greco EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Debbie Barger SALES ASSOCIATE Jonathan Freedman SALES ASSOCIATE Robbin Davlin DISTRIBUTION COORDINATOR Bizmarquee.com WEBSITE DESIGN

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contents Choosing a Prom Gown . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .4 Tux Tips . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .4 Proms Checklist - Girls /Guys . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5 Prom Advice - Girls / Guys . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Be Prepared . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9 Prom Tales . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10 Renting A Limousine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .11 He Pays She Pays - Who Pays What . . . . . . . . . . .12 Prom Etiquette . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20 Tips for a Safe Prom . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 What’s Next Career Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14 Choosing A Career Path SAT Tips / Essays College Planning Timetable Getting A Job / Apprenticeship Programs Prom Planning Section . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21 Prom Planning Timetable . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21 Budgeting & Fundraising . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22 Choosing a Facility . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24 Themes & Decorating . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 After Prom Entertainment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27 Directory of Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .28

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choosing the perfect gown The style of gowns varies from year to year. Start by looking through magazines, especially Prom magazines, or through the malls, just to see what is available. Check out dress boutiques for more unique styles. Try the internet for a wide selection of styles and sizes. You may be more likely to find a unique style on the internet. Just be quite sure to check out their return policy. However, customer service will be better at a local shop. Prom dresses are not cheap, particularly a quality dress. Longer, more elegant dresses, and anything with beads or lace, are more expensive. Get an idea of what you are looking for before you try on dresses. This will eliminate many styles that you know aren‘t right for you. And if you have doubts, try it on. Don‘t pass up a possibility (anything that is NOT a “no way!”) without trying it on. The experts know that many dresses look different on you than on the rack. This is where using a local shop with a knowledgeable salesperson is most valuable. Start shopping early, you may be able to find a sale or one at an outlet store. Wait too long and the selections get picked over. Don‘t overlook thrift stores and consignment shops. These have some nice bargains and even the latest styles. You may consider a dressmaker for a custom look. Remember, this will be an expensive choice, and you still may not get exactly what you imagined (pictures help with this). Be patient and have fun with the shopping. It adds to and extends the excitement of the Prom. Few people find their perfect dress the first time out. If you are traveling, remember to check out stores in other cities or areas. Different cities do stock different styles, or may carry more of what you are looking for. Just remember, returns are difficult when the store is 400 miles away. Don‘t forget about matching shoes and handbag. Shoes should be worn in (around the house) to make them more comfortable on Prom night. A handbag should be large enough for your essentials: lipstick, extra pantihose, film/camera, calling card, money, etc. Consider a chiffon shawl as a finishing touch to your gown This is draped around your neck, but also looks great over your arm. Be sure to choose a color that compliments your dress.

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tux tips You really do need to wear a tux! Your date will be looking hot, you’ll want to look your sharpest, too. Renting is your best bet, and it will probably cost anywhere from $50-$150. Rentals usually include everything: shoes, tie, shirt, vest or cummerbund, and accessories. Many rental shops will also sell you a custom fit tux, as well.

Here’s the 411 from our fashion guru: Plan ahead. Don’t wait for the last week before prom, because you could be out of luck. Call ahead and ask about the store’s policy on fitting, pick-up and return. Choose one shop where you’ll be treated first class, and go for a fitting about 3 months before the date. The hottest styles and colors, and some sizes sell out early, so don’t delay! Discuss plans with your date. This is about matching style and color with her gown. Either take her with you or ask for a color swatch of her gown. If you’re not sure what color she will wearing, order a classic black tux with neutral-color accessories (black, white, silver). And if gown colors change after your fitting, it should not be a problem to switch cummerbund and tie colors, since these are usually one-size-fits-all. Choose the right style. Some styles fit different body types better than others. Try a few on and see what you like. Just remember the type of affair and your date’s dress. Comfort rules. No prom is fun if you’re uncomfortable, so choose your tuxedo for comfort as well as style. Avoid straining your jacket buttons or tight trousers. Likewise, make certain your formal shoes fit properly and are comfortable enough to spend the evening on the dance floor. Accessories make the man. Details complete your outfit. Shoes should be plain black dress shoes, polished to a high shine, or patent leather shoes from your formalwear dealer. Cummerbund (a formal sash worn around the waist) and bow tie should match each other and at least coordinate (not clash) with your date. Vests are popular, but they are worn instead of, not with, a cummerbund. Cuff links and shirt studs complete the formal look, so ask your retailer for an upgrade from the basic accessory package. The complete look. If you want to stand out from the pack do it with choices your formalwear dealer recommends. Sneakers, jeans or tee-shirts with a formal jacket usually spells fashion disaster. And wear only dark dress socks, leaving your white sweat socks at home. You want to turn heads with your hot looks, not clownish chuckles. Underneath it all. Do not wear a regular white dress shirt. It doesn’t match, and everyone will know you’re skimping. Instead, a plain (or fancy) formal shirt is what you need. The sleeve should be a bit longer than the jacket arm, defining the sleeve and showing off the cuff links. A wingtip collar is good for a bow tie, lay down or button down collar for a longer tie.

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Start using this checklist. Ask how much money your parents are willing to contribute. List your expenses. Start saving money if necessary. Shop for that special dress. When you find it, you can put it on lay-away if need be.

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Pick out accessories that will coordinate with your dress and/or with your date’s outfit. Start taking care of your hair and nails, particularly if you have short or bitten nails. If you are growing your hair out, trim it every 4 weeks to avoid frizzy, split ends.

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If you have not asked someone for a date yet (or been asked!), check out the advice on page 8. Go for a tux fitting. It is helpful to know what color dress your date will wear. Coordinate colors and style. Start looking into transportation. Whose car, who will drive, or consider renting a limousine with a group. Ask around for a good restaurant for dinner before the Prom, if dinner is not included at the Prom. Consider your date’s taste in food and atmosphere (ask, if you’re not sure!).

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Confirm all reservations and appointments you have made for Prom day. Wash your car and vacuum it, if applicable. Get a haircut. What time will you pick her up? Collect your supplies: Camera, film, phone card or cell phone, change, cash, student ID, tickets, etc.

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prom advice can i ask him? Don’t assume you have to have a date to go to the Prom you don’t. Going with a friend, a group, or by yourself can be just as much fun. After all, it’s a celebration of your time in school, and everyone deserves to celebrate! But if you’d like to ask a date, here are some tips: • All stereotypes and traditions are broken, and girls often ask guys to go to the Prom. The attitude is “Why wait?” • Ask in person, not over the phone or by e-mail. Don’t lose the effect of eye contact and body language. • Ask as soon as you can, or your date will be going with someone else! • If you get asked, and the answer is no, let him down easily. Rejection is a hard feeling to overcome. What is the latest a person should ask her date to the prom? What is the usual amount of time that she should ask ahead of the prom? There is no latest time to ask but you should start asking as early as possible because you don’t want someone else to beat you to him! We know a girl who was asked to her senior prom three months before the actual date, so that should give you some idea of what’s possible. However, whatever you do, don’t wait. You might lose him.

asking your date Don’t assume you have to have a date to go to the Prom you don’t. Going with a friend, a group, or by yourself can be just as much fun. After all, it’s a celebration of your time in school, and everyone deserves to celebrate! But if you’d like to ask a date, here are some tips: 1. Ask in person, not over the phone or by e-mail. Don’t lose the effect of eye contact and body language. 2. A small gift or flowers helps sway a decision. 3. Ask as soon as you can, or your date will be going with someone else! 4. Don’t be shocked if the girl asks you, all stereotypes and old notions are gone. 5. If you get asked, and the answer is no, let her down easily. Rejection is a hard feeling to overcome.

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From our web site www.promsplus.com How do garters for prom work? What is the "tradition" exactly? Also, where do you buy a garter from. People say bridal stores but they charge way too much! Are there any stores which sell them for cheaper? Around $4-$5? Thanks! Garters can be a fun way to add some color or splash to an outfit. They are not necessary, and you may not miss it. However, there just aren't any real traditions that have stuck. It was picked up 8

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from weddings, where the groom offers (and places) one on the bride. No such tradition exists for Prom, and many girls buy them for themselves as a memento or an accent. Some are available with the year on it. Check out www.tjformals.com, they are $7.00 each. Hi, I'm a senior and my first prom is in June. My date and I barely speak in school. I chose her because all others were occupied. Please tell me what I should give her as present and what we should talk about during the prom. Thanks. With a little preparation, you will have a wonderful prom night – even if you do not know your date very well. First things first, you do not have to give your date a gift, per say, but it is a traditional gesture to give your date a corsage (small bouquet of flowers worn around the wrist). It is best to order the corsage from a flower shop a week or two in advance, if possible. It is also best when the corsage matches your date’s dress. So be sure to ask her what color she will be wearing, and then tell the florist the color of her dress when you order the corsage. The florist can help you pick out a match. You will present the corsage to your date when you pick her up for the prom. The answer to your next question is not exactly as cut and dry. There are plenty of things to talk about on prom night. And because you don’t know much about her, there is actually even more to talk about! I’d say it is best to talk about something you have in common – your school. Ask her favorite subject, ask which teachers she likes, and about her extra curricular activities. She will likely ask you the same. Also, since you both are completing your second half of high school, you can ask if she is looking at colleges, or what she may plan to do after high school. The prom night itself will also provide plenty of conversation material. Talk about the food that is being served and whether or not you like it. Also talk about the kind of music she likes/you like and whether or not you are likely to hear it at prom. Beyond that, there is plenty of “getting to know you better” conversation you can try. You can ask if she has brothers and sisters, where she has lived, and if her extended family lives near or far. That should be plenty to get you two chatting. And if you both like to dance, you will spend a lot of time dancing instead of talking anyway. One last point of conversation – tell her how lovely she looks! Have a great time. My daughter went shopping without me and came back with a short, tight fitting, white prom dress. YIKES!!! I am trying to explain that a long dress is the rule for prom night. She wants to be "different". Well, I don;t want her to look cheap nor do I want people talking about her behind her back. Am I being old-fashioned?? HELP!! Well, Mom, I'm afraid you might be a little behind the times on this one - but not all wrong. Janet Donahue of the Perfect Pear LLC informs us that "knee length dresses are HOT right now!" But she cautions that if you decide to go knee length, you must select something very dressy. The key is fabric, color and style. What you want is a dress that is elegant, with a more flirty style than a typical "cocktail dress" (which is usually very form fitting). Chiffon fabric is ideal for this. Don't go above the knee for prom. You want to look really dressy - not vampish. So while knee length works, a tight white dress that lands above the knee is most likely inappropriate. Happy hunting! Continued on page 31 Tell everyone you found it in PromsPlus!

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going to prom? be prepared! It always pays these days to be prepared when you leave the house, especially on Prom night: • Take enough cash for your expenses, such as dinner, tips, incidentals, and a little extra money for emergencies. Put an extra car key in your wallet or purse in case you lose the original. • If you have a cellular phone, take it with you in case of an emergency (please make sure it’s charged up). • Take a camera along to take pictures of each other. • Girls, carry extra panty hose or a bottle of clear nail polish to stop a run. A safety pin and a bobby pin can be a life saver! • Take care of your belongings. Don’t leave valuables on the table or in bathrooms. Even if you think you know everyone at the dance, it would be very sad to lose a camera or your Visit us online at www.promsplus.com

money just because you were careless and left it sitting around unattended. • Discuss your plans with your parents. Include where you are going, with whom, what time you will be where, and when you can be expected home. Parents tend to worry about such things. Remember, even if they trust you, they don’t trust the other people out on the road. If it will help them relax, offer to check in with them sometime during the evening, and also if you’ll be late getting home. • After-Prom: these parties are always a blast! Don’t forget a change of clothes to be comfortable while you party. 9

prom tales Should Have Gone To The After-Prom Hi, my name is Rashanda and I went on my junior prom and I had a ball. My prom night was fun the music was the worst of the whole night- that's until my date and I had went to this diner and the place was robbed. That was the wildest experience in my life. My date and I were very cute. My family was more excited then I was because I was a little nervous. When we got there we took pictures and danced all night long.

Cola Collision I'm a sophomore and I got asked to the prom by a friend of mine. We're kind of like family. Well, on the day of prom everyone that was attending the prom left school early so they could go do their personal things before prom like hair appointments, nail appointments, etc. Well I went to the hair salon and got my hair done as planned that after my hair appointment I went home to get ready to go to the promenade at 5:30 before prom. Ok, my date John (that's his name) his ex-girlfriend found out that we were going to prom together. So, anyway she tried her best to mess up everything for me and John so, we went to the promenade as we planned to. It was open to students that went to our school and anyone that wanted to see the prom couples walk in. So, she tried to ruin my dress before I walked out with my date to mess everything because, she was jealous that John was taking me to prom instead of her. I wore a light pink gown that faded to a darker pink. It was strapless and gorgeous. So, I was thirsty and I asked for a drink of soda. They only had cola and other dark drinks so, (the ex-girlfriend) tried to accidentally try to spill the cola on my gown. I kind of knew she was trying something sneaky so I dodged the soda and it landed on the Principal Mr. S. I swung at her and when she hit the floor I yelled in her face "Are you trying to mess up my gown? Do you know how much this dress costs and how long it took to find and buy it?" I was [very angry] at her. She apologized to my date and me but, she still got in trouble for throwing the soda on Mr. S. After that hilarious experience at the promenade, my date and I couldn't help from having a good time at prom. Prom was so much fun! I can't wait until next year's prom and MY Senior prom in 2006. I'm already counting down the days to next year's prom ! - D.B.

Two More Chances I was a sophomore, and last year I met this guy named Samuel, Sam for short. We hung out alot and I started to like him, not alot but enough so that when he asked me to go to prom with him I freaked. Mainly because he asked me out only a week before hand. I said yes, of course, and we went together. He mostly hung out with friends and I was left there by myself. I did have fun, though, because I knew some of the people there and we danced together. Well, he took me home and that was it. No after parties, no kiss, nothing. Needless to say I was a little upset. A couple of weeks later he was going out with my friend L. They're still going 10

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out and are going to prom together, but I am happy because she can be really vicious if he makes her mad like he did me. As for me, I have a great boyfriend and he just asked me to prom! I have two more chances to make have fun at prom, this one and my senior prom, so I can't wait!. - Samantha

One Romantic Evening I went to Senior prom last year with Bryan, this cute guy that I’d seen for a while around school. We had one class together last year even though I was only a Junior. We talked a bit every couple of days until he asked me to Prom and it was really unexpected! He somehow managed to put an invitation into my note book for that class, asking me to meet him in the parking lot after the last bell. I still think my friend Jen helped him place the card, but she said no. It was so cute, it had fancy lettering and hand drawn flowers and ballet slippers (I’m a dancer). Anyway, I was all excited because I pretty much knew what he would ask, but when I met him outside it was so windy I could hardly stand up, so we ran back to the cafeteria to talk. My hair was so messed up he couldn’t see my face as we came inside. I told him the note was so nice and he asked me to go to his Senior prom with him. Staying calm, I asked him if he had any plans and he told me about them, and also told me he’d been saving to pay for my ticket, and that he was also saving to chip in for a limo with a few other people. I told him I’d love to and that I wouldn’t mind helping out with the limo too. He got a big grin across his face and it was set. Prom was great! I bought a dark pink open back gown and a matching purse. The shoes hurt, I should have worn them in, but oh well. Bryan picked me up and drove me to his parents, we took pics, then off to his friend Rob’s house. A huge limo picked 10 of us up and drove to the Prom. They did a great job with decorations, every thing was perfect, Bryan looked so hot that night! We danced, but I don’t remember the food, chicken I think. It was very romantic and Bryan was a perfect gentleman. We went to the after prom party which was a blast, but one of the guys forgot a change of shoes and wore jeans and black shoes all night! There were tons of things to do, Rob won a radio, got tickets to movies, I won a gift certificate for shopping! It ended pretty late, and really wasn’t as tired as I thought I would get. Bryan and I still see each other and I’m looking forward to going to my Senior Prom this year. Leslie P. Photo provided by: Signature Ink Modeling Company

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renting a limousine Limousine rentals for the Prom and After-Prom parties, once a rare sight, have now become quite common. Here are some tips to make your life easier... Limousines offer several benefits over driving yourself including EASE (Who’s driving? Are we lost? Where do we park?); SAFETY (Let a professional do the driving); and FUN. • If you plan to rent a limo, do it as early as possible! Around prom time, limo’s are in demand and you want to make sure that you are able to reserve the one you want. • Begin your search by deciding what size limousine (how many passengers) you require and what features you want. To reduce costs, plan to get together with other couples to go in a group to and from the event. • Do not choose a limousine company solely on the basis of price. A better price does not always mean a better limousine or a reliable company. So, rely on other factors along with price. Request references. How long has the limousine company been in business? Is the company and the driver licensed Visit us online at www.promsplus.com

by the Maryland Public Service Commission (PCS), and what is their number? What is included in the cost? What is the hourly minimum, or is it a flat fee for Prom night? Does the time include travel time to and from the first pickup, or only the time after the limousine arrives? Can they provide proof of insurance? What model year is the vehicle? What special features does the limousine have (TV, DVD, soda bar, moon roof, etc.)? • If you can, ask to see the exact vehicle you will be renting. If not possible, ask for a sample vehicle from the fleet. Will your job be handled by an employee, or could it be subcontracted to someone else at the last minute? Is that company/driver insured and licensed? • Make sure you are treated professionally by the staff from the first call. If you are treated courteously over the phone, it is likely your chauffeur will

also treat you with respect. On Prom night this includes every guest being treated special, like any paying customer. Ask how the driver will be dressed. • As you will be treated with respect by the limousine driver and staff, please respect the company’s rules. • Make certain to save a copy of the written limousine contract, which should include: a description of the vehicle you are agreeing to, including year, make and model; all costs of the rental, including gratuity, cancellation charges and deposit refund policy; pickup time, drop off time and itinerary; and company’s liability in case of breakdowns, no-shows, or other problems. Also ensure that the vehicle and driver are dedicated to you for the block of time you booked and are waiting outside for you. A side trip downtown by the chauffeur while you are at the event is unacceptable. 11

he pays she pays the dollars and sense. Most parts of the prom are getting too expensive for the guy to pay by himself. He used to pay it all once, back when your parents had their proms; but times have changed and this is no longer possible for most guys. These days, what’s normal is to share some or all of the basic expenses outlined below. These include prom tickets, pictures, and transportation. If there is a post prom party with a cost involved, then you often split this, too. However, although many, many couples split these expenses, there are times when the guy prefers or insists on paying for the whole thing. Girls, if your date is gallant enough to offer to pay, then do not disappoint or otherwise insult him by refusing to let him pay. Sometimes, it’s not the money that matters, but the sacrifice - and that’s what makes the whole thing worthwhile. I asked him because he is a sophomore and I’m a senior! We both know that the guys pay for prom, but since I asked him, I feel bad making him pay for it. What should I do? You can do two things. You can pay for it yourself and not say anything - I don’t recommend this because you will probably offend him. Or, you can discuss it with him. Just tell him how you feel, and that if he wants to share the expense (or even have you pay the whole thing) then you’re willing to. He won’t though; and he’ll be glad you asked. You’ll see. I’m going to the prom with my boyfriend and it’s a fairly new relationship. He’s working a lot over his spring break and also trying to save up for a new car. I want to help him out with paying for prom so he doesn’t have to work so much but he wants to pay for it all. What should I do? In this case, let him pay for it all. Don’t hurt his feelings. The thing about money, is that he can always make more. If you don’t let him spend it as a gentleman, then it won’t matter to him whether he can make more or not; he will just be hurt and offended. Believe me, the money doesn’t mean as much to him as being proud to be able to pay. So live with that, enjoy yourself, and be proud and happy for him because of it. On prom night, what is the girl expected to pay for? That depends on your date. Traditionally, the girl didn’t pay for anything except the boutonniere. These days, however, there’s all sorts of arrangements made between the guy and the girl, and sometimes the girl even pays the whole thing – it’s not as simple as it used to be! So, if you’re worried that your date intends to pay for only a part of the evening, then you should talk it over with him and agree on who pays for what. If, on the other hand, he says nothing, then perhaps he’s a gentleman and will take care of it all. You just be sure to have his boutonniere ready! Courtesy of Promdress.net I asked a guy friend from another school to go with me to my prom. What do I have to pay for?? COMMON QUESTION, BUT NO EASY ANSWERS. A typical scenario is this: You pay for the ticket and a boutonniere for him. He buys you a corsage. You share the ride, dinner, you buy your dress, shoes, etc. He rents the tux. If you are sporting, you may pay for photos to share, or a photo key chain, etc. He may appreciate your gestures, or he may be insulted because he wanted to at least pay his own way. This varies person to person. We can't tell from here, so you'll need to talk to him about this, and the sooner the better. Don't be afraid, just a short chat (in person, not IM) to clear things up, so you can relax and enjoy your Prom. 12

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the steps to a successful prom Fortunately, there are many things you can do to prevent post-prom blues. Here are some tips for having the ultimate prom experience without any next-day regrets. You Should Feel Comfortable With Your Date Share prom night with someone you really care about and feel OK with. Don’t go with partners who won’t respect your wishes, since this can lead to misunderstandings and possibly even regrets. Be Honest With Your Date Before the Big Night Your date may have different expectations for prom night than you do. So keep in mind that discussing something like this could save you a lot of heartache and regret. Go With a Large Group of Friends Prom isn’t just about the date; its about making memories with friends that you’ll cherish forever. Finding the perfect date isn’t everything; being with your friends is what you are going to ultimately remember anyway. Don’t Have Out-of-Reach Expectations Prom is a wonderful experience, but that doesn’t mean Brad Pitt or Jennifer Lopez will appear and sweep you off your feet.Trying to make Prom too perfect might actually ruin the big night more than better it. So bottom line: relax and enjoy your Prom. Stay Sober, Don’t Drink IT IS ILLEGAL TO DRINK IF YOU ARE UNDER 21. You know the seriousness of the risks of consuming alcohol. Just keep in mind that alcohol may make you do things that you might seriously regret afterwards. A good way to stay clear of alcohol is to go on a late night dinner or coffeehouse with your closest friends to get some quality bonding time with them. Or, better yet... Go to a Chaperoned Post-Prom Party These are often the best, most exciting parties around! Food, games, prizes. Everyone will be there, you can’t miss it! Make A Pact With Your Friends No, not like in American Pie. This kind of pact lets you look out for your friends. Its really simple all you have to do is promise to look out for each other, so no one gets into an unsafe situation. Be Prepared Plan how you'll deal with anyone who pressures you to drink or do something you don't want to do. Be prepared to say "No" (over and over again if necessary), give a witty response, change the subject or just walk away. Practice with someone you trust or in a mirror. Have Fun Finally, don’t forget to have a good time! Make memories that you can carry with you forever and never regret. Take lots of pictures and videos, and dance the night away. No matter what your prom expectations are, remember to always stay safe and healthy.

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choosing a career path Want to become a teacher? A cosmetologist? A lawyer? How about opening an auto body shop? High school will be over soon and only you can decide what’s next! College? Tech School? Job? Military? It’s time to think about your future. I’m going to college. Lookin’ Good! Careers that require college degrees pay, on the average over a lifetime, more that those that do not. There are many types of college with a huge selection of career fields to choose from. And even if you are undecided about your exact career choice (half of college students are still undecided or switch majors after two years), there are plenty opportunities to switch majors or career paths without losing time, money, or credits. College is a time to explore and match your interests with your abilities. A college degree shows future employers you’ve been trained to think out of the box, solving problems that you, or maybe anyone, has never encountered before. That increases your value to employers, and that means greater opportunities and earning potential. Bureau of Labor statistics show that workers with Bachelors degrees have half the unemployment and 54% higher salaries, on average, than those with high school diplomas.

College isn’t for me. Private Career and Technical Schools: Maryland has hundreds, with great career training in fields from cosmetology to computer networks, real estate to commercial truck driving, dental assistant to air conditioning tech. Course work ranges from one week to several years. Many offer financial aid and career placement, and most combine hands-on experience with classroom work. Apprenticeships: Earn money and learn on the job. Companies, unions and governments all offer apprenticeship, programs for as little as one or up to six years. Check out some of these careers: electrician, insurance adjuster, flight attendant, police officer, fire fighter, plumber, brick layer, tool and die maker, corrections officer, postal carrier, operating engineer. Training

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is usually split between classroom and the job, and the cost is typically low, with employers picking up most of the tab. Community College: They offer certificate and Letter of Recognition programs, with careers such as medical transcriptionist, legal secretary, computer graphics, teacher’s aide, and emergency medical technician. Associate degrees might include criminal justice, nursing, office technology, accounting, physical therapist assistant, and legal studies. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the number of jobs requiring an Associates degree will increase by a larger percentage (35%) through 2010 than any other job requirement category or degree. Military: The five branches of the U.S. Military, including Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine Corps, and Coast Guard, offer more than 300 different schools and 10,000 courses of instruction. Skills you gain in the military can be valuable when transferred to civilian life. And through the Montgomery GI Bill, you could qualify for assistance with school costs once you leave the service.

doing what you really like to do. Narrow the List Down: What types of companies hire people in your field(s)? What training/education is required? Where will you have to go or live to receive that education or work in that field? Narrow down the list to two or three choices at most, and then sit down and discuss them with people who know and people you trust: Parents, coaches, guidance counselors, clergy, older brothers or sisters, friends. Don’t get caught up in the gravity of the decision, because people don’t always make the right decision the first time. But go with your gut instincts into a career that you know will make you happy. As we said, only you know what that will be.

I’m so….confused! Not to worry. You are definitely not alone. But it’s not too early to start thinking about your career options. Explore Your Interests: What do you like, and what are you good at? Try a career assessment like the ones on Careernet. (www.careernet.state.md.us/assessment.htm) Do Your Homework: This may be your most important homework assignment. Making informed career decisions requires the right information about opportunities that will be available in the near future. What’s hot, what’s not. How does it pay off? And what careers fit your style, personality, and interests? While you may switch jobs, or even careers, several times over your life, you’ll always be happiest if you’re

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what’snext? SAT Test Taking Tips Before the Test Know the test directions for all six question types. Use the time you save to answer questions. Get familiar with the answer sheet. It has four pages, and you need to know what answers go in which section.

During the Test Answer easy questions first. You earn just as many points for easy questions as you do for hard questions. The easier questions are at the beginning of the section and the harder questions at the end - except for Critical Reading questions, which are ordered according to the logic and organization of each passage. Guess smart. If you can rule out one or more answer choices for a multiple-choice question as definitely wrong, your chances of guessing the right answer improve. For math questions without answer choices, fill in your best guess; no points are subtracted for wrong answers as they are in all other question types. Omit questions that you really have no idea how to answer. But if you can rule out any choice, you probably should guess from among the rest of the choices. Don't panic if you cannot answer every question. You do not have to answer every question correctly to get a good score. You can get an average score by answering about half of the questions correctly and omitting the remaining questions. Use your test book for scratch work. You can also cross off choices you know are wrong and mark questions you have omitted so you can go back to them if you have time. Keep track of time. If you finish a section before time is called, check your answers in that section only. Adapted from CollegeBoard.com

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An Essay That Works! If the college you are applying to requires a written essay, use it as an opportunity to help you stand out from the crowd. Admission officers admit that essays can make or break an application, giving an ordinary applicant an edge if the essay is great, or tipping the scales to the ‘reject’ pile. So, follow these tips to write an essay that’s interesting and inspired: Essays should reveal two things: Your writing ability, and something of your personality. Avoid a long list of activities or life history. Focus instead on one event, a person or experience that has affected you, one you feel passionate about or threw yourself into. Avoid topics that are overdone and ordinary ‘textbook’ answers to questions. Travel, sports, and overused social issues like world hunger and AIDS are tough to make interesting and unique. Don’t choose a topic that merely looks good. Choose one that you truly care about. The sincerity and passion for the topic will come out in your writing. Avoid bragging or outright lying about your many accomplishments. Instead, be honest and present yourself fairly and balanced, not as a super hero. This will show your ability to learn and grow as a person. Revise and rewrite: Edit your essay for accuracy, clarity, story development, style, and a unified theme. Avoid run-on sentences, using briefer or more condensed thoughts. Use action words to stimulate interest. And proofread your work several times, because there is no place for mistakes in your application essay.

The College Application Maze So, you’ve decided where you want to apply? Now get going! But keep in mind these helpful hints: • Remember to apply to at least one college that you may like but may be too tough to get into. Plenty of factors are considered in selections and who knows, maybe you’ll get in. It could be worth the hour or so to fill out the app. Also apply to one backup school that you’re sure you can get into. • Keep track of the application deadlines. Some applications have two parts with different deadline dates for each. • Take advantage of the electronic (on-line) application, if available. Some schools actually prefer online applications because they reduce paper clutter. • Do not lie or exaggerate. Facts are easily checked by the Admissions staff at the college. • Line up your recommendation letter-writers well in advance. Choose teachers who feel you are special and have examples to back it up. Provide them with a resume for easy reference and submit multiple school requests together. • Proofread your application and copy it for your records. • Notify your guidance counselor of your application as soon as possible so your transcripts can arrive in time.

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college planning timetable Junior Year • In the Fall Maintaining your grades during your junior year is especially important. This is the year that college admission officers examine especially closely. Enroll in AP and other honors-level classes if available. Prepare for PSAT. Make sure of registration and test dates. Ask about AP exams. Take the PSAT. (Results in 4-6 weeks.) Top scores qualify for National Merit Scholarships. Develop a preliminary college list with your counselor. Your list should contain approximately 8-12 colleges you are seriously considering. Start requesting literature from colleges.

In the Winter In order to identify your strengths and to determine the areas that you may need to improve upon, review your PSAT results with your counselor. Enroll for SAT prep course; start studying for SAT I and I. Take Campus Tours online or in person to further narrow your list of colleges to match your personality, GPA, and test scores. Register for the March SAT I and/or the April ACT tests. Find out from each college the deadlines for applying for admission and which tests to take. It is a good idea to take the SAT I and/or ACT in the spring to allow you time to review your results and retake the exams in the fall of your senior year, if necessary.

In the Spring Review college brochures and applications. Make appointments for summer interviews. Take SAT I and I, and ACT. Confirm next year's courses. Discuss college sports with your coach now. If you’re looking for an athletic scholarship, you may need advice on how best to position yourself.

In the Summer Results of AP tests arrive; start visiting and having interviews at colleges. Arranged orientations and Adopt-a-Student programs are ideal. Start a file of brochures and applications for schools you like. Meet

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with a consultant. Applications are available on-line after August 1. Copy applications and begin filling out draft pages. Decide if you are going to apply under a particular college's early decision or early action program. Many early decision programs are legally binding, requiring you to attend the college to which you are applying, should they accept you. Read your college mail and send reply cards to your schools of interest.

Senior Year • In the Fall Give any recommendation forms to the appropriate teachers or counselors with stamped, college-addressed envelopes; prepare for SAT I and I. Meet with college reps who visit your school. Set up interviews and college visits. Make a final list of schools that interest you and keep a file of deadlines and required admission items for each school. Last chance to take the SAT I and I; continue interviewing and meeting college reps; fill out college application forms; complete early applications for Nov. deadline. Find out from the colleges to which you are applying whether or not they need official copies of your transcripts (transcripts sent directly from your high school) sent at the time of application. Some early decision replies; mail applications to colleges with Jan. 1 deadlines; ask counselor about available scholarships, financial aid forms available after Dec. 1. Take some time to think about and outline any essays required. Register for December or January SAT I and/or SAT I tests, if necessary. Continue thinking about and beginning writing (if you have not already started) any essays to be included with your applications.

In the Winter Most regular decision applications due; most scholarship applications due. Early decision replies usually arrive between December 1 and December 31. If you haven't already done so, make sure your official test scores are being sent to the colleges to which you are applying. Make sure your parents have completed

their income tax forms in anticipation of the financial aid applications. Complete and submit your college financial aid application and the Free Application for Student Financial Aid (FAFSA) between January 1 and February 15, and check for other financial aid options. Submit these forms even if you think you will not qualify. You should receive your Student Aid Report (SAR) within four weeks. Make the necessary corrections and return it to the FAFSA processor as soon as possible in order to have your forms processed quickly. Request that your high school send your official transcripts to the colleges to which you are applying. Contact the admissions office(s) of the college(s) to which you have applied to make sure that your information has been received, and that they have everything they need from you.

In the Spring As college acceptance letters come in, make careful decisions with parents and counselor. Compare your acceptance letters, financial aid, and scholarship offers. Visit any schools you have not seen, overnight if possible. Most colleges request your reply by May 1. If you were placed on a waiting list for a particular college, and have decided to wait for an opening, contact that college and let them know you are still interested. Notify colleges as soon as you make a decision, as this will free up space for another student. Study college course catalogs and make a list of courses you would like to take next year.

In the Summer Send thank-you notes to anyone who assisted you during the admissions process. Contact your college to determine when fees for tuition, room and board are due and how much they will be. Attend freshman orientation at some colleges. Take placement exams offered by your college. You may start with credits in some basic classes. Start packing! You are ready for the adventure of a lifetime!

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i’m getting a job. Take a look around. What are people around you doing that may interest you? Do they enjoy their occupation? What type of training was required for that job? What do you expect to get from your job? You may be primarily concerned with the financial benefits, or maybe you just want a job that you will enjoy. Do you think you would a like physical occupation and working with your hands? Or, would you prefer a ‘desk job’? What do I want to be? This is a question that you must ask yourself in order to begin down a successful career path. However, this will raise many more important questions such as: Where do you want to live? Are you going to limit your job search to a small area? Are you open to moving across the city?...state?...country? What geographic elements will best contribute to your successes? Do you think you may eventually go to college. Will you need to be near a campus or community college to take part-time classes? Never close the door of opportunity. Have an open mind about your future. Allow yourself to gain knowledge about occupations that are different from your traditional interests. Although you may think now that you are not ready to continue your education, the option may be better for you in the future. Ready to get started? The first thing that you will need to do is put together a successful resume. Your resume will be your introduction to a new company. It is important to make sure that your resume is error-free and you include all of the necessary information for each job. You may have to alter your resume slightly for different companies. Contact a manager or the Human Resources department of the companies in which you are interested to find out what type of experience and education they prefer in their work force.

Come prepared. During your research, make up questions to ask the employer. At the end of 99% of interviews you will be asked if you have any questions. Ask questions relative to the company but not about compensation or benefits. Show them that you are interested! Relax. Go through you normal routine. Make sure that you are comfortable in your clothes and with all of your interviewing skills. Follow-up. Make sure that you send a personal thank you card to your interviewers. Also send one to anyone else with the company you have talked with including secretaries and the person who contacted you if he or she was not one of the interviewers.

Private Trade & Vocational School With over 120 private career schools in Maryland, there is a program for nearly every interest or field. The Maryland Higher Education Commission regulates every private school and protects students’ interests. All private career schools in Maryland are approved by the State, and many are accredited by national associations. Here are some questions to ask when shopping for a private career school: Is the school authorized to operate? What is the admissions policy? Does the program offer what you need? What does the training facility offer? Continued on page 20

Before an interview... Dress the part. Always dress for business. It is never unacceptable to dress professionally. Do your homework. Research the company as much as possible. See if you can pick up information about the company in advance. This also shows initiative and interest. If the company has a website, familiarize yourself with their service. Arrive on time. Arriving on time means, be there ten minutes early. This will show the company that you will be on time. If necessary, make the drive a day before your interview to clock your travel time. You’re being watched. From the time you leave your home act as if you are at your interview. Your interviewer could be driving the car in front of you or stopped next to you at a traffic light. It could be the person you cut off or don’t yield to. Practice your interview skills. Imagine different interview situations and how you would handle them, such as seating arrangements. Prepare for a one-on-one and for a group interview. Will you have a desk to protect you, or will your body be open?

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What are the instructors' qualifications? Do they offer job placement assistance? What other support services are offered? What about financial assistance? How much does the program cost? Did you receive a catalog? (Maryland Higher Education Commission Website www.mhec.state.md.us)

Distance Learning You’ve got to work, but you’d like to continue learning? Why not do both? Distance learning is the modern way to earn a real degree without sitting in class, today’s version of correspondence courses. Using the phone, internet, email, teleconferencing, and cable television, students can earn from a high school diploma up to a Ph.D. in many subjects. Benefits include lower cost, freedom of choice, learning at your own pace, and schedule flexibility. But distance learning is not for everyone. You need at least the following: • Strong self-motivation and self-discipline • Time to study regularly • Good organization skills • A quiet place to study • The necessary equipment, including phone, TV, computer • A supportive family

prom etiquette For the Ladies... 1. Do be on time. Don't keep your nervous date waiting. 2. Don't forget your date’s boutonniere. 3. Don't refresh your lipstick more than one time a the table. 4. Do reserve the first and last dance for your date. 5. Do accept compliments with a polite 'Thank you’ (rather than a ‘I don't think so’).

For the Gentlemen... 1. Do ask your date what color her dress is so that you may match her corsage to her dress. 2. Do ask your date if she would prefer a wrist corsage or a pinned on corsage (when in doubt, opt for the wrist corsage). 3. Don't forget the corsage. 4. Don't be late. 5. Don't lock your keys in your car. 6. Don't forget to turn off your car lights. 7. Do escort your date whenever appropriate. 8. Don't forget to tell her how beautiful she looks.

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Work and learn a job skill: a great formula for now and the future. Apprenticeship programs have much to offer in the way of career development. Apprentices are guaranteed pay raises throughout their apprenticeship, and successful completion of the program means better pay and a more stable work history. And the cost to you is small. But competition is often strong for the best positions, so pay attention: Union apprenticeship programs are typically split between supervised, on-the-job training and classroom study. Union membership will often be required. Skills learned here can be used anywhere there is a union shop. Employer-sponsored apprenticeship programs also combine on-the-job training and classroom work. Completion usually assures a permanent job, and instructors are usually the best in their fields. Be certain that the skills learned will be broad enough to transfer to another company or industry, if need be. Apprenticeship programs are registered through the Maryland Apprenticeship and Training Council, which has approved and registered programs for 221 occupations. Go to... www.dllr.state.md.us/labor/appr.html for more info.

For Everyone... 1. Do use words like Please and Thank you. 2. Do use the proper silverware. Usually you start using the outside fork and work your way in. 3. Do turn your salad fork upside down on the salad plate when you are finished. 4. Do turn your coffee cup upside down if you do not want any coffee. 5. Do put your napkin on your lap. 6. Don't put your napkin on the table until you are finished eating. 7. Do place your napkin on the back of your chair if you are leaving to use the rest room. 8. Don't drink and drive.

If dinner is not part of the prom, and you are planning to go out for dinner, bring $1 bills for coat-check($1 tip for each coat) and valet parking (around $5 plus $2 tip) Make sure to leave at least 15% tip on the entire check. It is customary for the boy to buy the girl a corsage for the prom. Try to find out what your date will be wearing, so you can avoid buying a color that will clash. The corsage may be worn on the body or wrist, always on the left.

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planning prom? Planning and successfully executing a Prom takes lots of planning, coordination, volunteers, energy, and imagination...

Here’s some help getting started... Prom Planning Timetable Here is a basic checklist and timeline to guide you in planning your Prom. Additional information follows in this section or in the After-Prom section. September > October

November > December

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❑ Collect Decorations

Form a Prom Committee Determine the Budget Start Fundraising Book the Facility

October > November ❑ ❑ ❑ ❑

Choose the Theme Choose the Menu Hire the Entertainment Order Favors & Accessories

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January > February ❑ Order Tickets & Programs ❑ Royal Court

February > March ❑ Organize Setup & Cleaning Crews

The Prom Committee Memorable Proms begin and end here. To break up the work into achievable tasks, each of the checklist items is sometimes delegated to a different subcommittee, often composed of prom committee members and possibly other interested or knowledgeable people. The subcommittee conducts the research and reports back to the Committee by a given date. The final decisions are made by the whole Committee.

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budgeting & fundraising List your sources of money: Prom tickets, PTA, fundraising activities, donations or sponsorships from businesses, ads in the program, parent donations. Use last year’s Prom or After-prom party as a basis, but also ask neighboring schools to share information. There are many opportunities to run fundraising events in your community throughout the year: Fundraising • Car washes. • Sell candy or donuts. • Sell magazine subscriptions or inexpensive imprinted logo items, like plastic stadium cups. • Group photo of the Class that you can sell back to the students. • Flower sales during holidays such as Valentine’s Day and Easter; Christmas poinsettia sales. • A well advertised yard sale can make money by selling spaces and by selling donated items. • Christmas wrap booth at the mall or local department store. • A talent show or concert. • A winter dance or sock hop. • An auction or silent auction with goods donated by businesses or individuals. • A pizza and pasta dinner.

Grants • Grant money may be available from several sources to help fund your celebration. Make this a priority to apply early. Check with the following sources: • Department of Motor Vehicles • Safe and Drug-Free School coordinator • Local Health Department or Bureau of Substance Abuse • Board of Education

Donations Federal and State laws vary, but all donations should be acknowledged with a thank you letter. Avoid duplicate soliciting through coordination with a chairperson. Donations may take several forms: • Cash • Food • Supplies, such as decorations or paper products • Discounts from businesses • Services, such as printing or duplication • Items used as gifts and prizes • Loan of equipment • Be certain any businesses that are solicited are those patronized by students or parents from your school.

Some Possible Donors: • Parents • School booster clubs • PTA/PTSO • Civic organizations (Optimists, Rotary, Lions, Kiwanis, etc.) • Chamber of Commerce Members • Local businesses • Substance abuse support groups (MADD, SADD) • Professionals (Doctors, Lawyers, Dentists) • Real Estate companies • Gas Stations - door prize • Flower Shops • Grocery Stores • Pizza Parlors • Printing and Copying Businesses • Local Newspapers - publicity; thank-you ad to recognize donations • Health clubs • Fast Food Restaurants • Car Dealership • Religious Community

Focus On the Mission: Sample Phone Script Parent support for an event that: • provides a safe environment for students. • will be adult supervised. • provides a wide variety of activities • is the the place to be for a great time after the prom! “May I please speak to _____ ?” “This is _____ with the _____ After-Prom Party Committee.” “I am joining with other parents this week who are calling senior parents of _____ high school students about the After-Prom Party.” “Did you read the flyer we sent in the mail?” 22

“Our mission is to provide students with a terrific time after the prom, and one which is safe.” “Does that sound like a good idea?” “All seniors are invited even if they do not attend the prom.” “In order to attract students to the party and keep them there, we are planning lots of things that are popular among teens. We will have a DJ and dancing, food, games, entertainers, and lots of prizes. In order to provide an event of this magnitude, we will need all the senior parents to support this event by making donations to the After-Prom Party.” “Many students will not decide until the last minute to attend the After-Prom

Party. We are not asking for a donation because your child has decided to attend the party, we are asking for a donation so that we can provide a party that sounds so great to the students that they will all want to attend.” “We are asking all parents of seniors for contributions towards the party. Contributions are tax deductible. Can we count on you for a donation?” “Check can be made payable to _____ . (PTA, PTSA, Parent Group, School, etc.) Please send contribution to _____ .” Keep a list of activities, prizes and information about the After-Prom Party while calling parents.

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The prom’s over but the night is still young. It’s on to the After-Prom Party! What’s an After-Prom Party? by another student. After-Prom Parties It’s a party that starts after the prom ends. • Great opportunity to network with are great for: Duh! More and more schools are now other high school parents.

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having such parties. Why? It’s a great way for a class to celebrate a last night together. And it’s safe – there are no drugs or alcohol, and it’s adultsupervised. Parents were the ones who came up with the idea of after-prom parties. They understand the intense pressure students sometimes face during prom season to indulge in activities that are seen as a “rite of passage”, such as the use of alcohol, tobacco and other drugs, and involvement in sexual activity. By providing an alternative that’s safe AND fun, they hope that teens will be able to resist behaviors and decisions that may harm themselves and others.

Students • Have a party to attend. • Have opportunity to be with friends as well as others they know from classes, clubs, or sports but may not socialize with. • Can play games, be entertained, and participate in activities not available elsewhere. • Admission is free or minimal. • Can add this to the prom for a whole night of wonderful memories. Parents • Know the party is adult supervised. • Know the party is drug/alcohol free. • Do not need to worry about their children being hurt as a result of alcohol/drug use by their child or use

• Many committees have gone on to provide other drug/alcohol free social events at their school - most for students some for parents. The Community • The entire community is safer during prom season when their students are not driving drunk or drugged. • Opportunity for the community to work together. • Support the attitude that alcohol and other drugs are not a necessary part of a celebration.

time at the After-Prom Party will be eligible to win the big prizes. For example: If the prom ends at 12 midnight and your party begins at 12 midnight decide that all Grand Prize tickets must be turned in by 1:00 a.m. Any students arriving later than 1:00 a.m. will be given everything that the other students receive with their registration packet minus the Grand Prize ticket. They can play the games, participate in the entertainment activities, eat, dance, and win raffle prizes as well as the very small prizes. But they will not have their name in for a Grand Prize. Each student can receive an invitation to the After-Prom Party with a number on it. When they arrive they will have an opportunity in the registration area to match their number with a winning number for a prize. Make this a very worthwhile prize. They must arrive by a certain time in order to match their number to be the prize winner. If the winning number does not arrive by the cut off time the prize is given away during the night as a raffle prize. Regardless of which way the prize is won, the prize does not leave the party until the end of the night. If there will be “funny money” used for the games or activities, students arriving before the designated time will receive a bonus amount in their envelope. The registration area is very important. It is the first part of the party that the students will see. Have some great decora-

tions in this area. Have your registration material very well organized. Do this before the night of the prom. Have enough tables so that this area is not too crowded or confusing. Have a sign-in sheet for guests. Guests are the responsibility of the person who has brought them. Have a sign-out sheet for anyone who leaves early. The sign-out sheet is for your liability protection. Keep the sign-out after the party is over. Hang posters in this area with the instructions for the party and the activities. Post a schedule of the evening activities. Have something for the students to do as soon as they register. This is a good spot to have a “guess how many” prize activity.

at the door Attendance at the prom is not necessarily required for admission to the After-Prom Party. In most cases, all seniors are invited regardless of whether they attend the prom. Some schools focus on this as a “Senior Celebration” or a “Grad Gala” to encourage all the senior students to attend. The more students you have at the After-Prom Party, the more likely you are to hold the group until the end of the night. Tickets are not necessary for admission to the After-Prom Party. Admission is done in a variety of ways - tickets, no tickets, tickets with a fee, tickets without a fee, reservations, no reservations. Some schools use neither reservations nor tickets - a “just show up at the door” policy. This enables students to decide on attending the After-Prom Party even as late as when they are leaving the prom. Some schools have a “cut off” time after which students will not be admitted while others admit students all night. If students will be admitted at any time during the party, you will want to offer some incentives for the students to arrive early. Grand prizes shouldn’t be given to students that have arrived an hour before the party ends. The biggest and best prizes should go to the students that have invested their evening in the After-Prom Party. Set up guidelines so that the students who arrive early enough to invest their Visit us online at www.promsplus.com

Suggest to the students as they come in: • Read the instructions on “How to Win”. • Check the schedule for the evening. • Check to see if your number matches the winning number for the registration prize. • Sign your tickets – door prize, raffle prize, grand prize tickets, etc. • Put your raffle tickets in the raffle drum and your grand prize tickets in the grand prize drum. • Sign the graffiti wall.

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choosing a facility Determine your location early! Aside from the school gymnasium, banquet halls, restaurants and other locations get booked up for your date quickly. Many other aspects of the event, including menu, decorations, entertainment, not to mention the budget, depend upon the choice of the facility. The party and the activities are far more important than the facility. Successful parties have been held anywhere from warehouses to Bay cruises and country clubs. Although students do like to have parties someplace other than their high school, many successful parties are held in school gyms. The advantages of a school gym are the proximity to the students’ homes as well as the size and height of the room. These are often popular for Junior Proms, and save quite a bit on a tight budget. Other popular places are bowling alleys, college student unions, movie theatres, children’s museums, athletic and health clubs, restaurants popular with the teen crowd (ESPN Zone, Harbor Cruises), shopping malls and the YMCA. Consider function halls such as armories, fire halls, and VFW; for these you will need to hire a caterer. Whatever the facility, make sure that in-house staff will be on hand to solve last minute problems. Why doesn’t this outlet work? Can we have another trash can? There’s water all over the Ladies’ room. Stuff happens. Only someone with the authority and knowledge to solve your problem will prevent it from becoming a disaster.

Consider the following when choosing a facility: Decorations What decorations will the facility allow? How early can the decorations committee begin their project? Give yourself plenty of time. Unloading and setting up ladders, tables, prizes, decorations, etc. will take a great deal of time. If the time will be short, increase the number of volunteers.

Bag Room For the After-Prom Party, some students

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will want to change into more casual attire. Others may have purses or personal belongings they will want to check. Do not allow students to carry book bags or any other carry bags into the party. Controlling everything that can be carried around in book bags, duffel bags, sports bags, etc. will be impossible. Allowing carry bags into the party puts the parents in a position that may be seen as confrontational.

Insurance The facility may require an insurance certificate stating that your group is covered for liability insurance. Contact the insurance agent for your school or group. Find out if the facility has insurance to cover any activities not covered on your school or parent group policy. If the facility does not carry insurance for the activity in question, you may be able to buy a temporary rider policy to cover the liability for the activity.

Food Prep Area This is not required but is a great convenience. Most facilities allow the group to bring in donated food. If you will be purchasing food or beverage, check to see if there are any guidelines such as contracts with soda suppliers or a list of approved caterers.

Parking The parking area should be well lit and close to the party. You will need enough space to accommodate the crowd. Many students ride to the prom and after-prom party in a limousine or bus. They may have cars dropped off at the after-prom party site early in the evening.

Size A space large enough to handle all the activities and the students but small enough to make them feel secure. Teens like to feel like part of a crowd. Put as much in an area as possible. You don’t want the size of the facility to dwarf the size of the crowd. Measure the size and the height of the room. You will need this information to be sure the entertainment equipment can be accommodated.

What’s On the Menu?

• Menu options include a full sit-down dinner, a buffet, or finger foods. Your budget, options offered by the facility or caterer, the preferences of the students, the theme, and even school tradition play a part in helping you decide this. • Many facilities have a professional catering staff who have served numerous high school proms successfully. Listen to their advice carefully. • If your committee is deciding between several dishes, ask for a taste test. • A written contract will usually be required, often with a guaranteed minimum. The final count will be required perhaps a week or ten days prior to the event, so plan ticket sales accordingly. • Get all aspects of the meal and evening detailed in the contract. Don’t forget about a soda or frozen smoothie bar, desserts, appetizer and bread trays, danish at midnight, and so on. Everything is negotiable, but only before the contract is signed. • If you are planning to bring any food in from outside, ask first. Many facilities where proms are held strictly prohibit or limit this. • Food is important, but not critical for a good time. Many students don’t care or can’t remember what they ate at their prom. You’re there to celebrate with your friends. Atmosphere, entertainment, and company have a lot to do with the success of an event. • Keep The Food Simple. Pizza, subs, soda are favorites. Donuts, danish, fruit for breakfast. Stay away from unusual foods. • Use small signs to identify foods when lights are dimmed. • Avoid over-ordering food; be realistic when donations of food are offered. If a particular food runs out, just offer something else. Don’t forget that lots of leftovers means lots of work at 5:00 am. • Use buffet tables in several areas to avoid congestion, with portions served throughout the night, rather than only at scheduled times, which interrupts other activities. • Use adult chaperones to circulate with trays of food and drink around the various activities, and don’t forget the chaperones at the exit doors.

• If a full meal is not planned, start the prom later, in order to give people time to dine out.

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themes and decorating Many of the most exciting events are planned far in advance, sometimes by a separate decorations/theme chairperson. The following are tips on themes and decorations to get you started. Can a Prom and an After-Prom Party have different themes? You bet they can! These tips are good for either type of event. The decor could be variations of the same theme, or completely different. One theme could be a bit more romantic, one a bit more fun. Choose a theme early, so that all decorations, activities, food and publicity can be planned around it. The tickets, publicity, entry-way, and registration should all be tied in to the theme some way. Themes need not be original and the success of the event can be enhanced by borrowing decorations, games and ideas from other classes or other schools. Many parties use the same basic activities each year, but they change them to suit a brand new theme. One Note of Caution: Follow all copyright laws, do not use licensed characters in ANY form without written permission from the copyright owner. Giving credit at the bottom of the program does NOT count. Consult an attorney if you are unsure. The decoration chairperson should submit a proposed budget to the steering or main committee. This is often better than being allotted what is left after other expenses. Decorations help set the mood for the party and make it an unforgettable experience. Don’t overlook the services of a professional party/event planner. They sometimes have great cost-saving ideas, can make props for less than you could purchase them, and can often hire vendors and even caterers cheaper than you can. They also can help steer

you away from dangerous situations that might not be approved by the Fire Marshall, who must be contacted prior to the event. Give them a budget and let them do much of the work. If your budget allows, use a professional decorator early, at least for some decorations that may not be possible to have using volunteers. Think of it as “helping hands” and use their expert advice to develop affordable elements of your theme. Then proceed to add decorations that coordinate with your theme as volunteers come forward or money is raised. Supply decoration committee members with copies of the facility guidelines and floor plan. It is difficult, if not impossible, to decorate all areas of a huge facility. Concentrate on several areas: entrance, registration, food, prizes, DJ or band, games, etc. Stores that sell refrigerators have large boxes that can be unfolded, painted and cut for backdrops – skylines, trees, fountains, beach sandcastles, tents, etc. Set up a decorations bank and share with neighboring high schools. Here are a few of many possible themes for both Proms and After-Proms. Wizard of Oz Paris A Night in the Orient Day at the Beach Circus Survivor Fabulous Fifties Music Mardi Gras New Years’ Eve in New York Cruise to Nowhere See our website for more details on these theme ideas.

tips for a safe prom Keep an eye on your date/driver to make sure he/she doesn’t drink any alcohol. Alcohol slows reaction time and impairs vision, clear thinking, judgment, and coordination. There are more drunk drivers on the roads during the weekend. Keep a close eye on oncoming drivers, as impaired drivers tend to drive towards lights. Know where you’re going before prom night and have directions to those places. After your red light turns green, wait a second before pulling into the intersection, just to be safe. Drive on well lit roads, and carry a phone if possible. That way, if you get a flat tire, you’re not stranded, waving down a cab with your silk tie or sequin purse. Beautiful girls are distracting enough - keep the radio volume turned low enough so your drive can concentrate on getting you to the fun. 26

And don’t forget your seat belt! Discuss plans with your friends/date ahead of time. Know your agenda and communicate with your parents. Plan ahead what you will say or do if someone offers you alcohol or another illegal drug. Use phrases such as, “No thanks,” “Are you kidding? I want to remember this night!”, or “Actually, I’d rather have a soda. Do you have one?” Know your date before you go. If your date is set-up, try to take a walk at a park or go for a smoothie before the big night. Both you and your parents will feel better about you staying out late with someone you know. Find out what your curfew is and share it with your date/friends before prom night. Discuss with your parents aftercurfew possibilities (the party at your friend’s house or early morning breakfast at your place). Ask a trusted adult to be near a phone and to be available prom night in case you need to call them. Carry enough change to make several phone calls. Courtesy of MADD, www.madd.org Mothers Against Drunk Driving Tell everyone you found it in PromsPlus!

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after-prom entertainment Keeping the party going is critical at the After-Prom! A combination of games, activities, entertainment, food, and give-aways attracts students AND keeps them at the party... Unless the facility already has great music, you’ll need a DJ or band to keep the Party going. Entertainment can be of a wider variety than at the Prom. Follow the suggestions for bands and DJ’s in the Prom Entertainment section, and for all entertainers, request and check references. There are a vast number of cool and exciting events and activities for an after-prom party. See the list at the right for ideas. Many of the alternate entertainment also need lots of space and electrical power. Ask the providers and check with the facility manager. Don’t forget about activities native to the after-prom facility: bowling, video games, sports activities, etc. Make prize giveaways part of the entertainment! Solicit donations of money and/or gifts, and keep announcing winners throughout the night.

Here is a list of just some of the activities you can have at an After-Prom Party: Activities Rented from a Vendor Inflatable Games and Rides Arcade games Caricatures Fire Eaters Game shows Carnival Games Batting Cages Basketball Cages Magicians Balloon Twisters Clowns

Face painting Hands in Wax Mini Stock Car Racing Song Recording Booths Fortune Tellers Hairwraps Temporary Tattoos Virtual Reality Games Air Hockey Tables Fooseball Tables Pool Tables Fun Photos Photo Stickers Mechanical Bull Rides Telescope Photos Photo Souvenirs Laser Tag Rock Mountain Sumo Wrestling Video Recording Booth Casino Games Bouncy Boxing Money Booths Bouncy Boxing Human Bowling Moon Bounce Video Surfing Velcro Olympics Contests Your Committee Can Arrange Hoola Hoop Pie eating Dance Stilt-walking Limbo Best Legs (Guys) Guess How Many Funniest Home Video Trivia Contest Teen-aged photo of teacher ID contest Athletic Activities Arm wrestling Basketball Bowling Frisbee throw Frisbee golf Nerf fencing Roller skating Tug-of-war Volleyball Beauty Related Face painting Beauty Makeovers Hair Studio

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Tattoo Parlor (Body paints) Fingernail Painting Toenail Painting Memories Class photos - project slides on wall all evening Class video - tape events throughout the year and run a video loop all evening Yearbook signing Graffiti wall Entertainment Fortune Tellers Magicians Balloon Twisters Clowns Caricatures Fire Eaters Game shows Fireworks

DJ’s and bands Light Shows Strolling jugglers Carnival Games NOTE: The following familiar carnival games should be modified to fit your theme. Examples: Toss pennies into saucers, becomes Toss gold coins into chest for a Mardi Gras theme or Toss cracker gold fish into fish bowls for a beach theme. Hoops over bottles Darts at balloons Races Throw football thru tire Bean bags through holes

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I need help finding a beautiful dress for my formal, which is in a month or so. I won't bore you with details of my social life, but suffice to say it is important that I look good. I own several beautiful vintage cocktail dresses that I inherited from my grandmother, but I'm terrified to wear them to prom!! I don't want to wreck them! Is it possible to either get them copied or find something similarly styled? They all have knee length circle skirts and corset bodices (huzzah for major flattery!) and I haven't been able to find a similar style that's formal enough!!! I see why you are nervous about donning your grandmother's vintage threads on prom night. But, I do have to point out that beautiful dresses were meant to be worn! If you are dead set on leaving those dresses in the closet on prom night, you just might be able to hunt out a few good replicas. Tonja Stevens, of Bridal Elegance in Eldersburg, agrees that corset gowns are in. If you are looking for the bubble skirt, then make sure to check out the bridesmaid gowns and not just the prom gowns. She notes, "No one is going to know the difference, and this year more bridesmaid gowns are being sold for prom than prom gowns!!!! Plus more color options to make those eyes POP." I asked a guy friend from another school to go with me to my prom. What do I have to pay for?? COMMON QUESTION, BUT NO EASY ANSWERS. A typical scenario is this: You pay for the ticket and a boutonniere for him. He buys you a corsage. You share the ride, dinner, you buy your dress, shoes, etc. He rents the tux. If you are sporting, you may pay for photos to share, or a photo key chain, etc. He may appreciate your gestures, or he may be insulted because he wanted to at least pay his own way. This varies person to person. We can't tell from here, so you'll need to talk to him about this, and the sooner the better. Don't be afraid, just a short chat (in person, not IM) to clear things up, so you can relax and enjoy your Prom. There is this guy I want to ask to prom. I just asked if he was going, he said nah, I just wanna cruise around that night. He's a senior and I would really like to go with him but scared to ask! What do I do? Short answer: Hold your breath and ask him. If you wait, he may decide to go with someone else who asks him first! Longer answer: Just because he SAYS he doesn't want to go, doesn't mean he won't say yes when asked. After all, boys are often pretty shy about asking girls, and they take rejection as hard or harder than girls. So the "I'm just gonna cruise around" line could really mean, "I'll go if you go with me." You'll never know unless you ask. Visit us online at www.promsplus.com

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When Your Teen Asks: “Did You Ever Use Drugs?” Unless the answer is no, it is difficult to know what to say because nearly all parents who used, don‘t want their children to do the same thing. The response should be honest lying risks losing credibility and teaches your children to lie. This doesn’t mean parents need to recount every moment of their experience. Some details should remain private. Ask clarifying questions to make sure you understand why your children are asking. This discussion provides a good opportunity for parents to speak frankly and explains why they want their children to avoid making the same mistake.

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