Love Magnet Quiz: What Signals Are You Sending to Men? The Love Magnet Quiz was designed to help you understand what signals you are sending to men. In this Quiz, you will discover:
Is your heart open to a new relationship? Are you holding the weight of your past relationships? What patterns need to be broken, in order to attract the right relationship? How attractive and magnetic are you to ‘the one’?
Note: Please be honest as possible – i.e. answer in a way that naturally arises, rather than what you would ideally desire. This is for you. And, only you. An “ex” is any man with whom you had a deep connection or relationship with - whether you were married, dated, or otherwise.
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1. Overall, your life feels… A.
Balanced. There’s a good balance between work, play and passion – and now you’re ready to to meet someone to share your life with long-term
B.
Busy. You’re either working or dating – never a free moment to even think
C.
Sad and anxious – you’re in a rut
D.
A little ‘pointless’. Your dating life is practically nonexistent. You would rather spend your time working and making progress there
2. Your family blueprint around love is important to understand. Which statement most closely describes your parents’ relationship while you were growing up? A.
Your parents loved, accepted and respected each other. There was free flow of communication, and not too much drama
B.
Your parents were pretty loving but there were some arguments, and quite a bit of compromise
C.
Your parents’ relationship was almost too perfect – including the way they met!
D.
There was pain, suffering or betrayal
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3. Choose which statement is most resonant for you: A.
You’re close to both parents equally
B.
You’re closer to your dad – you feel a little disappointed in your mom
C.
You’re closer to your mom – you feel a little disappointed in your dad
D.
You’re either distant, or angry with them
4. Your relationship with men (in your personal or work life) is… A.
Healthy. There’s a free flow of banter and seriousness; and you feel comfortable being ‘you’
B.
Pretty good – but there are many times when you have to ‘hide’ your true self, or do/say things that aren’t really ‘you’
C.
Somewhat painful – there are many times where you feel suppressed or
D.
A little violent – in thought, word or action. There is at least one man in your life with whom you feel betrayed, hurt or victimized
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mistrustful
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5. When you think of your ex, you… A.
…think, “Hope he’s happy!” and sincerely wish him true happiness
B.
…know he wasn’t ‘the one’, but still, it hurts that you both broke up
C.
…stay up nights questioning yourself and what you did wrong
D.
…are annoyed and angry with yourself for wasting your precious time and energy on him
6. (Quick Meditative exercise) Do this 3 minute guided meditation… then scroll down for an answer. Listen here. -------------A. B. C. D.
Open, and excited. Wow, finally, an amazing connection! Who knows where this will go! Happy, yet curious. Your analytical mind starts churning, weighing the pros and cons and what ifs… Guarded. Whoa – where does this guy think he’s going? Disbelief. I’m visiting for a short trip – there’s no future here! www.sarikajain.com
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7. The patterns that you see in your dating life are… A.
You seem to be attracting the ‘right’ men and are having a great time on wonderful dates. Now it’s just a matter of finding ‘the one’!
B.
The men you meet are either too needy or emotionally unavailable
C.
Either you, or the other person, feel lack of chemistry, guarded, or start withdrawing after the 1st or 2nd date.
D.
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You avoid making an effort altogether. You’re letting destiny take its course
Do you believe that you will meet ‘the one’? A.
Yes, I am confident that I will attract my dream partnership. I have self-confidence and know that I’m worthy of love!
B.
I believe I will, but I think it will take time, patience, hard work, and a lot of compromise
C.
I think that almost anyone can be right, if both are willing to work at it (not like my ex!)
D.
I guess it’s possible, but I’ve had a lot of bad experiences
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9. Choose which fits you best: A.
You enjoy receiving and giving gifts and compliments equally
B.
You feel wonderful receiving – but you’re more comfortable with giving and helping others
C.
You feel embarrassed receiving. You’re more of a giver and fixer in relationships
D.
You feel shut down in giving and receiving withdrawing after the 1st or 2nd date.
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Assessment: What Signals Are You Sending to Men? Instructions: Do this math: (Example provided in gray)
Total # Multiplier Total
A 2 3 6
B 4 2 8
C 2 1 2
D 1 0 0
Total (sum of bottom row) = 16 See assessment below. Remember, these are the subconscious signals you are sending to men, followed by some inner work that could aid you in getting the love you deserve. Please remember to not take these things too personally; rather use it as a directional tool.
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Score: 0 – 6 Signal you’re sending to men: Debbie Downer “I need serious help! I can barely get out of bed in the mornings and I hate my life. I need to find meaning and purpose—not a relationship! If you are attracted to me, there’s something wrong!”
Your Love Assessment: You are likely not attracting men because, right now, you need to focus on self-love and self-care. You’re jaded with life, and have practically given up on finding love. Perhaps you are still dealing with a breakup and are heartbroken. Take a 1-2 month hiatus from dating. There’s some deep mental and emotional healing that you need to do. Focus on self-love, restoring your faith and belief in yourself, life and relationships – and even look into some spiritual grounding/healing work and therapy before you begin dating.
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Score: 7 – 14 Signal you’re sending to men: Lost Lisa “I’m not ready for someone serious yet. I’m still getting my life together and maybe even getting over a past relationship. But, I’m still jonesin’ for some lovin’. Come and have fun with me – but don’t get too close!”
Your Love Assessment: You are attracting men who aren’t serious or emotionally available. They think you’re attractive, but instinctively know that you’re really guarded, too busy or really afraid of being vulnerable. You seem a little lost and are prone to getting duped. Each bad date you go on makes you feel worse about yourself. You need to restore your faith in yourself, clear out negative influences in your life, and focus on self-love and self-care. There may also be some deep-rooted anger or discontent you need to clear. Work with someone to to heal your emotional wounds (from family or past relationships), some stress reduction and
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10 mindfulness techniques. Learn skills on creating healthy boundaries and standing up for yourself (compassionately). Read books on what a healthy relationship looks like - and create more faith and belief in your abilities to be in healthy, loving relationships. If you see patterns in your love life, seek out spiritual or energetic healing to clear these inner blocks.
Score: 15 – 21 Signal you’re sending to men: Picture Perfect Patricia “I’m ready for love, but there’s some mixed messages and signals I’m sending about whom I want in my life and what kind of life I want to live. I have this picture of what the perfect guy should be like. If you fit my checklist, I’ll be extra nice to you (but please don’t take advantage of me!)”
Your Love Assessment: You’re waiting to be swept off your feet. You are attracting men who are great at pretending they are ‘the one’ online, but are disappointing in person. More than likely, even they are dating off of a checklist. But is that what you really want?
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11 You’re a really ‘nice girl’, and probably a ‘giver’ and ‘fixer’ in relationships. This can come off as being inauthentic, controlling or too emasculating for a man. You probably haven’t a) figured out your true inner beauty or what your soul truly desires; b) mastered skills in dating and being in loving relationships, and c) being feminine enough. You’re also likely a little clouded in your vision of your life, are afraid of taking risks, and maybe even holding onto past wounds from family or exes that you still need to heal. In this energy, you are likely to attract ‘Mr. Good Enough’. Take some time in ‘being your own soulmate’, discovering your inner beauty, clearing your spiritual or energetic blocks. Learn about what your own version of a loving relationship really looks and feels like. Restore your faith in Extraordinary Love!!
Score: 22 – 27 Signal you’re sending to men: Magnetic Marissa “I am ready for ‘the One’! There are some things I need to tweak in my life… but overall I’m fun and confident in what I want. I am a loving, powerful and sexy woman. I’m not afraid of intimacy. Get ready for the best love of your life, Mister!”
Your Love Assessment: Good for you! You’re already attracting some wonderful men! You have a realistic view of what a healthy relationship looks and feels like.
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You’re positive, strong, and have passion oozing from your pores. Then why are you still single, you ask? You may still have a couple of sneaky spiritual or energetic blocks that may be preventing you from moving forward, such as closing an ‘Ex File’, suppression of your deepest desires, settling for ‘good enough’, or a childhood wound. Also, your life may not be ‘in sync’ with a loving relationship with ‘the one’. You may be out of alignment with your life’s purpose, which is making you a little restless or sad inside. Or you may need to take steps in preparing for being in a healthy relationship (making more room in your schedule for love or learning dating/relationship skills). Take some time in ‘being your own soulmate’, discovering your true inner purpose, and learning skills to attract and be in your unique loving relationship. Restore your faith in Extraordinary Love!!
Thank you for taking this quiz!
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13 I went from a near-break-up to getting engaged! “When I started working with Sarika, I was experiencing severe anxiety and self-doubt, even though I was an attractive woman and successful in my career. I was in a relationship that was crumbling, and I was scared and confused. I am so delighted with my relationship right now!! My partner now looks at me with such deep love in his eyes. It’s quite beautiful! It makes me feel seen and cared for. With him I had the experience of feeling love like a palpable energy and it’s great. We’ve even started having conversations around getting engaged and what marriage will look like! To call Sarika a relationship coach is a huge understatement – she’s a master healer and combines practical and spiritual wisdom in her coaching. I’m forever grateful to her!” Emily G, NYC I am now married to an amazing man, and have a beautiful baby! “Sarika’s coaching was immensely valuable in all stages of the dating process, from developing a positive mindset, to being a sexy, fun date. Her approach was helpful in keeping me out of bad dating habits, and learn how to date effectively online. Having been through the ups and downs herself of the entire spectrum of the dating process, she provides an invaluable perspective. This, coupled with her empathy and strong communication skills, make her a fantastic coach. I would recommend her skills for anyone who is seriously looking for the right one! I am now married with an amazing man (and now have a baby!) and couldn’t be happier with my life. Thank you for helping make my dreams come true, Sarika!” Smita J, NYC
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14 I attracted a wonderful man, as soon as I started coaching with Sarika! “The day I started my coaching with Sarika was the day when my man came back into my life… talk about synchronicity! Prior to coaching, I had gone on 86 first dates, and was deeply disturbed and devastated by my relationship patterns. I was at wit’s end, and needed spiritual healing. I was glad I started working with Sarika at the start of my relationship, so that I could learn how to be love in a healthy way, and face my blocks. I have now healed so many of my sabotage patterns, and I can say that I have never had such a deep, beautiful relationship with a man before. I’ve gotten so good at love, that even my boyfriend’s sister comes to me for advice!” Maya M., New York I feel abundant, like there is already one million dollars in my bank! I can already feel my man coming into my life. "Sarika is in one word: amazing. She is extremely generous with her time and energy and more than that you can FEEL that she cares for you and she is giving her utmost for you to grow. She is one of the best coaches I have worked with. I was very anxious and fearful about love and money when I started. I was stuck, but with her guidance and very gentle encouragement, I find myself on the verge of taking a leap! I honestly feel like a different person. Her clearing sessions are absolutely amazing. For me, it was an experience outside of linear time, and a week later I am still feeling the effects. I feel so energized and full of possibilities. It was a breakthrough. I feel abundant, like there is already one million dollars in my bank! I can already feel my man coming into my life. I really love and appreciate Sarika for all the help she has given me and I highly recommend that you work with her! The investment in yourself is worth it!” Fatima V, NYC
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Sarika Jain is a Love & Relationship Coach for smart, successful women who want it all – career, family and personal fulfillment. Sarika uses a highly personalized, holistic approach, and partners with women to break through their painful relationship patterns and learn cutting-edge relationship skills to become magnetic to healthy, joyful love. A ‘go-getter’ woman herself, Sarika left the corporate world to use her business strategy skills to support women where it matters most – in one’s love life. Sarika lives with her husband, Krishan Patel, in New York City, and leads a playful, passionate life. For their honeymoon last December, they traveled to Bali for a month!
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