WEBSITES TEEN GRIEF http://www.newhope-grief.org/teengrief A safe place for teens to express and share when someone close has died.
AMERICAN HOSPICE ORGANIZATION http://www.americanhospice.org Articles on teen grief and bereavement.
GO ASK ALICE http:// www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/ A question and answer internet health resources sponsored by Columbia University. Special area devoted to emotional issues.
TEEN HEALTH—Nemours Foundation http://kidshealth.org/teen
Grief And Loss Resources
Safe accurate information directed to teens to help them in their psychological, emotional and physical development. This brochure of newly acquired up-to-date Grief and Loss Materials for the secondary level was compiled by a Librarian Collegial Circle at the request of the Rochester School Library System’s Council. Thanks are extended to the Rochester Grief Resource Network who gave us direction with this project. All materials can be requested through the Rochester School District’s Library Catalog.
http://destiny.rscdk12.org Created: 07/2008 Anna Derouchie—Nazareth Schools Alice Palokoff—Wilson Magnet HS. 12
A guide for the young adult Grades 7-12
Audio-Visual Experiencing and coping with loss can be extremely difficult and traumatic. Each of us does it our own unique way. We hope that this brochure can help those experiencing a loss understand that they are not “alone.” Please share these resources with others.
The following videos can be found on EdVideo Online which is provided by WXXI The address is: http://www.powermediaplus.com/digitalHome.asp
Saying Goodbye: Teens Sharing Stories of Grief & Loss Teens address such feelings and emotions as grief, guilt, fear, anger, and denial, and describe ways they learned to cope with their loss through commemoration, friendships, group workshops, and art therapy. Teens Talk about Grief Young adults who have experienced loss meet to talk about their feelings and experiences.
DVD’S DEALING WITH DEATH Castle Works Productions, 2000, 30 minutes
Presents a conversation with teenagers about grief, in which they discuss how they have used art, sports, support groups, volunteer work, and prayer to help them cope with death and/or serious illness.
TEENS DEALING WITH DEATH Film Media Group, 2006, 30 minutes
Meet teens who have come together to share their grief over someone they’ve lost. Stories range from suicide, to sudden death to terminal illness.
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Death of a Friend REMBERING RAQUEL
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By Vivian Vande Velde Orlando, FL: Harcourt, 2007, 137 p.
After Raquel is killed in a car accident, her fellow classmates, friends, and family members, as well as the woman responsible for her death, reflect on Raquel’s life and how her passing has changed their own lives.
VICKY ANGEL By Jacqueline Wilson
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New York: Yearling, 2001, 171 p.
After her lifelong best friend Vicky dies, Jade struggles with grief, guilt, and the domineering personality of Vicky’s ghost.
Gang-Related Deaths AUTOBIOGRAPHY OF MY DEAD BROTHER By Walter Dean Myers New York: Harper Tempest, 2005, 212 p.
Jesse pours his heart and soul into is sketchbook to make sense of life in his troubled Harlem neighborhood and the loss of a close friend.
DRIVE-BY By Lynne Ewing New York: HarperTrophy, 1996, 85 p.
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12 year old Tito struggles to find his own way during the aftermath of his brother’s gang-related death.
ROOFTOP By Paul Volponi New York: Viking, 2006, 199 p.
Still reeling from seeing police shoot his unarmed cousin to death on the roof of a New York City housing project, 17 year old Clay is dragged into the whirlwind of the police investigation that follows this tragedy.
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PERFECT By Natasha Friend Minneapolis, MN: Milkweed Editions, 2004, 172 p.
AFTER YOU LOSE SOMEONE YOU LOVE: ADVISE AND INSIGHT FROM THE DIARIES OF THREE KIDS WHO’VE BEEN THERE (OUR DAD DIED—Alternate title)
Following the death of her father, a 13 year old uses bulimia as a way to avoid her mother’s and sister’s grief, as well as her own.
HARD HIT By Ann Warren Turner
By Amy, Allie and David Dennison Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit, 2005, 113 p.
Presents a journal of three children who recorded their feelings and emotions following the death of their father, and offers guidance for others who have also suffered a loss.
New York: Scholastic Press, 2006, 167 p.
A rising high school baseball star faces his most difficult challenge when his father is diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
BLIND FAITH By Ellen Wittlinger
CHICKEN SOUP SERIES: By Jack Canfield and others Deerfield, FL, Health Communications
CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE PRETEEN SOUL 2: STORIES ABOUT FACING CHALLENGES, REAL IZING DREAMS AND MAKING A DIFFERENCE (2004, 404 p.) More than 100 stories, poems, and other writings presented to inspire and comfort children ages 9-13.
CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE TEENAGE SOUL: THE REAL DEAL: SCHOOL: CLIQUES, CLASSES, CLUBS, AND MORE ( 2005, 292 p.) Presents inspiring essays and lessons to teens, about school, and friendships.
CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE TEENAGE SOUL JOURNAL ( 1998, 340 p.) A journal for teenagers featuring cartoons, quotations, stories, and prompts designed to help teens write about their feelings and experiences.
New York: Simon Pulse, 2006 , 280 p.
While coping with her grandmother’s sudden death and her mother’s depression and fascination with a spiritualist church, 15 year old Liz finds herself falling for a new neighbor whose mother is dying of cancer.
JULIA’S KITCHEN By Brenda A. Ferber New York: Farrar, Straus, Giroux, 2005, 151 p.
When her mother and younger sister are killed in a house fire, 11 year old Cara struggles to find a way to deal with her emotions and reach out to her grieving father.
ECHO By Kate Morgenroth New York: Simon & Schuster, 2007, 137 p.
After Justin witnesses his brother’s accidental shooting death, he must live with the repercussions, as the same horrific day seems to happen over and over.
DEAR ZOE By Philip Beard New York: Plume, 2006, 196 p.
In an attempt to work through her guilt and grief, 15 year old Tess DeNunzio writes letters to her 3-year old half-sister, Zoe, who was killed by a car while Tess was responsible for watching her. 4
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Fiction Death of a Family Member
CHICKEN SOUP FOR TEENAGE SOUL ON TOUGH STUFF: STORIES OF TOUGH TIMES AND LESSONS LEARNED (2001, 343 p.) Short inspirational stories, focusing on difficult issues such as drugs, alcohol, suicide, abuse, death and dying, and others.
BABY BLUE By Michelled D. Kwasney New York: Henry Holt and Co., 2004, 202 p.
Still grieving the death of her father, 12 year old Blue must deal with her stepfather’s violence against her mother.
CURES FOR HEATBREAK By Margo Rabb
CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE TEENAGE SOUL LETTERS: LETTERS OF LIFE, LOVE AND LEARNING (2001, 325 p.) Letters written by teens who share their feelings about the stories they read in the “Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul” series of books.
New York: Delacorte, 2007, 238 p.
As she navigates adolescence, ninth-grader Mia must deal with her mother’s recent death and her father’s illness while she searches for friendship and love in the world around her.
CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE GRIEVING SOUL: STORIES ABOUT LIFE, DEATH AND OVERCOMING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE ( 2003, 275 p.)
SOMEWHERE BETWEEN LIFE AND DEATH
Inspirational stories designed to offer comfort and peace to people who are grieving the loss of a loved one.
By Lurlene McDaniel New York: Laurel Leaf Books, 1990, 145 p.
Amy has a horrible accident and ends up in a coma. Erin prays for her, but Amy cannot be brought back and dies. Can her death bring hope to someone else?
TIME TO LET GO By Lurlene McDaniel
AFTER SUICIDE: LIVING WITH THE QUESTIONS By Eileen Kuehn Mankato, MN LifeMatters, 2001, 64 p.
Defines suicide and its effects on teen survivors of someone who dies by suicide. Describes the “who” and “why” of suicide, the stages of grieving, and ways to cope and heal, and help someone who experiences a person’s suicide.
New York, Laurel Leaf Books, 1990, 162 p.
Just after the death of her younger sister one year ago, Erin began experiencing painful headaches. She is seeing a therapist, but somehow she knows the headaches are triggered by a boy she knows.
THE END OF FOREVER: two novels By Lurlene McDaniel New York: Laurel Leaf Books, 2007,
Two novels: “Somewhere between Life and Death and “Time to Let Go” are included in this volume. See above for description of each novel.
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“I still miss those I loved who are no longer
with me, but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss.” Rita Mae Brown WHEN A FRIEND DIES p. 104
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GRIEF GIRL: MY TRUE STORY By Erin Vincent New York: Delacorte Press, 2007, 306 p.
The author describes the dramatic stages of grief she experienced at the age of 14 as well as the grief of her sister, age 17, and brother, age 3, after both her parents were killed in a car accident.
COPING WITH THE DEATH OF A BROTHER OR SISTER By Ruth Ann Ruiz New York: Rosen Publishing, 2001, 121 p.
Offers advice to help teens deal with death of a sibling and shares stories of teens who have lost a sibling. Included is a list of places to contact for help in handling grief.
WHEN A FRIEND DIES: A BOOK FOR TEENS ABOUT GRIEVING & HEALING By Marilyn E. Gootman Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit, 2005, 1994, 118 p.
A small but mighty book which provides support and practical guidance for those grieving the death of a friend. Discusses the range of feelings one can experience, and suggests ways on how to handle them. Topics include: whether it is wrong to have fun, what to do if friends start acting strangely, and how to find a counselor or therapist. Includes comments from teens and a directory of further resources.
FACING CHANGE: FALLING APART AND COMING TOGETHER AGAIN IN THE TEEN YEARS, A BOOK ABOUT LOSS AND CHANGE FOR TEENS By Donna R. O’Toole Burnsville, N.C.: Compassion Press, 1995, Revised, 2007.
A book to help young adults understand the emotional, social, physical, cognitive and spiritual impact of loss and change.
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE: TEENS TALK ABOUT LIFE AFTER THE LOSS OF A PARENT By Lynne Hughes New York: Scholastic Press, 2005, 192 p.
Offers practical advice for teens who have lost one or both of their parents in death, and describes from the author’s experiences how to move through the grieving process.
THE GRIEVING TEEN: A GUIDE FOR TEENAGERS AND THEIR FRIENDS By Helen Fitzgerald New York: Fireside, 2000, 222 p.
Addresses the special needs of teenagers trying to deal with loss, and gives them tools to help them work through their pain and grief. HEALING YOUR GRIEVING HEART FOR TEENS: 100 PRACTICAL IDEAS By Alan D. Wolfelt Fort Collins, CO: Compassion Press, 2001, 100 p.
Explains the basic principles of grief and mourning, and features practical ideas adults can use to help themselves deal with the loss a loved one.
THE SEVEN T’S: FINDING HOPE AND HEALING IN THE WAKE OF TRAGEDY By Judy Collins New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 2007, 162 p.
Judy Collins shares seven powerful steps that can help people find comfort and hope in the aftermath of tragedy and loss.
PART OF ME DIED, TOO: STORES OF CREATIVE SURVIVAL AMONG BEREAVED CHILDREN AND TEENAGERS By Virginia Lynn Fry New York: Dutton, 1995, 218 p.
11 true stories about young people experiencing the loss of family members and/or friends and how art therapy helped them express and overcome their grief. 7
