Life Coaching NLP Mini Stella Course

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Life Coaching NLP Mini Stella Course Welcome to The Life Coaching Mini Stella Course. Essential Coaching's Via E-Mail Course to coaching yourself'. The course is designed to train you to become certify, and to help others to create the life of their dreams. Improve your life.. Improve others lives. However, if you apply the principles consistently yourself, then you will soon be noticing some major changes. Are you ready and willing to take action? OK, let’s get you all clue up, let's start your training....

The most effective way to unleash the power of the human mind is to provide it with . . . Subliminal Messages. Many powerful Leaders, Statesmen/women, Businessmen/women, etc...Have all use some sort of 'Subliminal Messaging' in their lives to propel them to success. If you' ve ever heard of Subliminal Messaging, you might be recalled to the crazed publicity of the 1970's, when advertisers inserted messages in ads, in order to increase sales. But what ARE subliminal messages? They're messages designed not to be interpreted by the conscious mind, but instead by the subconscious. For example, the subliminal messages on subliminal CDs are barely audible............not loud enough for the conscious mind to pick up on, but just enough for the subconscious to piece together what is being spoken. However audio messages are one thing... but VISUAL subliminal messages and by far the most powerful. That is, flashing a message in front of the eye so quickly (typically around 100 milliseconds) that the conscious brain simply can't comprehend -- while the subconscious absorbs the information and begins to influence the mind. Ads in the 60's proved this when one flashed the phrases "I want popcorn" and "Drink more coke" for just 100 -milliseconds in front of a movie audience. Nobody "saw" the messages, but during that sitting popcorn sales shot up 57.8% and coke sales rocketed 18.1%. And that was just with one message. Now what if you could send such messages... to YOURSELF? What if you could send powerful messages to change your life, to improve your memory, to stop smoking, to develop a creative mindset, to experience fantastic business success, to enjoy amazing public speaking skills, and more? And what if you could send such messages hundreds of times, straight to your subconscious, every single day?

Here are several factors which affect whether subliminal messages will be effective. The message should be in the first person (using I or me).

The message should be in the present tense. The message should be positive and must not be the reverse of a negative. You should write the message as if you are talking to yourself. Your subconscious mind works in the present only so the messages should be in the present tense. You should prompt your mind about things you do want to think about and you should be careful not to remind it of things you do not want to think about. For example, if you write I do not want to smoke then the image which your mind uses is based on the word smoke and you are constantly reminded of this image which is not productive. Example of using your own subliminal messages: Good: You should use the first person (I am happy), current tense (I am happy), positive affirmations (I am happy). (This positive affirmation would have a direct impact on the image which your mind will conjure up when you read the message). Bad: You should be careful not to use negative affirmations (eg I am not sad) because these remind you of negative thoughts. (This negative affirmation would create an unhelpful image in your mind when you read the message).

Be Happy And Use Positive Affirmations

You should experiment for yourself and it is best to personalise the messages to yourself and your Clients situation. The Main secret is to use Subliminal Messages for Life Coaching. You can improve any aspect of your life and others with Subliminal Messages. Here's just a few examples: you can easily stop smoking lose weight remove bad habits conquer stress achieve success and much more The most effective way to unleash the power of the human mind is to provide it with . . . .

Subliminal Messages. They show you that you have been using but a small part of your real abilities -- that back in your "subliminal mind", as the scientists call it, is a sleeping Giant who, awakened, can carry you on to fame and fortune almost overnight! A Genie-of-your-Brain as powerful, as capable of satisfying your every wish, as was ever Aladdin's wonderful Genie-of-thelamp of old. 3. They make your Day Dreams, your visions of wonderful achievement, of fortune, health and happiness --COME TRUE-- not five, ten, or fifteen years from now, but TODAY, A.D. 2006! Messaging draws your goal to you easily and effortlessly without causing you to be pretentious when it happens, or when it is about to happen. Applying this to your Clients is a must. Whatever 'Life Scripts' you use on them, always use (you) when addressing them, and for yourself always use (I).

33 Power Suggestions: You are now achieving what you want to achieve and feel outstanding. You now feel honored about doing new things. You now feel free of fear and are free of fear. You now feel free of guilt and are free of guilt. You now feel free of pain and are free of pain. You now feel free of shame and are free of shame. You now feel calm and are calm. You now feel loved and are loved. You now feel lucky and are lucky. You now feel persuasive and successful and are persuasive and successful. You now feel positive and are positive. You now feel powerful and are powerful. You now feel prosperous and are prosperous. You now feel rich and are rich. You can now concentrate easily and experience a feeling of accomplishment. You can now control what you eat and drink and love the satisfying feeling of total selfcontrol. You now enjoy challenges. You now enjoy exams. You now enjoy excitement. You now enjoy laughing. You now enjoy life. You now enjoy listening to other people. You now enjoy making money. You now enjoy your profession.

You now enjoy yourself. You now enjoy optimal health. You now enjoy sharing your thoughts and feelings with others. You now enjoy spending time learning the finer points of your sport. You now enjoy spending time relaxing. You now enjoy studying and passing exams. You now enjoy the company of others. You now enjoy visiting your friends. You now enjoy what you do. Using messages daily for 30 days will bring results The most efffective messages are the ones that you make up yourself Saying messages daily - they program your subconscious mind (subconscious doesn't know difference between reality & imagination) after a while powerful message move into the superconscious realms sound vibrations help manifestation / 'First there was the word..the word was God (OM)' you can multiply messages by any number eg. I affirm that these mesages are amplified / multiplied a million times! Denials Denials are not denying anything as such, it is rather a statement of truth Unfortunately most of us have program our subconsciouses (lower selves) with negative words such as; I am a loser! I'll never be slim / happy I'm always late I'm not worthy of love / money / happiness even saying I'm stressed, or he's a pain in the neck / backside may well manifest in stress and pains in awkward areas. The key is to become aware of your subconscious programming in the present moment The way that you use your 'word, thought and deed' actually determines how you experience reality - you do literally co-create your reality Honest Words, pure thought & right action lead to good powerful actions- you sow, shall you reap)

'Say the word, and you shall be healed' - say the truth and you shall be whole / free! Be honest to yourself and stop pre-tending ( tending to the past) For maximum happiness and inner peace Live in the moment and be aware of your inner and outer dialogue

FaQ Hypnotherapy Diploma Training and Life Coaching This Training will take you to a practitioner level 1. that will make you a leader in the fields of Hypnotherapy and Life Coaching Key benefits of this training Comprehensive training; so you feel prepared and confident to practice on graduationgain the diploma AND certification as a Practitioner of NLP (Neuro linguistic programming). How does our course compare to other ones? The syllabus is second to none we are much cheaper then any- other!. Why some charge £200 to £2,800 a course. Our is only a one of fee of £19.97 or Limited offer £5 to 10. We feel that Life Coaching Courses are too expensive, so we offer a cheaper version. No one provides the range of knowledge that you'll get on your tiring course. Short, quick, easy, and cheap-straight to the point with download printable Certification, send to you by us once you buy the Course. We will modify the Diploma to have your name on it for you to download and print out. How much does Life Coaches earn and charge Clients? Life Coaches Earn Approx… £50 to £1000 a hour! The most successful life Coaches Earn around £100,000 a year.!

1. Take 100% responsibility for your life. Take the decision to take full responsibility for the life you create. If you want to be successful, you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life, including your achievements, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and fitness, your debts, your emotions and everything else!

2. What do you REALLY want? Most people know what they DON'T want and yet many do not know what they DO want. Take 5 minutes now. Take a piece of paper and ask yourself 'If I could have ANYTHING in the world that I wanted, what would it be?'

3. Believe in yourself List 10 achievements in your life that you are proud of. Whenever you feel doubt creeping in, refer to this list and remind yourself of who you REALLY are.

4. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Whenever we begin to make changes in our lives that take us out of our comfort zones, we feel uncomfortable. Everyone experiences fear when making changes in their lives. Embrace the fear ? and take action.

5. Be Positive Most people fail, not because they lack the skills or aptitude to reach their goal, because they simply don't believe that they can reach it. Keep positive... and keep taking action!

Life Coaching Skills can be very rapid and effective in treating many diverse problems including;

Phobias Self esteem & self confidence Stress Relaxation & Sleep Eating disorders Performance anxieties Panic attacks M.E. Weight issues Past lives Pain control Physical symptoms Digestive problems, I.B.S Allergies Smoking & other addictions & compulsions Limiting Beliefs Effective personal and business management Peak performance Personal and team motivation Creativity and productivity issues Developing Corporate strategies

Module 1: What does a life coach do? Different types of coaching Performance coaching. Coaching activities here are aimed at enhancing an individual’s performance in their current role at work, to increase their effectiveness and productivity at work. Generally, performance coaching derives its theoretical underpinnings and models from business and sports psychology as well as general psychological theory. Skills coaching. This form of coaching focuses on the core skills an employee needs to perform in their role. Skills coaching provides a flexible, adaptive, ‘just-in-time’ approach to skills development. Coaching programmes are tailored specifically to the individual and are generally focused on achieving a number of skill development objectives that are linked to the needs of the organisation. Career Coaching. Coaching activities focus on the individual’s career concerns, with the coach eliciting and using feedback on the individual’s capabilities as part of a discussion of career options. The process should lead to increased clarity, personal change and forward action. Personal or life coaching. This form of coaching provides support to individuals wishing to make some form of significant changes happen within their lives. Coaches help individuals to explore what they want in life and how they might achieve their aspirations and fulfil their needs. Personal/life coaching generally takes the individual’s agenda as its start point. Business coaching. Business coaching is always conducted within the constraints placed on the individual or group by the organisational context.: One to one performance coaching is increasingly being recognised as the way for organisations and individuals to improve performance.

By improving the performance of the most influential people within the organisation, the theory goes that business results should improve. Executive coaching is often delivered by coaches operating from outside the organisation whose services are requested for an agreed duration or number of coaching sessions.

Module 2: The Life Coaching Options. Distance, or Face to Face Coaching by Telephone and Email • • • • •

Telephone at agreed times. 30 minute to 1 hour discussion supported by exercises Instant messaging at agreed times. Just the same as a telephone call but no cost. Just type messages back and forward – a digital conversation! E-mail. Take your own time. Work when you want. Face To Face. In contact with the Client-1 hour Discussion with exercises. Fees. Charging your Clients anything between £50, £75 to £100 for 1HR, or £100 to £500, for blocks of 3HRS = £300 to £500.

Module 3: Identifying client needs. Analysing the client's lifestyle and personality is extremely important and Devising an individual plan of action for each client. Relationships. Energy. Financial management. Well-being. Defining goals, values and mission statement. Client involvement. The world of work is a very different place than it was even twenty years ago. Technological advances, increased global competition and changing workforce demographics are some of the major factors that are affecting the choices and experiences of working people in the UK and around the world. In this environment, it can be it very difficult for people to assess their career options, work out career goals and strategies and have the confidence to implement changes. : Unemployed, or unhappily employed, Weight Problems, Health, Entering or re-entering the workforce Trying to work out personal career goals and strategies Changing jobs and/or fields Stress, Depressed, Family Problems, Bereavement.

then life coaching could help : Take stock of your current situation Sort out what’s important—and what’s not Identify realistic options Acknowledge potential stumbling blocks and how to overcome them Raise and discuss anxieties and fears Feel positive about taking up the challenge Prioritise short-, medium- and long-term goals and strategies It is difficult to be motivated and courageous when you feel trapped and anxious. The pressure of being an adult with responsibilities can make it difficult to identify options for ourselves. However, we owe it to ourselves (and to those for whom we are role models) to try to work out a way to both behave responsibly and also be personally satisfied and challenged.

Instructions: Either recorder the scripts on a tape for your Clients, or tell them to record it on tape to play 2x a day, or read it out to them while they are relaxing, or on the phone. Before each session tell them the following-Short intro: ‘You are breathing slowly and regularly….Your eyes are closed…..Take in all that I say, Visualize….Let your subconscious mind obey my Commands.

Numbered Staircase This is a traditional deepener with a difference. Asking the client what number he's at, helps you to verify the level of trance that has been reached. You’re now standing at the top of a very long and beautiful staircase. There are one hundred steps leading down, and around and although you can’t see the bottom of the stairs from here, you just know that there’s a beautiful place waiting at the bottom of the stairs, just for you. Notice the staircase; notice the carpet if there is one, make it your favourite color. Perhaps the stairs are made of marble or wood, if so then that’s okay, that’s alright. On either side is a beautiful firm banister that makes you feel safe and secure. The banister is smooth and polished, and you place your hand lightly on it. Notice that on the floor of the stairs are the numbers from one hundred, going all the way down to zero. And the deeper down you go, the more comfortable and the more relaxed do you become. So get ready now to begin walking down the stairs, if you’re not already, going down, down, down. Deeper

and deeper and deeper down. Good. Relaxing more and more with each step down. Now look down at the numbers and tell me, what number step are you on? (Client will probably be about halfway down, in which case suggest he goes down deeper still, then check the number again). When you reach the bottom step, just step down and let the staircase fade away. You’re deeply relaxed now, very deeply relaxed, from the top of your head, all the way down, deeper down, to the tips of the toes. Now proceed to the favourite place visualization. A room, or a door leading outside to a beautiful place in nature.

Life Coaching - SCRIPTS Clasped Hands For some people, the only way to be hypnotized is by direct induction techniques. These are generally authoritarian methods and are commonly used on stage or private use. Ask your subject to clasp his hands in front of him, then say the following:I want you to press your hands together tightly now, really tightly so that you can feel the palms of the hands touching each other. And the those hands are becoming locked together so tightly that they feel as though they’re stuck together with super glue - they are just so tightly and securely locked together. And the harder you press those hands together the tighter they stick and the more securely locked the hands become. Press them together so tightly now that they just won’t come apart. That’s it, tighter and tighter - those hands so securely clasped, so tightly clasped, like the hands are held together with super glue and they just won’t open at all. In a moment I’m going to ask you to try to open them. You’ll try to open them but they won’t open at all, because they are so tightly stuck together. Okay so try to pull the hands apart, try, and notice that the hands are just too tightly clasped together that they simply don’t open at all. And the harder you try to open them the tighter they feel. Now relax the hands, stop trying to open them, and just let them open, let them open easily and the hands are moving apart now (Take a look at those hands) - there - they’re opening easily now...

Fear of Going Places Start with this favourite induction and a deepener. I would like you to imagine you are preparing for a day out all by yourself in your beautiful new car. You are excited at the idea of a whole day of freedom to please yourself. To go wherever the mood takes you. You get up early, draw back the curtains, and notice what a lovely sunny day beholds you. The birds are singing and the gentle breeze blows the flowers and the trees. All the other people are rushing off to their place of work, but you have the whole day to do as you please. You leisurely prepare for your day and when you are ready you stroll down the pathway to your car. As you drive down the road you remember you have to collect some petrol from the local garage. On arriving at your garage you pull on to the forecourt and start to fill your car with petrol. You notice all the other people around you chattering away. You finish filling your car and stroll casually toward the pay out. You glance at the magazines in the shop and treat yourself to some of your favourite chocolate. You feel relaxed and happy and looking forward to your day out. You remember suddenly that you haven’t placed the lottery which you like to do each week. You slowly walk over and select your numbers in the hope of winning your fortune. When you leave the shop you notice the queue of people and are glad you are ready to go on your journey. As you drive along you notice all the beautiful trees and the flowers and see the rolling hills in the distance. After a while you start to feel hungry. As you turn the corner you notice a lovely old black and white coaching house. Outside on the pavement is a board advertising lunches. You pull off the road, into the car park, and select a space. After a couple of minutes you start to stroll down the path towards the big old oak door with a large black latch. You open the door and there inside is a magnificent room with lots of shiny well polished brasses. This makes you feel very much at home and warm and comfortable. You start to walk over to the bar and order your food. There is such a large selection it is hard to choose what to have for your lunch. After pondering for a while you select a meal and order a long cool drink. You return to your seat by the old brick fireplace with the fire gently flickering, making different pictures on the brasses hanging on the grate. You sit and dream as you gaze into the fire – what a lovely day you are having and you are enjoying the total relaxation of being all by yourself. After you have enjoyed your meal, feeling very full and very relaxed, you decide it is time to go. You have just remembered it is your sister’s birthday and you need to choose a present for her. You say goodbye to the people dining in the restaurant and the proprietor and thank him for a delightful lunch and say you will call again very soon as you enjoyed it so much. Back in your car you drive off towards the motorway which takes you to your local departmental store. You enjoy your journey and feel very happy and at one with the world. After a short while you arrive at the store and make your way to the section you require. You notice all the colorful garments and enjoy browsing through them. You stroll from counter to counter enjoying the feeling of freedom and self

confidence within yourself. You now find the gift you are looking for and hand this to the assistant who chats merrily away to you commenting on how elegant and smart you look in your new outfit, especially chosen for your special day. You thank the lady and meander back through the store until you are outside and back in your car. You are feeling very relaxed but a little tired now and decide to make your way home. As you are driving home you recall the peacefully, relaxed day which you have enjoyed and are feeling very happy and confident and very proud of yourself. Now you have made this journey, on your own, in your mind, you are mentally prepared for when you make this same journey in reality. When you do, you will be very pleasantly surprised at how easy it is to feel so calm, relaxed all the time. You will feel so proud of yourself each and every time you make this or similar journeys. You will feel happy, calm, confident and relaxed and wonder why you didn't do it long ago. In a moment I am going to count up to five and at the count of five you will be wide awake with the beautiful feelings flowing through your body, calm and peaceful thoughts flowing through your mind. One, two, three, four five.

Accelerated Studying (favourite for Exam Students Student will pay you big during Examinations). Every day at 7.00 p.m. (or pre-agreed time) you will get into the habit of studying for at least two hours without fail. You find that you are able to think much more clearly and you are able to concentrate much more easily. You become so deeply absorbed and interested in the subject that you are studying that you will want to give your full attention to what you are studying, to the exclusion of everything else. Because you are so interested and absorbed in your studies, it becomes so easy for you to grasp and understand all the things that you read. And all the things that you read impress themselves on your memory to enable you to remember them more easily. And every time that you are hypnotized you will find that your memory improves enormously and you find it so much easier to study. And you will not only remember what you have read so much more easily, you will also find that you are able to recall it without difficulty, whenever you need to do so. Your mind absorbs and retains everything that you read and see during this two hours of study and two hours of concentrated study is equivalent to eight hours .

Examination Nerves

There's nothing worse than entering an examination room and panicking because everything you've studied has gone out of your head. In the relaxed state of hypnosis this just does not happen - everything you've ever seen or heard or done is there in your wonderful subconscious mind...... The instant you walk into the examination room and sit down to read the questions, you will become extremely calm and relaxed. You will turn over the paper and read each and every question carefully and thoroughly and you will then decide which one you can tackle the best. You will answer that question first, as fully as you can, and as you do this you will be surprised to discover that you can actually remember much more than you originally thought you would remember. When you have written all that you know about the first question you will then choose the next one that is easiest for you to answer and you will tackle that question in exactly the same way. You will continue in this way with all the other questions until you have written down everything that you can remember about those questions, or until the time is up. When you have finished answering the questions you will be pleasantly surprised to discover that you have actually remembered far more than you originally thought possible when you first read through the questions.

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Alcohol People with alcohol problems often need help with their self-esteem and some form of confidence building. Take time to find out what your client succeeds at, and have her anchor good feelings with a physical response, such as squeezing the hand into a fist. This will help to direct attention away from the internal response and empower your client with positive feelings. “For a long time now you’ve been acting and feeling in ways that have taken you away from your own, natural self. You’ve relied more and more on alcohol to help you through the negative feelings which you’ve been experiencing, and have done so to such an extent that you find yourself denying your self of your own true feelings. No-one feels on top of the world all the time and there will be days that could be better for you. It’s only by experiencing some of the lows in life that you can really enjoy and appreciate the highs. Blotting out your feelings with alcohol doesn’t solve anything, it just makes things worse, that’s why you have decided now that you’ve had enough of drinking alcohol, and you really want help with that old problems of yours. Focus now on an area of your life that you feel happy with - you may like to remember something good that happened to you, something that made you feel confident, an achievement maybe or some praise you

received. (pause) ...now notice how you feel inside, proud, confident, happy - and allow those good feelings to grow stronger, while you relax, and let go. And when those good feelings are filling you I want you to take a deep breath and squeeze your hand into a fist, whilst your subconscious mind memorizes those good feelings. Because whenever you want to feel this way, all you need to do is take a long deep breath and squeeze your hand into a fist. That’s good. Now imagine yourself in a situation where you would normally have reached for your first drink of alcohol. Notice where you are, what you’re doing, who is with you, if anyone, use your imagination to the very best of your ability. If you can’t picture the scene then remember it in as much detail as possible. Notice the feelings inside you as you reach for the bottle and imagine yourself walking over to the sink and emptying that bottle away, and as you do this, I want you to take a deep breath in through your nose and squeeze the other hand into a tight fist whilst you remember those good, confident positive feelings. Immediately you feel good. It’s good to be confident, and know that you’re free from that old, addictive way of life. Free from the burden of having to drink alcohol, free to get on with your wonderful life, to experience the highs, as well as the lows, knowing this will help you to really appreciate when things get better. Now, in your mind, find an alternative activity to do. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as its a break from what you would normally do. You’re changing. Your way of thinking and acting is improving, your in command, you’re taking charge, you’re in control. You’re free as a bird, you’re free from the addictive way of life, and yes, there will be moments when you feel pain, but these moments will get less and less, and you will really appreciate the pleasurable things in life, the little things that make you smile and feel good.

Health Matters A healthy body requires a healthy mind. Thinking of illness and unhappiness can make you feel just that however, focusing your mind on these positive thoughts will increase your resistance to illness a thousandfold..... Imagine yourself full of health and vitality, just he way you want to be and keep this imagine focused in your mind as you direct your awareness to your health. Feel and experience a new, healthy energy beginning to flow into you as your nervous system becomes more stable and you become so much calmer and more relaxed than ever before.

All organs and systems of your body are functioning at higher levels as you direct your mind to improve your health and increase your energy levels. Your whole metabolism is becoming finely tuned to your individual needs. Your digestive system uses the food that you eat more effectively and you limit the quantities of food so that you’re eating just the right amount of healthy, nutritious food that you require to give you proper nutrition. You desire only the foods that are good for you. And because you are becoming so much calmer inside and so much more relaxed, your whole outlook on life is improving and you begin to take each day as it comes. You feel a sense of acceptance, a feeling of peace and serenity deep within you. You metabolism during your resting periods becomes much more natural and is adjusted for your relaxed state and because of all these improvements to your system, your heartbeat becomes steadier and your breathing becomes more natural because of the increased oxygen intake in your lungs. And your entire nervous system begins to function more efficiently and effectively as your automatic nervous system, which controls your heart rate and your breathing without you even needing to be conscious of it doing so, is working in peace and harmony together. Because of the improved nervous system your digestion and kidneys begin to function more effectively and you feel a tremendous improvement to your entire being. The blood supply to your vital organs such as your liver, your pancreas and your spleen will nourish these organs more effectively as all the chemistry in your body becomes more balanced and stable. Your brain waves are becoming balanced and this indicates a more peaceful and restful nature and because of this you’re sleeping more soundly and experiencing beautiful dreams. And when you wake up, you do so with a refreshed and invigorating feeling with full alertness. And because of your improved biochemical and metabolic system, your general resistance to infections and diseases improves and your blood pressure is normal and you go about your day-to-day activities with a calm serenity. The tone of your muscles improves and you have more energy and vitality with which to carry out your daily tasks and activities, your skin and your hair take on a healthy glow, which radiates out from within. And all these things are beginning to take place deep within you, right now.

Confidence! To feel confidence in the workplace you need to "act as if"

Act as if you are the boss! Act as if you have nothing to lose! Act as if you know what you are talking about! Act as if you are confident! That is the secret to confidence in the workplace!

Confidence in the workplace How to have confidence in the workplace If you feel you have a choice about where you work, you can confidently express yourself in the workplace, and take charge of your own career development The pressures to be someone other than who we really are can sometimes run high in the workplace. Business etiquette, hierarchy and company politics may lead us to swallow our initial impulses, filter our communications, and tolerate more than we might otherwise be willing to do in our personal lives. Despite the challenges, here are a few tips for having the confidence to be yourself in the workplace. Make sure you're doing what you enjoy If your heart is in your work, then your ability to tolerate the challenges will be higher, as will be your commitment to your role and the organization. Never compromise your values Know what you will and will not tolerate. Be assertive when your needs and interests are getting compromised. Create internal and external contacts Create relationships with important contacts both within and outside the organization. As your career progresses, these individuals can provide you with guidance and direction as well as support and networking opportunity. Build personal relationships to support your social needs. Proactively manage your performance as well as your career Take charge of your performance feedback. Request feedback regularly and share accomplishments constantly. Assert yourself regarding your career development needs and continue to seek development opportunities. Continually evaluate your options Continually assess whether your professional growth needs are being met by the organization. Keep an eye out on the market to assess your options.

Know when it's time to say goodbye Recognize the factors that indicate you may have outgrown your organization. Communicate your needs. If the organization can no longer meet them, then, tap into your contacts and confidently move on.

How to speak up at meetings Develop the confidence to speak up at meetings Are you generally quiet at meetings? Do you tend to observe what's going on, but hesitate to get involved? I bet you've gone through the following scenario a hundred times: There you are in the meeting, listening attentively trying so desperately to contribute to the conversations that are taking place. The person with the biggest mouth is having his or her say, the same old people are talking. Then "POW! ZAP!" you have a great idea or have a really valuable thing to say but you don't. You're too scared. You are frightened that the idea is going to be rubbish or that it is too obvious. You decide to say nothing! Then, all of a sudden, as if someone has read your mind, another person comes out with exactly what you were thinking and takes all kinds of credit for it! "That could and should have been me!" you think and then your confidence takes a massive blow. I heard a great quote that went: "People would rather say nothing and let people think they are stupid rather than open their mouth and remove any doubt" The first thing you should think to yourself is that you are at the meeting for a reason. That reason is to take in information as well as share information yourself. Exercise I'd like you to write down a list of all of the times when you have thought of something to say in a meeting but didn't. I bet it will be a long list! Now, just think of all of the plaudits and credit you COULD have got if only you had opened your mouth. Next to each item write down how it would have made you feel if you would have said it. What credit would you have got for it? How does it make you feel now that you have written all of this down?

Confidence starts with making small changes and than making them a habit. Next time Before you go into your next meeting I want you to go over the list you have written during this exercise. Get psyched up to make a telling contribution at this meeting but don't beat yourself up if you don't have any ideas. Sometimes, you don't have anything to say and that's ok. Where I am coming from here is if you HAVE got something to say and DON'T! Make a decision to say the first idea that you have and see what happens. At the end of the day, you have got nothing to lose and people will probably feel better towards you if you say something rather than if you say nothing at all. Success breeds success and confidence breeds confidence. Remember, give it a go - you will be pleasantly surprised at how easy it is and then you will be wondering about what all of the fuss was about! The next time will then be a synch! 10 reasons why you can and should confidently speak up at meetings. Let me give you 10 reasons why you can, and should speak up at meetings: 1. The team needs you every individual on a team has a role to play, something to contribute-even if it's just to play devil's advocate-you included 2. You're breathing-that means you have an opinion - so share it 3. The constant talkers need a break don't you think? 4. The facilitator might be battling with whether or not to invite you into the conversation - let her know you're present and paying attention 5. A good facilitator will call on those who are not contributing as much in an effort to get everyone involved anyway - it might as well be a moment you choose to get involved 6. The meeting will go faster 7. It's good for your career 8. It's good for you 9. In preparation for the meeting, outline 3 things you want to say 10. You're a brilliant individual, so why not share your brilliance with others!

Public Speaking Tips Speak in Public with Confidence and Enjoyment Speaking in public, in front of groups and conducting presentations are commonly agreed as the least favourite activities that anyone can perform. However, if we are well prepared, well equipped and well supported, you will find that speaking in public really can be quite enjoyable - honest! Here are some ways to make public speaking an enjoyable experience both for yourself, as well as for your audience. Following are some ways YOU can make speaking in public an enjoyable experience: 1. As much as possible/appropriate, include your audience

You don't always have to be the talking head at a meeting. Prepare questions in advance that will encourage the audience to participate. Consider your audience in advance-Who are they? What might their histories and/or interests be? Prepare opportunities in your presentation/speech for audience participation.

2. Inject appropriate humour in your delivery It will do you good, enabling you to lighten up and release any tension. It will also enable the audience to loosen up, pay more attention, and receive you in a much more favourable way. 3. Share a little known fact Most audiences are especially grateful to hear something they haven't already heard before. One single piece of new information can make the time spent listening completely worth their while. If you can find one little known, yet especially relevant fact, you will have a captive audience. 4. Smile and the world smiles with you It's true! Others can sense your discomfort, and despite any earth shattering information you have to share, your audience is apt to discount your brilliance if the delivery of your key messages isn't clear and assertive. Instead remember to smile, make eye contact and believe your own words-and they will too. 5. Keep it relevant To the extent possible, make sure your audience is the right audience for the information you are presenting. In other words, don't lecture on retirement options to a newly graduating class. Know before hand what you want to say and practice until it comes naturally. This will enable you to spend more time relating to your audience, than trying to remember what comes next in your delivery. 6. Create fun visuals (as appropriate) Some individuals will retain more if they are able to see graphic representations of the information you plan to deliver. Consider which parts of your message can be presented visually, and remember to keep visuals simple, attractive, and large enough so everyone can see them. Any fun, relevant clipart or comic can also be a nice perk. So, what are the qualities of a good speaker? Here are a list of the qualities and characteristics of a good public speaker/presenter. Make sure you include these points when you have to speak in public

1. They talk to us as though we are having a conversation 2. They speak our language 3. They look as though they are enjoying themselves. 4. They inspire us to find out more about the subject 5. They tell stories/use the human-interest angle 6. Someone who conjures up pictures in our mind 7. They don't talk for hours 8. They let us know where we are going 9. They look at us-not their notes 10. They stress important points and pause to allow ideas to sink in 11. The talk appears well prepared but has an air of spontaneity The importance of body language Don't forget your non-verbal action signals! You will want to look confident even though you may not be on the inside. Don't just stand there, with your arms by the side of you! ACT CONFIDENTLY and you will FEEL CONFIDENT! Try it, it really works. So, how do you act confidently? • With your posture - wall tall with your head up. • Smile • Maintain eye contact • Handshake • Move around • Gestures • Relax Speak with confidence as well. People will believe what they see more than what they hear, but once you look confident, you have to sound the part too! • Breathing • Sound quality of your voice • Pitch • Speed • Tone • Pausing • Listening • Use confident words 15 Ways to overcome your STAGE FRIGHT! 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.

Be well prepared. Rehearse several times Co-operate with your body - rest, eat and sleep well beforehand Dress in clothes that make you feel good Take several deep breaths to relax your body Concentrate on the messages you want to get over to your audience Move around and release your nervous energy. Visualise yourself doing well Remember that your audience want you to do well

9. Think of a similar occasion in the past when you did it before and did it well. Think about it for a moment. 10. Make no negative confessions "I'm so nervous" 11. Put the situation into perspective 12. If you get nerves during your talk, move around or do something different to get into a different "state" 13. Pick out some friendly faces and make eye contact with them 14. If you make a mistake you make a mistake, laugh at it and the audience with laugh with you. Make a joke out of it. 15. The more you do it the better you will become. Practise makes perfect.

Confident Work Teams How to build confident work teams There are many pathways to building confident work teams. Whether you are working with a new team, or an established already wellfunctioning team, the guidelines included in this article can support you in building an even stronger, focused, more cohesive team. Building confident, cohesive, well-functioning teams is an ongoing focus for managers. Although often managers "inherit" the teams with which they work, rather than start them from scratch, the same rules apply: Know that teams go through various stages Any change-be it to responsibilities, addition of staff, loss of staff, or new ways of operating-may mean that already established, well-functioning teams sometimes revert to a period, as when first formed, where roles, mission and process need to be revisited and re-clarified. Action - Define your teams roles and responsibilities early on. Make sure you to take the lead in this. Have a clear mission Teams without a clear mission are like boats without a rudder. The resulting feeling of aimlessness leads to lack of clarity and fuel for productivity. Expectations for individual responsibilities remain unclear if not linked to the bigger picture-or team role. You may be surprised to find your team may not have a clear understanding of the guiding mission. Action - Provide direction and purpose to the team. Say what your objectives are and where you want the team to go. Have clear roles and hire for fit Ensure your staff understands where how roles connect and may be interdependent.

Explore the handoffs and how current processes help or hinder their success. Hire additions to staff whose values mirror those of your group (e.g. if teamwork is critical, hire those who flourish in team environments rather than those who prefer to work independently). Clarify what they bring to the team and how they will contribute. Establish your team-specific "groundrules" These are the unwritten norms that guide how work gets done in your team. Do you have an open door policy? How are suggestions for improvements to be made? How does communication work amongst team members? Action - Do this as soon as you can so people know what to expect and what your standards are. Provide a vehicle for teambuilding Whether at a fixed period during monthly staff meetings, or at annual retreats, allow some time for your team to bond and reconnect with one another as well as with you. Listen for their concerns and frustrations, and to the extent possible, empower them to own solutions. Action - As well as taking this on yourself delegate the "Teambuilding" responsibilities to some people in your time also. Like a "social secretary" for organising team night outs. Lead your group Effective teams have a clear leader, with a clear role. Consistently communicate and play your part on the team. Proactively address potential concerns and issues, and build a collaborative environment where every member's strengths and talents are utilized and appreciated. Action - You don't need to start this, you should be doing this ALL of the time! List down all of the things that you can do to make sure that this happens. These are the pathways to building confident teams.

Overcome The Negative Past How to Overcome a Negative Past The past is gone, the present is here only for a moment, and the future is a blank sheet waiting for you to write upon it.

The past is just that, gone. To make up for any time you may have lost along the road to achieving your dreams, commit to living in the present. Continuing to look backwards and regret past decisions, events, or relationships is to

continue to enable them to debilitate you in the here and now. Overcoming a negative past requires that you: Simmer it all down to extract only the lessons you've learned Reflect on your past just long enough to extract key learning. What have you learned that you can use going forward? Make sure these lessons are constructive, and not debilitating to you. Write down your lessons learned from whatever past event has been haunting you in the present. Reflect on your role in these past events. Recognizing that every action has a reaction, what could you do differently going forward if you were to find yourself faced with a similar situation? Identify concrete action steps you can take going forward to incorporate this learning into a new way of interpreting the actions of others, reinforcing your personal boundaries (what people can and cannot do and say to you), and reacting to others. And should those old memories come back, have a plan for how you can disable them. For example, try blasting away that negative mental image with a picture from one of your best, happiest moments. And, commit to making these mental shifts. Now, focus on the present What are all the gifts that life has presented you with today? Reflect on your friendships, your health, family and other things that create happiness now. Focus on your present strengths-how can they help you build up from where you are now? Make a list of the gifts and strengths you currently have in your life. For each one you've listed, identify how you can use these to help you move forward. Who can you rely on to provide you with further support? How can you use your strengths (e.g. a great sense of humor) to overcome any challenges or obstacles life may throw your way? Make a plan and commit to reflecting on these strengths and gifts life has given you now. Then you are ready to focus on the future Ask yourself this question: What do you want for yourself in the next month, 6 months or 1 year? Get a clear picture of what that might be. Don't limit yourself out of fear, anxiety or negativity. Give yourself the right to dream big dreams, and then Set goals to get yourself there-be sure to set both large and small ones! Take baby steps Begin to incorporate the things in your life that can help you get where you want to go. What might be some immediate next steps for you? What are some small steps you can take to get you started and boost your confidence that you can overcome your past? Remember, achievement of smaller goals are just as important as achievement of

larger goals, for they will help to motivate you along the way to conquering each new milestone. Remember to find and call on sources of support and strength. Who and what are the sources of support you identified for yourself right now? Don't hesitate to call on them. And, always, always praise and reward yourself for each success! Don't give up Each step forward, is one step further away from a past that's long gone. Keep your eyes to the future, your mind on the present, and enjoy all the gifts each new day brings.

How To Say NO! Learn to say "NO" and mean it! How can you confidently respond when someone makes a request you'd prefer not to accommodate? This article shares some ideas you can use to make sure you don't find yourself doing something you'd very much prefer not to do. The question has just been posed. Pause. Was your inclination to say yes, even though there's a voice deep down saying "no." Well, let's raise the volume on that voice. What possible reasons could there be for saying no? • It's beyond your means? • It's beyond your comfort level? • You have no interest? Identify all the reasons you have for saying "no." Identify which stem from a lack of confidence, versus a sincere disinterest in fulfilling the request. What would happen if you said yes? Perhaps: • You would be considered a teamplayer • It would make your boss happy • Your visibility with higher-ups would be improved It's comes down to a simple cost/benefit really. Would the discomfort involved in saying yes outweigh the benefits of possibly going along with the request? Or, do the benefits outweigh your temporary discomforts? The role of guilt Saying "no" is hard for many of us. Guilt often comes into play. Whether this guilt has its foundation in religion, a proper upbringing, or a worldview that simply says "it's not nice to say no", we often recognize it and make decisions we'd rather not be making, based upon it. Saying "NO" You've made the decision, after scientifically weighing the results of your cost/benefit analysis, do honestly say "NO". Well, go ahead and say it clearly, and self-assuredly...in the mirror. Look yourself in the eye, and do it. Just say "NO." Say it like you really mean it, and then say it again as you would to whomever made

the request of you. When you pretend you're speaking to the person who made the request, does it come out differently? Practice and experiment with different ways to say "NO" until you find one you're comfortable with. Then go, and say "NO." After you say "NO " If you're used to giving in to others, then guess what? After all that practice, you may just be surprised to find that they are not willing to accept it! They may push, rephrase the question, or make a new, not altogether different, request. Be prepared for this! Know your boundary-what ARE you willing to do? Revisit the questions you asked yourself before-what would happen if you said no, or yes? If you are serious about saying "NO" then stick to your guns. Tell the individual making the request that you would appreciate it if they respected your wishes, and ask them to refrain from pursuing it further. If you are comfortable expressing your "reasons why" then do so speaking from your personal perspective. Tips on how to say your "NO!" 1. The "Wet lettuce NO" If you are going to say NO, you must say it in a way that means NO! Saying NO in a quiet, unassuming voice is like a hand shake that is floppy and limp. By saying NO in a non confident manner it will make you feel as though you have got to convince the other person about your decision and the reasons why you have said it! 2. The "Mr Angry NO" This is at the other end of the spectrum in how to say NO. It is done in an aggressive manner and usually said with contempt. It is not an effective way to communicate your NO. Here are a couple of examples: "NO. I'm not doing that rubbish. You've got to be joking aren't you" "NO. I wouldn't lower myself to do that piece of work" 3. The assertive NO This is the best way to say NO! In a firm, yet polite voice say: "No. I will not be able to do that for you" Also, if you want to say the reasons why, keep it short and sweet. "No. I will not be able to do that for you. I will be having my hair done at that time" 4. Use effective body language When saying NO remember the power of non-verbal communications. Look the person in the eye when you say the NO. Shake your head at the same time as saying NO. Stand up tall.

Use a firm tone in your voice. 5. When all is said and done Don't forget that when anyone asks a question of you, you are perfectly OK to say, "Can I think about that and get back to you" No-one should be pressurised into giving an immediate answer, even if the delay is only a couple of minutes. It will give you some time to think it through and to gather your thoughts. It will also give you some time to think about how you are going to say it, the words to use and your body language. Saying NO exercise Practice makes perfect as they say! What I would like you to do for the next 7 days is to start to say NO more often. So whether it is the double glazing salesman, the cold call, "Would you like fries with that" or the shop assistant - practice saying NO to one person for at least the next 7 days. You will be an expert come the end of the week! What will happen? • You will feel much more confident and proud. • You will find that practice makes perfect-the more you confidently say "NO" the easier it becomes. • Others will respect your wishes and take you seriously the first time you say "NO." • You won't find yourself doing things you never wanted to do in the first place. • You'll have more time to focus on the things you do want to be involved in. • The list goes on from there

How To Change Anything In Your Life To change anything in your life requires confidence. Here is a formula that will help you to change anything that you want. It will help you to understand the forces at play when you are faced with making a decision as to whether changing is a must or a nice to have. The Change Formula There is a simple equation that you can apply to anything and everything when you are faced with a decision as to whether you want change something or whether you don't. When faced with such a situation I strongly urge you to use this.

DxVxP>C DISATISFACTION WITH THE STATUS QUO Basically, to start with you must be unhappy with the present situation. VISION Here, you must have a vision of the situation or position that you want and why you want it. PRACTICAL STEPS Lastly, you must know what will be involved in order for you to change. You need to draw up an action plan of what you need to do. COST OF CHANGING What will you have to sacrifice in order to change, what will be the costs? Will you have to change your beliefs? The D x V x P will create your desire to change but you will only change if your desire is greater than the associated costs of changing (C). Let me illustrate this by telling you a story. The lecturer who first introduced me to this equation was quite a large lady but was an absolutely lovely person and attractive too. We'll call her Hazel as I don't know where she now lives to give me permission to use her name! I remember her saying to me that she went back to the village of her childhood one day and went into the local newsagent where she used to buy her sweets as a child. There she saw the exact same shopowner whom 20 years hence she used to buy her sweets from. She approached him and said "You don't remember me do you Mr Brown?, It's Hazel, I used to buy sweets in this shop from you about 20 years ago." "Hazel? I remember you" he replied "What an earth has happened to you? Haven't you let yourself go?" You could imagine what it must have felt like for Hazel as she left the shop. Now, for most of us a cruel comment like that would fuel some desire as it did for Hazel, and yes she had a vision of what she would look like if she lost some weight. She also knew the practical steps that she would need i.e a diet and exercise programme, if she was going to change. Hazel decided not to change. She saw that the cost of changing would be greater than her desire to change. She enjoyed her food, she enjoyed socialising, she enjoyed going out and after a hard days work the last thing she would need is to go to a gym and eat a lettuce leaf for dinner when all she really wanted to was to wind down at home with a bottle of chardonnay. I admire Hazel so much. There is a lot of pressure on people to be thin these days. If Hazel were to go ahead and diet and exercise she would have been thin - but do you think she would have been happy? I don't think so. As Anthony Robbins says -

Achievement without Fulfilment is Failure The costs of changing to Hazel far outweighed what she was going to get in return. I truly believe that the main reason why people break their diets or give up on their exercise regime is because they haven't carefully considered what they will have to go without or the sacrifices that they will have to make in order to succeed. Instead they start, make some progress, but then make the decision to give up. Sure, not eating any sweets for a week is easy. But for 2, 3 or 4 weeks? People don't mind making short term sacrifices but they tend to give up if this sacrifice needs extending in order to succeed. What people should do is to identify these potential problems before they start by using something like the Change formula or by listing the pros and cons of changing and not changing. At least then you would be going into the situation fully present and would not have to give up half way through which, nine times out of ten, results in yet another blow to your self-esteem. Comments such as "I have no will-power" probably mean that you are enjoying doing something else than what you are actually doing - and there is nothing wrong with that. My wife always uses the excuse about having no will power. She adores her food and so do I. She's not even big. I keep stressing to her though that she relates more pleasure to eating than she does to dieting and that she only wants to change to please other people. She is a very beautiful woman, happy the way she is and I love her very much. So, when faced with a decision to change think of the formula, work it out for yourself and then have the confidence and conviction to see it through.

SHOULD I CHANGE? Remember DxVxP>C

Create Your GOALS And Take Control! Create your goals and increase your confidence In order to feel confident you need to have some certainty in your life that what you are doing is contributing to an end result. We are all goal seeking animals and the worst thing you can do is to mistake activity for accomplishment because then you wonder why you are not achieving anything in life and when you feel like that your confidence takes a battering. Have you got any goals mapped out for each area of your life? If not, then read on and complete this exercise. Goal Creation Exercise: With regards to the following areas in your life: • Career

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Relationships Fun Achievements Money Possessions Take 6 pieces of paper for the 6 areas above and under each heading brainstorm for 3 minutes and write down all of the things you would like to have, achieve and do in each area. Don't worry about how big the goals seem, just get them down and don't think too much about them - just keep writing! After you have completed the first part of the exercise you should have 6 pieces of paper full of everything that you would like to achieve for each area. Next, I'd like you to write down timescales next to each of when you would like to realistically achieve them by. The timescale categories are: • Less than 1 year • 1 - 3 years • 3 years plus So, let's recap where we are! You should have got 6 lists of things that you want to achieve in the 6 areas of your life mentioned above and you have categorised each into when you would like to achieve them by. Next, I'd like you to take your LESS THAN 1 YEAR goals for each area and select the top 2 for each one. So now you have got 12 goals that you can achieve within 1 year. Before we start to write down an action plan of how to achieve each goal I'd like you write down the compelling reasons why achieving each goal is an absolute must for you. Unless you have compelling reasons why you MUST make these goals happen then you will not have the motivation to achieve them. Having goals that are "SHOULDS" will not get you out of bed each day and keep you up late! You've got to turn your "I SHOULD DO THIS" to "I MUST DO THIS" So, below write out what the goal is and why you MUST achieve it. What pleasure will it give you? What will you be able to do? What will you miss out on if you don't complete it? Why is it so important to you? Why is this a MUST rather then a SHOULD? To recap then! • Brainstorm what you want in each area of your life • Put timescales next to each • Select your less than 1 year goals • Pick 2 goals from each of these. • Write down the compelling reasons why achieving each is a must in less than one year • Write an action plan of how you are going to achieve each. • Regularly revisit your goals to make sure you are on track • If you are off track, just modify and change your approach



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Overcome Your Weight Loss Worries Confident Weight Loss Losing weight is not just about exercising and healthy eating. That's the easy part! If it were that simple everyone would have the body that they wanted. The key to losing weight is in your mindset and in your attitude. Throughout this article I have written some techniques to get your mindset right and for you to get into the mental state that YOU CAN lose the weight, with confidence! So, why isn't losing weight easy to do? Ask anyone why they haven't kept to their diet or exercise regime and you will invariably get answers such as: • I have got no will power • I don't have the time to go to the gym • I give up too easily • I enjoy eating too much • I don't like exercise On closer inspection of the excuses above, and that's what they are by the way, you can see that it is not the event that is to blame, it is in fact your mindset that is to blame why you are not losing the weight that you want What is will power? It is the decision to do one thing over another and to stick at it. It is the drive and determination to do a certain task and to be focussed to achieve it. You see, many people do not have will power as they associate more pleasure and less than pain in not sticking to it that they do to sticking to the plan - simple as that. Note that if you do one thing instead of another it is because of this in no matter what you do life. You are gaining more pleasure out of doing task A than you would if you did task B. Or you would be avoiding pain if you do task A over task B. And isn't true that if you wanted to lose the weight bad enough you WOULD find the time no matter what? You would have no problem in substituting an hours worth of sleep to get up that little bit earlier to work out and to prepare your healthy lunch for the day. Or do you link more pleasure in staying in bed for that extra hour instead of getting up? The secret to confident weight loss In order for you to stick to your plan and to lose the weight you so desperately want to shed, you first need to remind yourself of WHY you want to do it in the first place!

So, task one is to remind yourself of the reasons why you want to lose the weight. Enter these below or write them out on a piece of paper: Ok, now look over your list again. Do the reasons get you juiced up or have you written them as "Nice to haves"? Have you written something like: • I will have more confidence • I will look better and more attractive • I will fit into my clothes If so, looking at those reasons I don't blame you for not wanting to get out of bed! They would get me juiced up! You've got to get into the position where reading your list get's you motivated and juiced to achieving it. "I will fit into my clothes" isn't going to cut it! Ok, let's have another crack at it. This time, I'd like you to write down two lists. One list of the pleasurable experiences that you are going to have when you've lost the weight and another list of the pain that you will avoid. Don't write down "I'll have more confidence" instead write down the real reason: "I will look hot and when I walk down the street everyone is going to look at me and say WOW SHE IS HOT and looks confident. People are going to want to look like me" Do you see what I mean about using POWERFUL statements? "I'll have more confidence" is too general. Drill down to some specifics. PLEASURE E.G "I will look hot and when I walk down the street everyone is going to look at me and say WOW SHE IS HOT and looks confident. People are going to want to look like me" ...... AVOID PAIN E.G "I am sick and tired of when I sit down my clothes cut into me and make a horrible mark around my stomach" ...... So hopefully you have now got two powerful lists of all the reasons why you want to lose the weight. If you don't get a little emotional when you read your lists then your reasons are not strong enough. Swear if you have to! Anything to get those emotions going! ASSIGNMENT 1 I want you to look at these lists first thing in the morning and read them out aloud to yourself. GET JUICED UP FOR THE DAY! I also want you to do this at lunchtime, obviously find somewhere quiet! And also complete this last thing before you go to bed. Getting your mindset right will set you up for success and coupled with a healthy eating and exercise regime - YOU WILL BE ROCKIN' 'N ROLLIN'! ASSIGNMENT 2

There is another thing that I would like you to do each day. Find a quiet spot, preferably lying down. Put some soothing and gentle music on and close your eyes. Now, I'd like you to picture what you will look like once you have lost the weight. Imagine it in your mind. Imagine yourself walking down the street, what do you look like? What are you wearing? Imagine yourself talking to others in a confident manner now that you've lost the weight. Imagine all of those lovely glances from the opposite sex or from people who like what they see! Just imagine and act as though you have already lost the weight. Do this for the duration of 2 songs each day. If you want to go on longer than that's great. You can get really carried away when you start. I've known people who have gone through a whole 45 minute side and it only felt like 5 minutes! Do this, day in day out - make it a habit. ASSIGNMENT 3 After your visualisation exercise I'd like you to jot down 5 successes from your day of how you are one step closer to getting what you want. Even if it's a case of: • Went to the gym and worked hard • Eat healthily • Walked instead of catching the bus • Completed my pleasure and pain exercise • Completed my visualisation exercise Good luck!

Learn How To Control Your Thoughts Control your thoughts, control your confidence Confidence From Ear To Ear! What goes on in-between those ears of yours is the difference between success and failure. After all, success and confidence is all about feelings. Don't believe me? Do you think it's all about having money and achieving things? Well let me ask you this question: What would having all the money in the world mean to you? Yes, that's right, it gives you a feeling of happiness, of joy, a carefree attitude - all these are feelings. Looking at the stacks of dollar bills in a vault itself doesn't do anything; it's the feelings you associate to it that determines the quality of your life. The way you feel is your responsibility.

How come two people can look at the same situation and come out with two different views and answers? How come someone can say something nasty to one person and they get upset? Say it to someone else and they have a positive reaction? It is all down to your thoughts. It is down to the questions that you ask yourself when faced with a situation or comment. Throughout this module, we will look at why a positive mental attitude is so vital to confidence. The most important factor that will determine your confidence is what goes on in your mind. Each person is where he is and what he is because of his own mental attitude towards himself and others, and so are you. Your mental attitude can travel in two directions: It can lead you up the path of success or to the road of failure - the choice is entirely yours. Seeing as you are completing this topic I can safely assume which one you would prefer. No matter what you are doing in life it is your attitude before, throughout and after that activity that will determine your success. Picture a footballer taking a penalty. What do you think is going through his mind - A goal? That the goalkeeper will save it? Or that the ball will end up in row Z of the stand?

What do you think when you are taking a penalty? GOAL? Or MISS? Picture a learner driver who has just failed her driving test. What is she thinking? Confident that she will pass the next time? Or that she will not even bother and give up? Or maybe she will have to be content with public transport? There is a simple rule with regards to your thinking in everything that you do: Think Positively and you will end up with positive results. Think Negatively and you will end up with negative results Imagine that you have got a job interview There you are, sitting in the reception of the organisation waiting to be called in. Now, what is going through your mind as you sit there in that chair? The negative minded person is probably thinking along the lines of - what an earth am I doing here? I haven't got a chance of getting this job, I haven't got the right experience or qualifications, I'm probably going to fluff my words, what if I make a complete fool of myself?

The positive minded person is feeling confident and is thinking along the lines of Well, I've got this far so I must be really good, I've got a great chance of getting this position, the job is as good as mine, I have got the experience and qualifications and I am going to say all of the right things, lets go for it! The positive minded person is going through all of the possible questions that he or she may get asked during the interview and is really looking forward to it. The negative minded person is doubting him/herself and is dreading it Let me ask you this question Which person do you think stands more of a chance of getting the job? Or let's put it this way If you were their boss which one would you like to have working for you? You see, a positive mental attitude gives your entire personality a drawing power that attracts the circumstances, the things and the people that you think about the most. A positive mind attracts opportunities for success and a negative mind repels them. And a negative minded person doesn't even take advantage of them when they do come along because they are too busy focussing on how they are going to fail. We now know that the successful people in life are positive people. The question that you must now ask yourself is - are you one of those people? If you were to take a penalty what would be going through your mind? Positive thoughts or negative ones? Faced with such situations you need to ask yourself certain questions and react in a certain way to guarantee success

How To Attend Formal Occasions Have you ever received an invitation to a formal occasion and as you've read the card you've felt a sense of fear and trepidation rising from the pit of your stomach? A lot of us have experienced this feeling at some time or another. Where does that fear come from? Why do we feel so unnerved by formal events? Well, it's the fear of the unknown and the fear of looking out-of-place and awkward that we dread. We fear that we won't know what to wear, we won't know what to say, and that we will make some terrible faux-pas that everyone will notice and glare at. We also fear that other people will notice how out-of-place we look and will be talking about us behind our backs. What can we do to help overcome these fears? First of all, we can find out as much as possible about the event itself as soon as we receive the invitation. Read the invitation very carefully to look for clues. For example, most invitations state the dress code. If you are not sure what "Black Tie", or "White Tie" mean, and, if you are a woman, what these terms imply in relation to what you should wear to complement your partner - just ask. You may be able to ask the person who has sent the invitation, or someone within their organisation, and they should be able to explain the etiquette of the occasion more fully.

You might like to buy a book on formal etiquette in order to carry out further research. Prepare yourself as fully as possible. Secondly, practice some relaxation and visualisation techniques. Practice deep breathing and relaxation so that if you start to feel nervous on the day, you can instantly begin to calm yourself and regain your composure. Before the day, visualise yourself at the event feeling and behaving in a calm, confident, happy and relaxed manner. Imagine yourself in a situation where you normally feel calm, confident, happy and relaxed - make a strong and clear mental picture of how you look, what you say, how you feel and what your body language is like. Now transfer these feelings and mannerisms into a picture of yourself at the formal event. Imagine yourself looking calm, confident, happy and relaxed. What do you look like? What are you saying? How are the people around you responding? How do you feel? Practice and practice until you are the very epitome of calmness, confidence, happiness and relaxation - in your unconscious mind, you are completely at home in that formal setting. By following the above technique, you are preparing your unconscious mind to support you on the day, because your unconscious mind will think that it has already been there, done that and there's nothing to worry about. Your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality. Therefore, it will not recognise any fear trigger on the day of the formal event as it has already been programmed to take it all in it's stride! On the day of the formal event, allow yourself plenty of time to get ready and to travel. Enjoy the whole experience. Who knows when you will get another opportunity to wear those clothes or visit that location? Savour the occasion and regard it as an exciting adventure. To recap: 1. Prepare thoroughly - do your homework. 2. Relax and visualise yourself being completely confident and "at home" at the event. 3. Allow yourself plenty of time when getting ready and travelling. 4. Savour the experience. 5. Relax and enjoy!

How To Break Bad Habits What are your bad habits? Smoking? Talking too much? Drinking? Untidyness? We've all got them. Within this article are 5 simple reasons for breaking a bad habit.

If it ain't broke, break it, and if it won't break, then bend it Bad habits. Whether it's a perpetual pile of clothes in the corner you're waiting to someday turn into gold, a self-proclaimed disability which renders you unable to refrain from interrupting, or, a knack for timing your exit just so, so that someone else is continually left to pick up the dishes, now's the time to extinguish these habits before they turn into next year's resolutions. Why? 1. It's not fair to others One of the great universal laws ruling our wonderful planet says that you get back what you put out there. Want others to be kind and considerate to you? Then start putting the considerate, kind vibes out there and pick up your clothes, your dishes, and stop interrupting or whatever it is you or a collective "others" define as a bad habit. 2. It's not fair to you I'm sure you're a nice person, and you pride yourself on having generous, warmhearted traits. So, it's not fair to you either that this simple, little, annoying thing you do can wield the power that it now, or will soon have. These tiny culprits have been known to ruin marriages, friendships, and cause the downfall of many a mighty person. Plus you'll feel better about yourself. 3. Your success depends on it Bad habits have a funny way of scope and context creep. First they only happen in certain situations, and the next thing you know, you're at a business function swirling your fingers through the chip dip. Put an end to it now before situations that require your utmost polish become tarnished by these terribly annoying little critters. 4. You probably don't like it when others do the same thing Think about it. If someone did the same thing to you, would it bother you? Be honest. Sometimes all it takes is a simple exercise in empathy to find the motivation to quit whatever it is we could benefit from stopping. 5. List your own reasons But be sincere. What is it costing you to perpetuate these habits? Whether it's a moment of peace, seemingly perpetual nagging, or simple anxiety resulting from anticipation of the next blow-up or negative comment, you owe it to yourself to commit to your ongoing personal development, and to the elimination of any behavior whose costs far outweigh the benefits. So how does one begin?

Just like breaking a smoking habit, bad habits have a way of creeping up on us and slowly over time becoming somewhat akin to an appendage-i.e. they're hard to get rid of. Here are some tips for breaking these bad habits: Start small: While it might not be reasonable to expect that you can just stop whatever you're doing overnight, identify what might constitute as a small step in the right direction? Write down what that step is and carry it out over the next 21 days. Fore example, if you are smoking 40 a day, cut that down to 20 for the next 21 days. Make that behaviour a habit before you cut that down to 15 for the next 21 days and then 10 and so on Commit: Promise yourself you'll make this shift, and if reinforcement and punishment worksuse it! Figure out how you might reward yourself for making the change. Or, figure our how you might penalize yourself if you don't. For example, in our smoking example. Put the money you would have spent on the cigarrettes in a jar and at the end of the 21 days add it all up and buy yourself a treat for example. From cutting down to 20 smokes a day from 40 smokes a day, over a 21 day period at £4 a packet that will save you £80 in just 3 weeks! Also, write two lists, one, of the reasons why you are doing this and also a list of the things that you will miss out on if you keep on doing your bad habit. Identify alternatives: What are some alternatives to the behavior you are demonstrating? Is there a quick fix or solution that might help provide an alternative-e.g. put a laundry basket by the bedside (one to match with the deccor) so that you don't end up with a pile on the floor. Get help: Ask someone to help keep you accountable. If they've been victims of this bad habit, they'll most likely be thrilled you asked! Ask for feedback: Because human nature dictates that we will only complain when you offend, rather than amend, ask for feedback frequently. Don't assume, no news is good news, but be sure to get praise when praise is due.

Relaxation and Affirmation In our hurried, over-stressed society it's easy to overlook the benefits of relaxation. Relaxation should not be viewed as an "indulgence" but rather as a necessity.

Our bodies are designed to move, and our brains are designed to think, but both function far more effectively when we allow them a little respite and give ourselves time to relax. What is relaxation? Well, it's different things to different people. It can be anything that takes your mind off the worries and stresses of the day and allows you to lose yourself in the "flow". It could be anything from reading a book, playing an instrument, writing a letter or doing embroidery, right through to walking, swimming and other forms of keep fit. It is any activity that allows your conscious mind to switch off, allows your subconscious to take over, and enables you to "lose yourself" in your chosen pastime. We have all had the experience of "losing ourselves" in an activity, suddenly looking at the clock and wondering where all the time went! A particular way to use relaxation to improve confidence and develop a positive selfimage is to combine relaxation with affirmation. Visualisation is a very powerful tool for developing affirmations and creating a positive self-image. Give yourself a few moments to lay down in a quiet space. You may like to put on some calming and relaxing music. Allow your eyes to close and your mind to quieten down. Create a picture in your mind of how you will look when you have bags of confidence and a positive belief in yourself. Make the picture as big, bright and bold as you can. If you can, make it into a movie. Hear the sounds in the scene, feel the temperature, or maybe even a breeze. Now imagine how you would feel inside with all this confidence and self-belief. Find the feeling, let it grow and let the feeling flow throughout your body - feel really good. Now allow an affirmation that captures how you look, sound and feel in the movie, drift into your mind. It may be something along the lines of, "I am a strong, beautiful and calm woman." Or, maybe, "I am a compassionate, decisive, leader." Say his affirmation over and over to yourself - you may say it out loud or inside you head. When you feel ready, take a deep breath in, open your eyes, stretch and wake up. You will feel calm, relaxed and refreshed. Set aside a few minutes each day to quieten down, relax, and play your movie in your mind's eye. As your movie plays, let your affirmation run through your mind and allow the good feelings to spread to every part of you. Experience the feelings of self-confidence and positive self-image in every bone and every muscle in your body. As you allow your mind and body to relax, play your movie, and recite your affirmation, you are training your mind and body to behave in a more confident way and you are, in turn, enhancing your own self-image. You will notice yourself doing things slightly differently - you will begin to walk taller, you will begin to speak up a bit more, and these little things will grow and develop into profound changes as you become a more relaxed and confident person with a positive self-image.

Enjoy!

How To Get A Promotion Actively and confidently seek promotion How to get ahead in the workplace After your time and your money, an area in which we can really get ahead of other people is in the workplace. And by getting ahead in this area you will be rewarded with: • More responsibility • Promotion • Greater job satisfaction • More money So, how do you get ahead at work? Well, the surest way to success is to render more and better service than is expected of you. If you just do enough to get by in your job, don't expect your boss to be impressed enough to put you forward for a promotion. Likewise, the Mr & Mrs Jobsworth in this world are also destined to be in the same position in five or ten years time. What follows is an important exercise that you can do to put things into perspective: I'd like you to imagine that you are the boss. Now, write down the qualities, attitude and output that you would want to see in your workers in order for you to put them forward for a promotion. The list that you have just produced is detailing some of the activities that YOU must perform if you are going to get ahead in the workplace. Ideally, you should work at all of them. Please remember this - your requirements would be exactly the same as your bosses , so there will be no great difference. The secret to success in the workplace can be summed up in one sentence:

YOU MUST SELL YOURSELF & DO SO AT EVERY OPPORTUNITY You were successful in selling yourself to the company during your interview, and you must also sell yourself to gain a promotion and to progress. Whilst at work you must seize every opportunity to demonstrate your ability to hold a higher position. You must also be able to take on extra responsibilities and show how competently you can deal with it.

Don't shirk responsibility - GO OUT AND SEEK IT!

See every challenge and responsibility as an opportunity to sell yourself to your boss and to the company. Show everyone what you can do and impress. Remember, to grant you a promotion the company will want to have witnessed you in action and evaluate your past performance as well as what you would bring to the role. An important facet to getting ahead is that you must demonstrate your ability to the right people. It is no good demonstrating your ability to perform presentations if the audience are your workers or friends - they will not be able to promote you. Instead impress your boss, your bosses boss and even their boss. Use each opportunity to impress the right people every time. One of the qualities that company's are always looking for when evaluating a possible promotion is the contribution and ideas that you have introduced or recommended to improve working practises, profits and processes. If you haven't produced any ideas or suggestions to date, start right away. How can your job be made more efficient? How can processes be performed faster? Better? More cheaper? Start to think of these improvements, and whether or not they are successful or not, your boss and the company will be impressed with your attitude and commitment. Start with a working brief, investigate all of the relevant information and data, analyse your findings and then come out with your recommendations. Remember, it is no good just coming out with an idea if you haven't got any evidence to back it up with. The company will want to know the costs and the benefits and why the change. Next, produce a professional looking document and offer to present your ideas to the management. Rest assured, you will definitely impress and leave a lasting impression if you can get to the stage whereby you can perform a successful presentation within a managers meeting. Most people use flip charts or whiteboards for their presentations - I would strongly recommend that you either use an overhead projector with acetates or use computer aided slides. Plan out your presentation and rehearse it over and over again. Don't forget to make it interesting and add a touch of humour! It is an excellent opportunity for you to sell yourself to the people in the pound seats. If done correctly, you will have attracted the attention of the people and that is what counts at the end of the day. To achieve recognition you must make your successes evident but that doesn't mean that you should be over-modest. No-one likes a big head so be careful, but make sure that everyone knows what you have done and what you are doing - especially your boss. If you are seen as a big head or boastful, you will tend to find that those people who will need to support you, will not, and support from your boss, colleagues, subordinates and family is critical if you are going to get ahead. Learning new skills are essential if you want to progress at work. If your company offers you the chance to go on courses then do so. In addition, check out what courses are available at you local school, college or

learning centre. To maintain your versatility, you must constantly update your range of skills and if you are not computer literate, I would strongly recommend that you attend a course. Remember, in order for you to get ahead you must sell yourself and these added skills will enhance your MARKETABILITY . Too many people set unattainable goals when they are at work and in order to get ahead you must be realistic. It is really important that you are fully aware of both your strengths and your weaknesses and that you are in a role where you can exploit your strengths to the fullest and minimise your shortcomings. Write down your strengths and weaknesses at work right now. Play to your strengths and set yourself a goal of improving your development areas. Write down what action you will need to take and then GO FOR IT! It is important that after you have identified your weaknesses, that you form an action plan on how you are going to improve upon them, whether it be by books, role plays, courses or seminars. Another area that has a direct correlation to your success at work is your attitude and behaviour. The manner in which you communicate and your interpersonal skills are also very important indeed. Effective communication is vital if you are going to succeed no matter what you are doing. The way in which we communicate with people is broken down into component parts, and it is popularly believed that people to whom we are speaking understand what we say by interpreting these different elements in varying proportions: VERBAL • 7% of our message is interpreted from the words we use. VOCAL • 38% is picked up from our voice - speed, tone , pitch, rhythm etc VISUAL • 55% is what the other person sees - our body language Please bear the above in mind when you are communicating to people. We have already discussed the importance of a positive mental attitude in an earlier topic and the same rules apply at the workplace. Positive attitudes are far more fruitful than negative ones. Anger and resentment promote isolation and destroy personal motivation, and the majority of people lose their jobs because of their attitudes and behaviour rather than incompetence. Showmanship Another thing which you should develop at work and in your life is showmanship. Remember, to stand out from the crowd and to be noticed we must do the things that the majority of people do not do. Showmanship is an entertainment value which gives you a little something extra which distinguishes and sets you apart from the rest. It should attract attention to yourself but without being boastful and without you looking like a complete idiot. Something that I have done at work conferences in the past are impressions. I become the centre of attention making impressions of famous people and the executives of the company, everyone gets to know who I am and I make everyone laugh which is a very powerful tool.

I possess a collection of cufflinks which have become a trademark of mine and I am well known as being a snappy dresser. You needn't be an entertainer to demonstrate showmanship. Showmanship can range from wearing particular items of clothing such as waistcoats or earrings to having office gadgets such as mobile phones or electronic personal organisers. Anything to set yourself apart from the crowd. Showmanship demands ingenuity and a good sense of timing. Develop it and watch how much easier it is to become more popular and to climb the ladder of success. In most cases getting yourself favourably noticed is a winning move. And as I mentioned earlier, you must sell yourself to become a success. In essence, you should become your own Public Relations Consultant. Ten steps to building your confidence and getting that promotion. Have you been waiting quietly for someone to acknowledge your contributions? The late nights you've put in. The occasional weekends. The mega-sale you made last month. Well, stop waiting. Let me show you how to take charge of your career, and get that promotion! 1. Generate a list of your accomplishments over the last year and highlight those of which you are especially proud (e.g. that mega-sale-one of the company's biggest). 2. Generate a list of your qualities-the ones you feel are especially helpful to the team (e.g. your team spirit). 3. Have a clear idea about where you want to go. What position? What additional responsibilities you want to take on? What salary you'll command? 4. Learn as much as you can about the expectations of this role and the requirements for the position (e.g. education, experience, responsibilities) 5. Align your credentials with the requirements for the position you seek-prepare a case for yourself. 6. If your credentials are a clear match, go for it! If not, learn more from your boss and/or HR about what you might need to meet the requirements in the near future. 7. When you are ready, send a meeting request to your boss to discuss your role, and follow-up until the date has been set. 8. Be ever the consummate professional-wear appropriate business dress. How do those who currently occupy the position you seek, dress? Emulate them as best you can, of course within the range of your personal style. 9. When you meet with your boss, present your case confidently, speak clearly and help him/her make the same connections you've already made. 10. Should your boss not agree the time is right, be sure to inquire about specific skills, knowledge, performance you can demonstrate in the coming months to ensure your growth. Specify a timeframe in which you intend to obtain them, and agree to revisit this discussion once that period expires.

Great Relationships At the end of the day, the quality of our life is down to the quality of our relationships with others. No more so than with our partners! No one has a magic formula for what makes a successful and confident relationship, and we all have our ups and downs. However, the most successful relationships DO have certain characteristics that we can do a lot worse than to copy! Here are some tips for how to have a confident relationship: 1. HUMOUR: "Life is too important to be taken seriously". Relationships are in trouble when partners can no longer see the humour in a situation. To stay together, we must remember how to play together. 2. "YOU ARE RIGHT": Three simple words guaranteed to end an argument. 3. The art of asking real questions: "Why didn't you tell me you were going to be late? " is not a question - it is an accusation in the form of a question. WHY?" questions almost always evoke a defensive reaction. Real questions elicit new information. A real question cannot be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". 4. SPEND TIME TOGETHER: Prioritise spending time together outside the routines of daily life. Your relationship deserves attention and conscious investment of time, energy and money for therapy, as well as outings away from children, work and household responsibilities. 5. HAVE YOUR TOUCHIEST DISCUSSIONS IN A PUBLIC PLACE Discussions held over dinner in a restaurant are less subject to explosive outbursts, distractions by children, or telephones. You and your partner may be less likely to storm out of a restaurant, and chances are better that you will both stick with a heated discussion until a resolution is reached. 6. ELIMINATE THE WORDS - "always - every - never - forever" from your mutual dialogues.

These four words, whether stated or implied, are key triggers for fights. They are guaranteed to elicit a defensive reaction. 7. CONSIDER YOUR PARTNER'S MOTIVES. When you are feeling, angry, hurt or betrayed because of something your partner has said or done; first take a moment for quiet reflection. Then ask yourself the following question: "Do I believe, deep in my heart, that my partner intended, to insult, betray, or otherwise anger or hurt me? If you believe that it was his or her intention to hurt or anger you, then your need for couples' counselling or other therapeutic intervention is urgent. On the other hand, if you look into your partner's heart and see no malice or ill will, then it becomes easier to proceed toward forgiveness. The route to forgiveness is change. You are looking for more than a simple apology. Each of you needs to examine your own behaviour. Decide what you would choose to do differently under similar circumstances. Then make an explicit agreement to behave differently next time. 8. RECOGNISE THAT CHANGE IS A PROCESS. There are several stages in the process and none can be skipped if lasting substantive change is what you want to achieve. Stage 1: "So that's it!" Recognition that a pattern or specific problem is happening again. Stage 2: "Oh, it just happened again!" Stage 3: "It is happening again and I am in the middle of it, but I can't stop it or make it turn out differently." Stage 4: "It's about to happen, but now I know how to make different choices." Stage 5: "Oh yes, I remember; that used to happen." 9. GET HELP: We enter relationships only knowing what we learned (or did not learn) from our parents about solving conflicts. If you did not have good role models for conflict resolution in your family, chances are your mate did not either. We choose partners who will allow us to do what we already know how to do; and what we know is what we learned in our families of origin. Many couples need help learning new tools to apply to conflicts in their relationships. Couples' or family counselling can be a good context for learning new skills. 10. RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL Many people believe that "love" is the most important key to the survival of a relationship. Love is vital, takes many forms, and evolves over time. Infatuation, passion, deep trust, sexual intimacy, and comfortable familiarity each could fit someone's definition of "love". Tolerance and acceptance, are more reliable keys to sustaining a successful relationship. Practising tolerance will help a couple through many ragged places in their relationship.

No two people agree on everything, nor find all their partners' habits acceptable: never mind finding those habits loveable. Tolerance makes it possible to see past a bad habit.

HEALING WHITE LIGHT SCRIPT (Used For People who have grave Illnesses, or sickness in general Add some words or change some to fit they problems) ...and NOWwww... I would like you to focus... all your attention... on an area in the middle of your forehead... so that your whole concentration ... becomes completely focused... on a point... in this area... and I would like you to imagine... this point...as a tiny white ball of light... now hovering just in front of your forehead... just floating in mid air... right in front of your forehead... and this tiny white ball of light... is in every way... the size and appearance... of a tiny distant star... a shimmering glowing star... shining brightly in the night sky... radiating energy and light... and you may very soon... feel a slight tingling sensation... or feel a warm comforting glow... as you become aware... of the radiant vibrations... coming from this tiny white ball of light... that shines ever more brightly... as it hovers just in front of your forehead... ...and NOWwww... I would like you to... see this tiny white ball of light... slowly begin to float upwards... just gently lift up into the air... higher and higher... until it reaches a point... about a foot above your head... and as it hovers there... just above your head... I want you to see it begin to grow in size... and as it begins to expand... shining more and more brightly... you become more aware of the radiant quality... of this illustrious object... see the purity of its colour... like the pure white of freshly fallen snow... feel its radiant warmth... like a gentle heat from an open fire... maybe even hear its faint vibrations ... as it grows larger and larger... giving off a more brilliant light all the time... and as it grows to the size of large ball ... you instinctively become aware... of its healing qualities...

sensing that its radiant energy can heal disease... quell any discomfort... revitalise and energise anything it touches... and as it hovers there... just above your head... glowing even more brilliantly... you feel yourself drawn to this healing energy... more and more...as you sense its purity... and its inherent goodness... knowing that its healing qualities... have no limitations...and know no boundaries... when it comes to seeking out... and destroying... any disease or discomfort... and you will want to immerse yourself... in this radiant energy... to bask in its purity... knowing that you can only benefit... from its wonderful healing properties... ...and NOWwww... as you think of this... the ball slowly begins to open... showering you with its pure healing white light energy... energy that will revitalise you... and balance you... energy that will cleanse and heal every part of you... and as the free flowing stream of energy... begins its downpour... I want you to feel this stream of healing energy... freely flowing down into every part of your body... down through the top of your head... clearing out any negative thoughts or emotions... and installing new feelings of well being and balance as it goes... down your neck and shoulders... relieving any tension or stress there... and all the way down your back... entering every muscle fibre and nerve in your spine... clearing away any toxins that may have gathered there... and as this fountain stream of pure healing white light... continues cascading down... pouring into every last cell... in your whole body... cleansing and revitalising you... healing and rejuvenating you... you may begin to feel more and more uplifted... more and more alive... than you have felt in a long while... as feelings of health and well being... begin to resonate through your entire system... ...and NOWwww... as the constant stream of energy... continues to pour into your body... just see this pure healing white light energy... freely flowing into every organ... in your chest and stomach... cleansing every artery and vein... purifying the air in your lungs... strengthening every muscle and bone... as it continues its free flow... down into your lower body... into your legs... and all the way down... to the tips of your toes... clearing any wastes or debris on the way... and at this point... you may wish to concentrate the flow of energy... on a certain part of your body... a part that maybe needs a lot of healing... and I will leave you for a short time... so that you can direct the flow of energy... to where you need it the most......(PAUSE)...... ...and NOWwww... as you continue to allow this pure healing white light energy... this free flowing radiant white light... to permeate every part of you... clearing any blockages... cleansing and purifying every part of you... and I want you to imagine... that the ball above your head... has now grown even larger in size... to about three feet in width... so that its endless downpour of healing energy... has now completely enveloped your entire body... so that you are now immersed... from the top of your head... to the tip of your toes... in this radiant healing white light energy ... completely bathed in this pure source

of radiant energy... that continues its free flow in and around your body... bringing you wonderful feelings of health and vitality... and the knowledge that any time... you can visualise this white light energy... entering your body... and healing every part of yourself... you will continually encourage... feelings of health and well being... in your mind, body and spirit... ...and NOWwww... as the healing process is completed... I want you to see the mass of energy above your head... shrink to the size of a large ball again... and the downpour of energy... begin to slow down ... slower and slower... until it finally comes to a stop... as the large ball above your head gently closes... leaving you radiating with feelings of health and vitality... and a feeling of well being all over... and at this point you will notice... how much better you feel... both physically and mentally... as well as a feeling of being emotionally uplifted... and as this wonderful healing process comes to its conclusion... I want you imagine the large ball... still floating above your head... slowly begin to shrink in size... smaller and smaller... back to the size of a tiny distant star... then let it begin to descend ... gently floating down... back to the area... just in front of your forehead... where it becomes absorbed... back into your consciousness... and you will become more aware and more aware ... of how uplifted... and revitalised you feel... as your whole system... your mind and body... has been purified and cleansed ...in this wonderful holistic healing process... that you can continue... as and when you need to...

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